Why is it THESE DAYS the young girls think it's a PROUD THING TO BE PREGNANT OUT OF WEDLOCK??

Question

I'm not some OLD COOT. I'm a young guy and I see so many GOOD LOOKIN GIRLS get involved with THE LOSER TYPES and walk around with THAT GUYS KID(S) like they're so proud. They don't even marry them. Sometimes it's kids by 2-3 different LOSERS. WHAT GIVES???

Answer 1

I got pregnant and had my child out of wedlock. It did not bother me at all. I never even once thought oh my god i'm not married and i have a child. Never did.

We did not get married until 2 years ago but we have been together for 13 years. We already felt like we were married. The reason why we did get married was for legal reasons, things such as property, wills, and so on.
Before we were married i could not even sign him in to the er.
Now i can. That is the only thing that has changed, wait plus a ring and paper... That is all. We were already commited to one another before we said the "I do's".

Why do guys think they are hot stuff for bedding so many girls without being married?
Do you also believe that sex before marriage is wrong? If you do then how can you be against children born out of wedlock?

Answer 2

Things like this go in a cycle. Many of those girls probably either grew up in households with absent fathers or distant fathers. If you grew up a certain way it seems normal to you.

There's also the fact that our society has become much more accepting of single mothers. It's not like the 1950's where they shipped the "bad girls" off to Aunt Rose's house to hide their shame. Nowadays it's not considered shameful, but a fact of life.

I don't think these girls should be punished or treated badly, but I think they should try to understand why some people disaaprove and try to set a good example for other young girls. I have a good friend who got pregnant and had her first child at 19. She's now happily married with another child on the way. She has a Bachelor's degree and is a generally great person, but she would NEVER tell you that having a child out of wedlock while still a teenager was a good idea. She goes out of her way to tell her youngers sisters and friends to be careful and not get into her situation. She tells them how hard it was and how ashamed she was...

And as for the 3 or 4 children by different men... well, that's a different thing altogether. Those girls are just ignorant and trashy. Getting pregnant ONCE by accident out of wedlock is one thing, that can be considered a youthful mistake or indiscretion... getting pregnant MULTIPLE times by DIFFERENT men is just a sign of a lack of morals.

Answer 3

The girl sometimes really thinks that he loves her. Apparently when she gets pregnant that is when the truth comes out. Kids by 2-3 losers I am not sure of, I couldn't do it, i have been married for 5 1/2 yrs. I think that the issue of using protection when having sex and the consequences are not spoken of so many people don't worry about what will happen, they are just in the heat of the moment. I think now and days parents just don't give their children enough information about sex, or simply are too busy to care. (No I am not saying all are that way).

Answer 4

Everyone is different. I'm sure there are some girls (young women) that do it for stupid reasons like attention or they think it makes them more grown up. But its not all about looks or loser guys. What you might think makes him a loser she might think makes him great. maybe some of them love the guy and are glad it happened to them. And who wouldn't be proud to have a beautiful healthy baby? And as far as the wedlock thing goes... not many people young or old are getting married these days!

Answer 5

I hear ya! My sister got pregnant 4 different times by 4 different guys (only 2 babies survived though.) I am 24 and I truly believed God had a good reason for instructing men and women to marry. It is so important for children to have both a mother and a father. Kids need to see how a marriage works, the give and take, and all the things that go with marriage. Not to mention finances...

Answer 6

I agree! I had a hard time getting pregnant. I waited til we were married for 2 years before trying. When I would see these girls knocked up not married and has kids by 2 or 3 different guys,I would ask god "why?" what logic is in giving these girls babies that they have know idea how to care for because their babies themselves! I don't think they have anything to be proud of.

Answer 7

you know you are the type of person i really wish i could smack. not all teens whom have children out of wedlock think its cool or are even proud but i myself as a parent am very proud of my children they are smart they get good grades and listen. i wasn't a teen out of wedlock i was married when i had my first, but now am divorced two years later and pregnant with another child and you know what it wasn't a smart move to get married this time around. i love the man h'm with but i wont ever get married again.

Answer 8

It's not so much being proud, but a way of security. If it doesn't help them get their man, because they have no confidence in themselves, it's a way of making money through the govt. Some women/girls have more than one just so they can collect more money a month, As long as the govt continues to do this, insecure women/girls will continue to do it as well.

Answer 9

IT'S A PROUD THING TO BE A MOTHER. HAVE A BUNCH OF DIFFERENT FATHERS FOR YOUR CHILDREN ISN'T THE BEST ENVIRONMENT YOU SHOULD HAVE CHILDREN WITH A GOOD PERSON WHO MAKES AND EFFORT TO BE IN YOUR CHILD'S LIFE.

IF YOU HAVE 2-3 DIFFERENT BABY DADDY'S MAYBE YOU NEED TO LOOK AT YOURSELF AND SEE WHY YOU ARE REALLY PICKING LOSERS.

Answer 10

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