My 14 year old sister smokes, drinks, sneaks out what should i do?

Question

i dont know what to do my sister is always sneaking out of the house, drinks, smokes, and parties alot and my dad has no clue. my dad is really stricked and if he ever found out it would be really bad. i hate that my little sister does these things and i dont know what to do. sometimes at night i wake up and my sister is gone and im always scared somethings going to happen. i found out she took a pregnancy test. please help me i dont know what to do

Answer 1

i think the best way to stop your sis from doing that is inform your parents. talk to them, tell them not to scold her or yell at her. she really needs to be loved. all your family sit together one day and discuss her problems. give her sometime.
you should tell her about a nice life and all the consequenses
& effects of smoking stuff.
you gotta stop her before it is too late!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Tell on her she is screwing up her life. She will get pregnant and never find a man who will really want her. What if she gets a disease and dies? Growing up without a education is going to make her a victim for the rest of her life. Don't let loyalty,cause guilt, and then have regret hanging over your head till your old and gray cause you knew your sister was in trouble and didn't tell and it may have saved her life. Aids, doesn't go away, being known as the town whore doesn't either. Drug addicts do things that could end them up in jail for a very long time. Men love young wild girls to use them and abuse them.
Tell or your both gonna regret it.

Answer 3

If you are truly concerned for her, I would basically set her up to take a fall of her own. Opening the Dad to what is going on may be a super drastic step, but it may be necessary. Even the strictest of fathers almost always has undying love for their children and will want the best for them. In order to keep on good terms with your sis, I'd tell on her without really doing so. An easy way would be to call your home phone or dad's phone privately (cancel out the caller id) when you know she is out and he doesn't know. You don't need to say anything, just wake him up so that he realizes that she is gone. Call a couple of times if he doesn't get up. He will handle the rest. It's better to be in trouble with dad than in trouble with the law at 14...or pregnant...or worse. I say trust your strict dad to make that call.

Answer 4

hey there.
i'm fourteen. i used to drink a little. i did it because i became depressed because my best best friend had died. i didn't know what to do, i felt as if my life was falling apart. the point is that life is always going to be hard, and your sister is probably going through a hard time ,and she doesn't know what else to do with her life, because she probably needs somebody to speak to her, and to love and to care for her.

of course you are probably giving it to her, but she probably feels as if no one is there for her. and if she knows that, maybe she is getting pressured by her friends.

talk to her, tell her you are out there for her, tell her that you are her sister, and that you will be there no matter what comes between you too. sisterhood is a beautiful thing, you must talk to her, and that you are concerned, and that you want her to have a beautiful life ahead, and that if she continues this, she won't get to live the life she is supposed to have.

tell her that an average fourteen year old is a person that is care free, and that she must not worry about anything, she is still a kid. consider therapy if you can.

if she does not do anything, or listen , you must tell your dad. her LIFE IS IN YOUR HANDS. you must know that you are her only hope.

message me, i am fourteen, and i know what it feels like to be this age. take care, and about the pregnancy test, i hope she doesn't have a baby, i don't know what else to say. take care!

Answer 5

girl i hate to say it but there's not much you can do, but there are two things you can try, take her out to lunch and have a talk with her about how you feel and the consequence's of her actions, second meaning if she doesn't heed warning tell your father that is what he is there for ! Take it from my personal experience its better to have a mad sis and dad the a pregnant sis and heartbroken father! My step sis was same way but there was no talking to her i should have told on her long long ago now shes 17 living with 25 yr old guy and a total hoochie and drug addict sooo you know what you should do, good luck!!

Answer 6

Let your dad know, but you don't have to tell him. Find a way to give hints. Enlist a friend to do the tattling. But DON't just sit idle by.

Your sister is living a very dangerous lifestyle! With all the crazies out there now, you may wake up one morning seeing her on a milk carton!

This "Fun" is going to bring WAY more problems in the long run. She is destroying her life for some fun now... she needs a reality check!

Answer 7

My sister used to be like that (except she's older), then she got arrested. There's a variety of things you can do. Set the alarm system on your house so it makes a sound when the door opens (ask your dad for help). Hint to your dad that she *might* be doing something ("Wouldn't it be weird if lil' sis was blank-blank-blanking?) because he may have similar suspicions. Get creative. Your last resort: simply tell your dad. She may get messed up for life if someone doesn't stop her *now.*

Otherwise, I'm with fasesson on bear traps.

Answer 8

I don't know how your dad will react, but I suggest you tell someone. She could be sneaking out getting into all kinds of trouble. If something was to happen to her, you guys would have no clue because you wouldn't know where she was or with whom. I don't know if talking to her will help because teens of that nature tend to think that they know everything, you can't tell them anything, and that you're just trying to spoil their fun. They like to believe that they're 'grown' and don't need to listen to anyone or follow any rules, but as soon as they get into trouble, the first thing they do is go run to Mommy/Daddy to fix it. I'm not passing judgement on your sister, but you might want to mention to her that if she doesn't clean up her act, you will tell your dad and let him handle it. Also, think about this: if your dad finds out that she's doing all those things and you knew about it w/o saying anything, he might hold you just as responsible and be angry with you too. Just my two cents.

Answer 9

Okay that's pretty bad.
I'm a fourteen year old girl myself, and I know what some of us can get up to by watching my friends.
Have you talked to her?
If not, sit down and say to her that you're worried about how she's living. Don't push it too hard, you might push her away from you. But you need to try to get through to her. Are you older than her or younger?
If she took a pregnancy test, depending on the results, she might not be able to hide her lifestyle from your father for much longer. What was the result?
I hope everything goes well.

Answer 10

I would talk to your sister and tell her how she is making you feel. tell her if she carries on you will have to tell your dad as you are scared and worried for her safety.

You didn't say whether your mum was around? If she is maybe you could talk to her or another close female relative.

If you don't act, imagine how guilty you would feel if something happened to her and it comes out you knew what she was up to but kept quiet. Your sister may not be happy at the time but she will thank-you for your actions eventually.

Good luck hun

Answer 11

dont feel like ur the only one, its a shame that kids do stuff like that so young now. try checking in on her tell her how u want her to have fun but the things she does worries you, try to help her put everything into a better perspective. when shes out try calling just to make sure shes ok and tell her u love her no matter what and if she finds herself in trouble ull help her out (pick her up from a party, etc). its the kind of thing she might haveta learn the hard way but definately try to talk to her about it earnestly without accusing her of being a bad person