My Gpa is forcing me to share his bed. He has 3 open bedrooms. Is there a legality that can save me from this?

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My grandpa has been kindof picky about the fact that he wants me to sleep in the same room as him. We share a bed and everything. personally i think this is wrong, but my problem is that he is a minister and he means no harm in this, but he is the most stuborn person in the whole world. i am needing to know if there is any legalities that could save me from this rampage he is on. there are three other bedrooms in this house. they are usually unocupied. i am verry concered that if i cant convince him soon to give me my own room, my friends are going to take action for me and call the cops. can anyone help me?

P.S. i am 16 if that makes a difference

My grandpa has been kindof picky about the fact that he wants me to sleep in the same room as him. We share a bed and everything. personally i think this is wrong, but my problem is that he is a minister and he means no harm in this, but he is the most stuborn person in the whole world. i am needing to know if there is any legalities that could save me from this rampage he is on. there are three other bedrooms in this house. they are usually unocupied. i am verry concered that if i cant convince him soon to give me my own room, my friends are going to take action for me and call the cops. can anyone help me?

P.S. i am 16 if that makes a difference

Edit: i am looking at some of your answers and one thing i have with leaving is there is only 2 places for me to go... and that is either my gf or my best friend's(F)...none of their parents would let me move in... and i just needed to know if there was any legalities i could show hiw to prove to him that he needs to give me my own room

Edit 2: this has been going on for a year and a half now... i moved in with him at the beginning of my sophmore year...

and also... to answer anyone who is wondering... i cannot move in with my gf or best friend cause they r both 18... i am 16 and they would get in trouble with either of their parrents.

Answer 1

uh...its a free and democratic country, so he has no rights to make decisions for u. Tell him u move alot on ur bed and u wldnt want to kick him or that u pee on ur bed, or what u do is on the first 3 days, start screaming in the middle of the night and have random spaz attacks so he can think u r weird, and let u have ur own room, or just be honest with him and tell him y u dont want to be in the same room has him

Answer 2

For goodness sake, if this is true, whether you are 16 or 60 this answer would apply.

Are you saying that because he is a Minister he would not do anything inappropriate. Where have you been the last few years. Ministers, Priests etc. are high up on the list of molesters.

You are 16, you are old enough to make good, strong decisions about your own life. Make a good decision here.
Get out of that house, go anywhere but there, and keep away from your Grandfather, he is mentally disturbed.

If you do not make this decision on your own, you are going to find that somebody else will complain, and you could be in for a lot of embarrassment and hurt and by hurt I mean it could mess up the rest of your life.

Get out of there and report this man. Blood does not give anybody permission to abuse another blood relative.

Answer 3

This is wrong! You grandfather should know better. I would report this right away! You have to ask yourself 'Why do he insist that I sleep with him?' I assume that this has not been going on for long, and the longer you are in this situation then the higher the chance that this could turn into something more sinister.....minister or not. You could try calling the Department of Community Services, who are supposed to look after minors in danger.

Here's some advice from their website:

how do I report suspected abuse or neglect?

Anyone who suspects, on reasonable grounds, that a child or young person is at risk of being neglected or physically, sexually or emotionally abused, should report it to DoCS.

Reasonable grounds is the standard that reporters must use in deciding whether or not to report to the Department of Community Services.

It does not mean that reporters are required to confirm their suspicions or provide solid proof before making a report. A useful rule of thumb is to consider whether another person, when faced with similar information, would also draw the same conclusion.

You can make a report by phoning the DoCS Helpline on 132 111 (TTY 1800 212 936) for the cost of a local call, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
what will DoCS do?

By law DoCS must assess reports where a child or young person is or may be at risk of harm from abuse or neglect. When you report to us, our staff will ask you questions to help them find out about the risk of harm to the child or children involved.

What happens next depends on the information received by DoCS. The matter might be closed as no risk of harm is indicated or we may ask a DoCS Community Services Centre to make further assessment. Sometimes the child and family is visited immediately because the information indicates the child is in immediate danger.

We may need to talk to other people to find out about the family’s circumstances. For example, we might contact the child’s teacher, child care worker or relatives. The law allows DoCS to exchange information that relates to the safety, welfare or wellbeing of a child or young person with a range of agencies, including NSW Police, NSW Health or the Department of Education.

If the child or young person is at risk of harm, we try to work with the family, other agencies and professionals to make sure they are safe. If we think a child is in immediate danger, we will move them to a safe place. We involve the child or young person and their family as much as possible in decisions that affect them.

End of info

I hope you can get this sorted quickly. God bless you!

Answer 4

I know several preachers (an ex-husband included) who was a child molester. This man is absolutely abusing you. At sixteen years of age, you have absolutely no reason to share a room, much less a bed, with this man. If you will contact Child Protective Services, they will help you. Is there nowhere else you can live? You must be miserable. I have a friend who's sister is 22 and she has special needs. She reported her father (another preacher) for "touching" her and she was removed from the home and placed in one where she will be loved, cared for and RESPECTED!!!!!
You will not be able to convince him; he's doing this for his own pleasure and obviously doesn't care that he is damaging you. Get out there and help help right away. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

You should immediately tell a teacher, counselor or social worker at school. They should call Child Protective Services on your behalf. If they do not, call this agency yourself. Every state has one, but it may be under a different name. Look under government services in the telephone book. Or ask a police officer. They are familiar with this. Forget about your grandfather being a minister. This is not normal. It is wrong. You need to protect yourself right now.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

THIS IS WRONG? Your grandpa, the adult, should know that a 16yr old is capable of sleeping on their own. Child molesters are conniving and will make their prey feel like they are doing something wrong. When in actuality, it is the molester who is wrong. Get yourself out of there ASAP!

Answer 8

Yes there is a law .. this could be classed as incest, minister or no minister, this could be classed as abuse and he could lose all respect and support from the church.

Good luck hun xx

Answer 9

Run to someone you can trust as fast as you can. I don't care if he is the Pope, he has no right to have you sleep in his room, let lone his bed. I wouldn't even trust him if I slept in another room, under the same roof. Please don't give in to this sick individual (grandfather or not, do not trust him).