She is having it on jan 5th and she verbably invited me today while we were at work.
Jan 5th is my birthday and we joked around about it being both of our special days but she also said
oh well if it's your birthday i guess you already have plans so it's okay just forget about it
and i said actually i don't have offical plans yet so i'll have to talk with my parents about it
It's kind of far away and i'm not terribly close with her so she wouldn't be upset if i didn't attend
she invited a few people from our work but i don't know any of them too well either so i would know the bride and one of her brides maids and mabye a handful of co-workers
also, if i do attend would i go to the reception too?
i mean she only invited me a few days before the wedding and wouldn't they already have all of the food and seating planned out by now?
if i do go i'm assuming that it would be propper to get her a wedding gift right?
how much should i spend
2007-12-27 13:03:44 · 8 answers · asked by Nicole 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if i don't go should i still get her a wedding gift?
she is 23 and this is her first marriage
so what would an appropraite gift be
(btw i'm only 16 and i haven't been to a wedding other than family members)
what would i wear?
2007-12-27 13:05:30 · update #1
i'm sorry if what i wrote was confusing
but i thought that i made it pretty clear
first off the wedding is in january not june
and i said that we were NOT close
2007-12-27 13:26:47 · update #2
I don't think you should go. It would be a terrible waste to spend your birthday with a bunch of strangers. Considering the fact that both the people you know relatively well are part of the wedding party--you may feel uncomfortable at the reception. Although you may get a chance to hug the bride, you may not get a chance to really talk to her or the bridesmaid. If you have the time and want to show your support, it would be a wiser choice to just attend the ceremony. Taking into accout the fact that she just recently invited you and it is also your birthday, I don't think the bride would be offended. Another choice would be to just mail her a gift and party like a rock star with the people who love you.
2007-12-27 13:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually wedding invitations are sent at least a month before the wedding and in the invitation is a card to be returned with the number of guests that will be attending with you. This assures that the food preparation is proportionate to the number of guests. Of course I can't be certain but it sounds like your co-worker may have forgotten to send invitations to the people she works with. Unless this is a very informal wedding. Considering this is not a close friend, you may not know much about her likes and dislikes. A gift of money is always good. It doesn't have to be a great amount, $20 is sufficient, under the circumstances. Here, again, I don't know all that's involved but if this person really wanted her co-workers to be at her wedding then they should have been properly invited. This would have given them/you time to prepare! You go and celebrate your Birthday!!!
2007-12-27 14:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by tampagramma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're both as close as you say, then go. You'll have two reasons to celebrate. Otherwise if you feel that she invited you because of pitty then don't go but it is polite to get her a present because you say that you're friends. If you do decide to go to the wedding and don't want to ride with any of your co-workers, then ask her if it's OK if you invite someone along with you. That way you'll have someone to escort you to and from the wedding also the reception. As far as the present, find out where she's registered and look at the list of things that's on her list then buy her something that you can afford. I hope this helps.
2007-12-27 13:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ashy Lady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want to go, then go.
If not, then don't.
Gifts are NEVER required for a wedding whether you can attend or not.
If you feel the need to give her a gift, find a reasonably priced item on her registry, or give whatever you can afford without being in debt.
2007-12-28 01:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go. Thank her for the invitation, but politely decline. Use your parents as an excuse if you need to. If you want to give a gift you could see if your work is doing a collection for a group gift and contribute to that.
2007-12-27 13:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by bethikinz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 16yrs old...Don't worry about it. Enjoy YOUR birthday. You can get her a gift if you like. It's like she invited you on the spur of the moment...You don't even have an invitation. She will be alright...Enjoy your life. Happy Birthday to You!
2007-12-27 13:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by SassyLeo 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you might go, and to keep you in mind for attending.
Like you said, this wedding is in June... you guys might be even closer friends by then you never know!
Usually when your invited to the wedding, your invited to the reception too, then maybe you can bring a hot stud with you.
Also, your birthday you never know what you'll be doing, so keep a wide mind open for yourself! its your birthday so you better party!
Good Luck, get them something for their home as a present - if you decide to go.
2007-12-27 13:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
enjoy your birthday...but as a courtesy get her something from her wedding registry...it can be tiny you're only 16...they can't expect something huge
2007-12-27 14:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by ima gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋