she has hurt my feeling seens the day she could no more hurt me physically...i have two scars in my face that she did to me when i was younger...now that im 16 and she cannot hit me anymore she hurts me with words...i just had a fight with her...we were watching this program of fat kids and i just said well good thing im not one of those kids i weight 6 stone and im happy with it...and she said...you ugly thin or fat it doesnt matter...and you worth nothing you never will its not point for you to go to college anymore you will no gain nothing out of college...i can predict your future and you know where would it be..in the fuc king streets you dont have any other choice...this time she has realy hurt me...and now im extremily depressed im starting to think of killing my self i have done it twice and didnt suceed hope this time i do....i cant take it anymore and i have no one in this fu cking life that loves me or cares about me...what can i do???help....
2007-12-27 13:09:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i sometimes tell her that her words hurt me and she just tells me that im being too dramatic and over reacting...
2007-12-27 13:10:23 · update #1
the thing is that i dont have anyone i have a brother who does not live in the same country as me...i only have my mother as my family....and im scared of moving out i been trying to find a job for the last 3 months and i cant find one, and im scared going to other strangers..
2007-12-27 13:22:34 · update #2
she sometimes is the nicest person you could ever know...but then she changes of personallity and starts to be nasty...if i tell her that she need help...she will tell me that the one that needs help is me because i get depressed and tries to commit suicide...
2007-12-27 13:29:52 · update #3
Honey please dont contemplate committing sucide!!! Many of times I have felt like that myself because of the way people put me down.. your mum has a lot of issue that she needs to sort out its not right and fare that she is putting you down like this all the time!! My mum too did this to me when I was young I i got to the point I couldn't take it anymore and lefted home. Please try and tell another adult or get some form of elp because you can't carry on living the way you are good luck babe i ope things work out for you...
2007-12-28 21:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by kinkyze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry your going through this. But what your mum is doing , is very wrong she seems to be very unhappy and unloved. She could have a mental illness. You should try talking about this to an adult your trust, maybe an aunt, someone you can trust and get some help for mum your because that is not normal.
Dont let you mum get you down, in the end of the day you may think yeas shes my mum and it does matter what she says of me. But no, it doesnt, shes not mentally there in the head. For now try and stay away from her, stay in your room, read a book listen to some music. You've done nothing wrong. If you dont trust your family members, go to your school they always have a councellor there, tell them whats going on, they are very good with confidentiality.
Everything is going to be ok. Talk to an adult you trust and dont be scared.
2007-12-27 21:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Giorgia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear all that. Don't you start thinking about killing yourself or anything like that.
Your mum has a problem, and not you, but you bear the brunt of it. If you were older I'd say get out, but at your age you need some help. I know you love your mum and there is nothing worse than to feel hate from your mother, but if this is happening she is going to hold you back in a big way.
If I were you I would speak to (uk?) social services to explain what is going on in your life. They won't interfere unless you ask them to, but they will be able to give help and support.
You need that. If it really is so bad, then they will possibly help you to move out, which you must realise will be a big step for you to take, but it's the rest of your life at steak.
Think well, understand your mum has the problem, not you, and try to decide if you can take it all with a pinch of salt, or if you would be better moving out. You have to be responsible to yourself here.
Best of luck.
(ps, don't go into that train of thought where you believe no one loves you or cares about you, just sort out yourself first and you will find some inner peace coming back)
2007-12-27 21:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is NOT a nice person!! She is now mentally abusing you. You are a good person and ARE worth something. You dont deserve this crap and she doesnt deserve you!!!!! Go to your doctor tell him everything and he will be able to put you in touch with someone who can help. Dont fall into the trap of wlking out and resorting to living on the streets. You are worth more than that and there is help out there, unfortunately you have to go and ask for it rather then it coming to you. But do go and find the help.
You are not ugly, it is your mom who is the ugly one! You can rise above and get out if this situation and become something your mother will never be and that is a sucessful and even more beautiful person than you already are. Find great satisfaction in proving your mother wrong and being someone despite the crap life she gave you!!!!!!!! Talk about it to someone who knows how to help.
2007-12-28 04:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by jodee1kenobi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh No Pls dnt do it! I have a niece a little younger than u and i have seen her sometimes sad and to hear u say ur considering to attempt to kill urself 4 the 3rd time fills me with sorrow :(.....i think u dnt really want to kill urself, otherwise u wouldnt have posted ur question......u need to be in an enviroment were u can strive and learn about the huge potential that is within all of us - within u!
U need to release ur anguish to others - some1 u trust on a one-on-one basis.....there u can have constant updating feedback, if that doesnt succeed there are ebsites that help and phone numbers u can call free of change that will give u options.
Never believe u dnt deserve a loving life - u can bet damn well that u do! dnt allow urself to be beaten - im sure ur made of tough stuff - trust in ur strength and resiliance, but I get help, which is available! PLEASE!
tc dear (ur in my thoughts - God Bess) salaam
2007-12-27 21:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please go talk to someone. Suicide is never the answer. Look at how many people you will hurt. Your mother included. some women aren't born to be mothers. They don't know how to show love and only know how to hurt. I know the words hurt and telling you to ignore it won't help. Talking to may help if you haven't tried it. If you have and this continues, maybe there is a Grandmother or aunt you can stay with for awhile until you and your mother can work things out.
My own mother committed suicide 8 years ago. She did to me what your mother is doing to you. No matter what she had done in the past, it hurt when she took her own life and we never resolved our issues. Try talking to her first.
And I do care about what happens to you. I will pray for you and worry about you. If you need to talk, please email me. I am a great listener and I understand what you are going through.
Take care of yourself.
Heather
2007-12-27 21:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by *♥♫Hedy♫♥* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is bitter and angry, whatever has made her like this is not your fault, she is taking out her anger on you, there must be someone you can confide in, there is help out there, the samaritans, your doctor, teacher, child line, you don't have to suffer, all you need is the courage to say enough and stop it, fear of not knowing what will happen to you, will be nothing compared to what you feel now. So please, as you have access to a computer, use it to investigate what help is out there and do something positive. People will care and will help you.
2007-12-27 21:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your mother have a few issues girl but it's not true you know you have people that care for you even people you've never met.It's always a stressful time of year Christmas but as they say things always look darkest before the dawn.Try this site it's got some useful advice and a few phone numbers for you...http://www.reachout.com.au/home.asp
Have a happier new year.
2007-12-27 21:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is awful!.... Your mother is the one with the problems, she must be suffering mentally to hurt you the way she does... I'd leave home the minute i could, get a job, make something of yourself, don't let her drag u down to her level... try to ignore her hurtful remarks, your worth far more than she has you think.
2007-12-27 21:17:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone about this hunny. Either an aunt, grandparents or someone at school. Even the family doctor could help. But remember, you have done nothing wrong, it's your mum who needs help.
Just hang in there hunny xxx
2007-12-27 21:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Smurfette! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋