Ok so my boyfriend says he loves me but I don't know if he means it. I mean, how can you tell if a guy means it when he says those 3 words? I just want to know if he is telling me the truth. Just can anyone give me an example of showing love? I mean i just don't know if he truly means it. And it kinda scares me if he leaves me and i don't know if he really meant it when he said I Love You. And please no mean advice.
2007-12-27 14:17:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its an innocent question that so many are curious about... but really.. the answer is simple. If you question it or doubt it, then its probably not love. If its real, true love.. then you feel it. You'd feel it before he even said it... and you'd feel it even if he didn't say it.
dont feel pressured to say it back unless you mean it. Hurting a mans feelings by not returning an "i love you" is MUCH better than saying it when you dont mean it.
2007-12-27 14:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always been told, actions speak louder than words, and i'm starting to believe that!
Does he make you feel loved?
Does he act the same with you in front of others as he does in private?
Does he respect how you feel about things and not push you to do things you don't want to do?
There are so many ways you can tell. The way I always look at it is this...Figure out how YOU show love and see if he does the same things or at least a little like you and go from there..guys and girls aren't THAT different in the end.
Good Luck!
2007-12-27 22:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't anyone here who can give you a good example of love - it's different for everybody. You feel it, you taste it, you touch it. It's in a smile, a thought, a gesture. It's what you know to be real. It may depend on a long relationship or just the shaking of hands of someone you just met. You need to realize that at some point you may get hurt - question you need to answer is whether you are willing to take the chance to find out.
2007-12-27 22:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Simple but true. Also, love really takes time, you have to get to know someone in many different situations to watch for warning signs.
How does he treat you? Is he respectful, values your opinion and is caring and honest? How does he treat others? How does his dad interact with his mom? (good indicator how the son will treat a gf or wife).
Keep your eyes open and don't fool yourself, be honest with what you see and experience.
2007-12-27 22:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend may very well believe that he loves you. And he may indeed love you. The "proof" is in his actions and his attitude. Does he talk to you nicely? Does he compliment you? Does he encourage you? Does he make time for you? Does he forgive you? Does he honor you? Does he defend you? Does he make you smile? Does he make time to be with you? Does he listen to you? Does he appreciate you? All these questions should be EASILY answered with a yes if he really does love you.
2007-12-27 22:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Sherri B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to look at how long you guys have been together. is the relationship primarily a good relationship. does he call you often and want to spend time with. do you get that warm tingling feeling from him when you guys are near.do you get the feeling that he only wants to be with you and only you. if you say yes to these things there is a good indication that he loves you. however, love is something that cannot really be defined, its a feeling you have from someone.
2007-12-27 22:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by librastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be dangerous for anyone to give you advice on such vague information. What is he like? What kind of a relationship you all have? What does he do or not? Be careful how you are going to take advice. People are going to just be guessing. When you have specifics ask your question on those. Peace
2007-12-27 22:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by highthoughts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not about what a person says, anyone can say I love you. Its about how they treat you. Are they respectful, caring considerate? The true test of a persons words are in their actions.
2007-12-27 22:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he looks you in the eye, holds ur hand, kisses you, says that he thinks about you. like its kinda the way he says the "3 words", if its slow and romantic, its for sure the truth. if he just says it cuz you said it, or just cuz. then you really dont know.
2007-12-27 22:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to how you feel about you when you are with him. If you feel good about yourself when you are with him, then keep going...it's wonderful. If you start to feel bad about yourself when you are with him...then move on, the relationship is toxic. Good luck, and God bless.
2007-12-27 22:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by branchcaptain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋