my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now. i don't know if it's too early to tell him i love him, because i haven't yet. but i do. .. i guess what im afraid of is if he doesnt say it back to me.. or something. i dont know if he'll like flip out and get weird or something..
is it even a big deal?
or should i wait for him to say it first?
hm a lot to think about for me. help me please?!
2007-12-27 16:12:09 · 30 answers · asked by Ang! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have only used those words in 2 relationships in my life. one ethat lasted 6 years and my current one. In both relationships the guy told me he loved me 1st. In the 1st, i'm not sure how sincere it was because we were barely dating, but in the 2nd one, it was early one in the relationship, like only a few months but i felt it was truly from the heart.
There is no time on when you should let your significant other how you truly feel about him. I guess it is whenever you are ready, and are sure that what you feel for him isn't lust or just a phase.
If you truly love him, you should tell him. For all you know he could be just as scared to express those words to you. Ater a year, i think your feelings for each other should be clear. If his heart isn't into to you 100% at this point, i would be a little weary about what direction the relationship is going in, if it is at a stand still, the end of the road, etc.
Sooner or later you will want to know where his feeling are and i'm sure, if he is into you as much as you are him, he will want to know the same. So just go for it. Tell him.
Dont turn love into a guessing game, especially when you believe it to be the real deal.
2007-12-27 16:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by Real Talk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have been together for a year, he obviously has a lot of feelings for you, so next time you two have a quiet moment or something, just tell him. He might be holding off on saying it cause he has the same fear of rejection as you do. And if he doesnt say it back, it's ok, he'll say it when he's ready. It doesn't mean he likes you any less.
2007-12-27 16:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by Catty_lac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isnt love Your youthful and naive if your thinking your emotions for one. sixteen on 17, i dont think of your mature ebough to guard relationships. if your clever, you will stay faraway from boys till you could quite understand what being fauthful is and meet that ome persom at a time once you wouldnt cheat on them.and concentration on college and your self and not on boys. in case you arent clever, which i dont think of you're because of the fact your an adolescent, you in basic terms save going out with giys and having stupid relationsips for exciting that dont final. Im no longer saying youngsters shouldnt date, because of the fact i'm a teenager.yet they should if theyre in charge which your no longer.in the event that they understand the thank you to understand peoples emotions and not cheat. because of the fact that youngsters by no ability pay attention, reason i'm ome,im guesaing your gonna breakup with him ans decide for the different and the then the subsequent that catches your fancy yet dont love. Love is once you care and your gonna be there. no longer once you rhink theyre stunning and warm THATS no longer Love Your no longer in loce honey, your merely finding at seems
2016-12-18 09:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year already? OMG!!! What r/u waiting on. If you love him tell him and tell him often. He obviously loves you to or he wouldn't have stayed for a year. Maybe he's just waiting to hear it from you 1st before he commits to telling you the same. No time like the present because we don't know what tomorrow has in store for us. Let him know now.
2007-12-27 16:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get some idea of how he feels. If he's pretty affectionate he might be feeling the same way. You could always just go for it and tell him. If he doesn't respond right away say, "Don't say it back until you're ready. I just wanted you to know." Then it shouldn't freak him out too much.
2007-12-27 16:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Marci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U must say it and fast or some other girl will beat u at it and u will loose the love of your life. This has happened many times, where a girl or boy looses to a late competitor due to lack of communication. The more u delay the more u loose.
2007-12-27 16:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you know for sure (by his actions) that he loves you back. It hurts to tell someone that you love them & they dont feel the same way. I know from experience. Just sit back and observe for now, in the end you'll find your answer & might not even think twice when telling him you love him.
2007-12-27 16:18:03 · answer #7 · answered by DD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some guys a long time. Just blurt it out. If you do and he does the same, then you will know. If he acts like the singer, Meat loaf...... that says." let me sleep on it.... I will give you the answer in the morning, " Then pack your bags as the year was a waste!
2007-12-27 16:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dilly-dally here. It could be that your boyfriend is thinking the exact same thing. You've been going together for a year now, so maybe it's time to make your feelings known.
2007-12-27 16:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by Richard B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u really feel it then u should say, but not until u r completely sure b/c u cant take it back. if he flips out and u find out he doesnt feel the same way step back and look at ur relationship. is that wut u really want: a relationship where he doesnt feel for u the same way u feel for him.
if u feel it now dont wait...tell him
2007-12-27 16:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ambellina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋