What is Flirting and What is Cheating?

Question

My GF and I are in love, we have a great relationship and we get along very well. We are contemplating at some point in the near future moving in together, but first things first. I have an issue with her that she does not seem to think is an issue at all...here is the deal. We are together literally 24 hours a day, I sleep at her house, we go out together or with friends, I keep clothes at her house and then go to work from there, she goes to school, etc...The girl is a born flirt...when we go out, I am not one of these needy guys that needs his GF around every second, and she will talk to a guy, she will even point me out and say that is my bf, etc.but there have been times that she exchanges phone numbers, we are both in a college city, so she says, they study the same thing, or they go to the same school, when anyone calls she says "Come out with us as a group if you like but I have a bf like i said and so not interested in a date like I said i have a bf." Is this Cheating?

I must clarify something too...we both are living in Europe, I am from the Sates and she is from Germany...we are studying in Spain. I live in a differnt apartment, but I sleep at my place like 3 times a month, seriously, we adore each other, but I just can't get over this aspect, and she thinks it is cool...I have never cheated on anyone and she has once when she was younger. We are both mid 20's and like I said very devoted to what we have, there is just htis one hurdle before the plunge for me...any help or advice would be appreciated...

okay that was fast responses...I do have to say, it does not bother me 90% of the time, like I said I am not needy, but you know how most guys are, they start the whole, oh yeah me too, etc...yeah I would love to be friends thing. and it is so obvious some of these guys are just waiting for the right opportunity...but like I said they never get it so they go away quick, but I just wanted to know what most of you guys thought this constituted, for me it is not cheating 90% of the time, but that 10% when enough is enough, that gets me to think and thus the question here...I do trust her, I just don't trust them...

Answer 1

No thats not cheating. My ex-boyfriend used to get mad over the same thing(not saying you get mad or anything). Girls will get asked out, it is a fact of life. She just needs to weed out the guys that have bad intentions from her true friends. If someone is constantly after alone time with her I would not recommend her talking to him alot because his feelings will only progress from being attracted to being in love with your girl. But if you've met him and he seems cool or gives her notes for class or something and isn't asking her out then its fine. College is a different kinda life. If its a big campus its easy to feel alone and its nice to have friends and know people who can help you if you have questions. I don't think she should be handing out her number to guys who display a certain interest in her(girls can tell). It's not cheating but from my perspective it is wrong if she doesn't stop talking to the guys that ask her out. Start giving out your number or asking for it and see how she handles it.

Answer 2

From my point of view, flirting is acceptable. I have a bf and I do go out with my other guy friends as well. But i do inform my bf about who I am with and stuff. Cheating is when you go out with someone and when you hide the fact that you were out with someone.. There is no need to hide anything if you are not cheating.

Answer 3

no it isn't

Flirting is part of her personality, the thing you have to ask yourself is: do you think she is trustworthy?

If you say yes then you have nothing to worry about, she will make friends but you will be her bf and as such won't sleep with any of them

If you say no then talk to her and if you have to then find someone else.

P.S: she needs a life outside you so getting numbers and making friends (even if they want more then that) isn't cheating, it's living

Answer 4

4 play and intercourse is Cheating. Any type of 4 play including touching and kissing. Everything else is just her being her. Remember that. She is open and Cheating is usually a secret. If you are OK with it don't worry. If she starts being secretive or shady then beware.

Answer 5

Flirting is hen you make Quick conversation with a girl and Cheating is when you are dating or married to a girl and you go out with someone else.

Answer 6

i think she sounds like shes just really friendly and likes to make new friends. she's obviously not trying to hide that she has a bf, but just be carefull and make sure she doesnt spend time with them alone cuz they might have different intentions. cheating to me is kissing or sex, but flirting and hanging out may lead to that.

Answer 7

I don't understand why she would be taking there number? Maybe she should give them your number so they are clear. Or not at all. I don't think it is cheating but it is very questionable I may wonder myself

Answer 8

tell her that you dont feel comfortable with her handing out her number to randoms so therefore i think she is flirting because she tells them she has a bf. maybe you should talk to her about it and sort this out. if your relationship is strong you can overcome this

Answer 9

no.
if she isn't dating, making out with, or spending all her time with someone else... no it isn't cheating. she's not lying to you about her actions-- you even said she's a born flirt. so she likes guys: what of it?
i might reconsider moving in... if her flirting really is making you uncomfortable.

Answer 10

If you love someone you treat them with respect.
comunicate with your girl, let her know what you think is disrespectful to your relationship