Mom knows best. Or does she?

Question

When I graduate from college, I'd like to move to a big city in Italy (Rome or Florence) and work.

I am from a small town with one of the smallest crime rates in the nation. My mom is really worried because I will only be 22 when I move. She thinks that it would be dangerous for a young girl like me to move to a big foreign city all alone. (Its like shes afraid I'll get raped or something...) Is the world outside of my small hometown really that dangerous? I am just naive? Please help!

(I am pretty close to fluent in Italian, and I've traveled to Italy a few times, so dont give me that "Life isnt like 'Under the tuscan sun'" and "you dont know what youre getting into" crap. Im pretty independant...)

Answer 1

Moms want to keep you safe. My mom wanted me to stay in a part-time gov't job instead of moving to Japan, because I'd be closer to home, and everyone knows a government job is really secure and has good bennies.

But, I took a teaching job with the JET program, and wound up here for the last 15 plus years. I have no regrets at all!

I'd say, take your adventures while you are young. Take some precautions (like not wandering out on the streets at midnight alone), and check with your new friends about what's dangerous and what's not.

Write or call Mom at least once a week. Make sure you know how you are going to support yourself when you get there (ie: get a job before you go). (-: And be sure to get out to the Tuscan sun on weekends!

People can get murdered, raped or tortured even in small-town-whereever, so that's not really an argument. The bigger the risk you take, the bigger the potential rewards.

So, do your best to ease your mom's fears, but grab this chance! Even if it turns out completely lousy, it will still teach you something. But I have a feeling it'll be a great interlude that you can always look back on when you are older.

(P.S. Nobody EVER knows what they are going to get into. They might think they are getting this nice, safe little life, and then fate sends them a screwball. So, you're right. That argument is crap, too. But do have a safety net and a plan and a back-up plan. Then you should be fine.)

Answer 2

Mom's who truly love their daughters are always a little overprotective. I should know, I'm the mother of a 23 year old (my avitar looks young for it's age, ha ha!).

Here's my advice. DO IT! But first, research everthing you can about protecting yourself from crime and take a self-defense class (you owe this to your very loving mother and yourself), find out what the crime rate is where you would be moving (specific to the neighborhood). Also, if you can, talk to other people who've done the same type of thing, those who know you personally rather than just Yahoo Answers. I think if you really do your research well, you should be OK. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well your mom needs to wake up cause i am from a small town and believe me things happen there and it just didn't end up in the paper and you know what it was rape to 16 girls over a three year period.
You want to spread your wings and fly than do it go for it cause with out trying you can't find out until you try.
I think if you have your eyes open and understand what you are up against you will be fine.
And also when you go out always let someone know and travel in groups NEVER tell anyone you are alone.
I believe you will be fine.
Hope this babble helps you.

Answer 4

Well if you don't take this risk, then how can you go on in life?She THINKS your gunna get raped she doesnt know this. People dont only get raped in big cities, I say move to the city =D

Answer 5

be smart and take chance life is struggle and you must fight and face challenges.