My wife doesnt like sex but she is my best friend.She told me that she thinks she doesnt love me but we both think that we are very good together and we will be ruining our lives if we go for divorce. She does sex like a house chore and never enjoys it and never lets me try different things.She masturbates and seems normal but not sure wats wrong when it comes to sex.We are very good friends but she is not able to decide if she is ready to compromise on this forever or not.I am ok even if she doesnt enjoy it because ofcourse I cant live without it though i am ready to compromise over few things too.I am not sure what to do.Ours was an arranged marriage but we had a courtship of 4 months but never had sex before.Pls help.
2007-12-27 17:02:20 · 5 answers · asked by deep 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See if you can arrange to trade her in for a more sportier model...
2007-12-27 17:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I first got married I was some what like that . It was because I was really depressed about why I got married. But I learned to live with the decision I made. Then I hit a point were I thought. Man this is no fun! Something snapped in me. I started realizing that it wasn't right for him to be the only one happy. SO I dove in shoes and all. Now I'm sexually hyper! I do and try so many different things I never thought I'd do. It's lots of fun! Only problem is my husband can't keep up with me.He runs but I'll catch. He can't run forever! May be your wife just needs time to realize what I realized. Make her feel sexy. boost her confidant's. Tell her how u feel about her sexually and what u want to do with her when the to of u are alone. Hint, hint, wink, wink . U may find u have a wild women wanting to come out .My Hubie did! Now I knock his shocks off . I going to Conner him in the bedroom.He' ll have no were to go.jk! He's always to busy for me .But like I said I'll catch him! LOLjk ! As for me the tables have turned. Sad .: (
2007-12-28 02:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My woman of 8 yrs left me for a younger guy,she said she didn't love me.We are still good friends! The way I look at it,she's not a bad person because she doesn't love you.We can't make someone love us.It hurts like heck[I know] but do you really want to be with someone that doesn't love you? The bottom line is,if your both,not happy,then why be unhappy together.Heres what you should try-one of you go and stay with a friend or relative for 2 wks. No contact with one another.When your apart,either she will realize that she really does love you,or not.
To me anyways,the main thing in life is to be happy!
2007-12-28 01:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing both of you could do is get a divorce. the worst thing is staying in a marriage where neither one of you is happy. sex isn't something a married couple should compromise on. people compromise on what to paint the kitchen, or the bedroom, but not sex. do you both a favor and divorce, then find someone that will make you happy in all areas of your life.
2007-12-28 01:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting marriage counseling. It will help you two to sort out the problems that causes her not to enjoy sex.
2007-12-28 01:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋