my sister is having it?

Question

my sister is havin sex and her and her boyfriend did it in my moms room i saw her boyfriends *** and everythin should i be a snitch and tell my mom or just let her learn her lesson and she gets pregant and am a year yonger than my sister and am the one setting an example my sister is 15 but my mom has so much stress goin on in her life lye she comes home really late from work and i dont want her 2 stress even more what should i do

Answer 1

Yes, you should probably tell. It will be more stressful on your mom if your sister ends up pregnant. Howerver, try talking to your sis first, and tell her how it bothers you. If it doesnt work, tell your mom.

Good luck :)

Answer 2

Sit down with your sister and have a serious conversation with her. Tell her how you feel, and that you're concerned about her. Explain to her that you don't want to tell you're mom, but if it's in her best interest you might have to. If you think telling your mom at the moment with all the stress going on is they're another person you could talk to? If you go to the same school why not set up an appointment with your counselor and your sister and see if you can come to a good conclusion, and if all else fails. Buy your sister some condoms, and tell her to be more careful!!

Answer 3

I think you should talk to your sister about what you saw & explain to her if she doesn't discuss this with your mother (having sex at a young age, being safe, birth control ect.) then you will tell your mom for her. There is nothing wrong with being a snitch when we are talking about something as serious as teenage pregnancy. If she isn't mature enough to talk to you & your mother about it, then she isn't mature enough to be having sex. Period! I understand your need to not want to stress your mom, but honestly hunny think about how stressed she would/will be with a pregant teenage daughter!
Take care of the issues now, don't wait until something happens.

Good luck.

Answer 4

No you should tell. For two reasons. One is that they disrespected your mother totally by using her room. The other thing is if your sis is not on birth control and using a condom and she DID get pregnant.. wow that would be a lot more stress than she has now. Plus an innocent baby brought into it. Normally I would say stay out of it, but given the circumstances, you have to tell it.

Answer 5

Talk to your sister about it. Make sure she is aware of all circumstances, and how she should protect herself while having sex. Also, try to drop the hint that she's too young for sex without forcing the fact onto her, or else she won't even hear you out. I wouldn't suggest telling your mother for two reasons. One being that she obviously would over-react and not handle it properly if she's already under such stress. And two, your sister's trust in you would be ruined.

Answer 6

Please think carefully before you put your sister offside with you and before you burden your Mother. You can't undo what she has done... she is a stupid twit to do that at all at her age and more than that, she is disrespecting your Mother in her behaviour.

Take her aside sometime and tell her you are aware of her behaviour and that you feel concerned for her and your Mom. Tell her that she needs to get some advice about her sexual conduct and to be sure that she gets good advice for prevention of venereal disease and pregnancy.

But at this time, don't burden your mother. Is there a Dad in the picture or an aunt who could be trusted to talk to her and not to blow it up worse than it is? This is another avenue.

Best wishes and stay upright in all your dealings.

Lisa

Answer 7

Later after your sisters boyfriend leaves, sit down and have a heart to heart conversation with her and tell her what you are telling us. Let her know how you feel but don't be angry. Be nice and comforting and let her know what she is doing is wrong for her age and you are uncomfortable with her actions. Ooh and don't be a snitch unless you think she is going to hurt herself. I would tell your mom. She would want to know. You just might save your sister from making the biggest mistake of her life.

Answer 8

Put yourself in Mom's place. Would you want to know your 15 year old is having sex?

If your sister get pregnant what will that do to the finances? Do you want to end up the diaper changer and babysitter for her kid?

If you have a minister or counselor friend you could speak to them. Perhap they can help with Mom.

Answer 9

i under stand that ur worried but if your sister dose keep on this track she could end up in a very bad place (crowed) she could get pragant , she could get std's your mother needs to know so she can prevent this even with all the stress she is under shes sti,ll a mom and she still want to protect her kids no matter what . if you tell her your sister will probably b mad at you for awhile but after she grows and relizes what u'v done for her shell under stand ,

Answer 10

If your sister is being irresponsible you should talk to her first about it. If you think there will be a bad reaction from talking to her, maybe you should talk to your mum as seeing his .... is not helping you out and even making you uncomfortable. But if you think it is a jealousy thing on your side then maybe just forget the whole thing. Sometimes you have to let them learn these things for themselves unfortunately