My partner and I have been together for 15 years and about 7 years ago we decided to have a baby. Now we have our daughter Miriam and she's a happy kid except for when she's at school. When she's at school a lot of the kids make fun of her for having two mommies.
How can I help her/ make them stop teasing her?
2007-12-27 12:33:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I know this is hard for you.
My sister had the same situation. What my sister told my niece was: "Tell them that you are loved even more for having two mommies. And if they still make fun of you say, I'm no different just because I have two mommies, I do the same things that you guys do."
If it contunies have her see a counsler and she can talk to her/him for ideas.
Good luck and god bless! I know it's hard to be partners, but people just need to realize it doens't matter the gender, it is love.
2007-12-27 12:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the successful relationship. I know many straight people that would be envious of a family unit as strong and stable as yours! As a single mother with no involvement from my child's father, this is how I have always explained our family to him:
Some families have a mommy and a daddy. Some only have a mommy OR a daddy. Some have two mommies or two daddies. Some kids have grandparents or aunts and uncles that take care of and love them. Other kids are adopted and raised by people that aren't even related to them. The point is, that everyone has different kinds of families - and THAT is what makes the world so much fun!
I always reiterate to him that even though he has a family that's different, that it doesn't mean he has less then any other family out there. He is loved and cherished and that is all that matters.
As long as there are ignorant people in this world, they will always try to find a way to make others feel guilty or ashamed. I mean, 50 years ago (even 25 years ago!), there were so many stigmas associated with interracial relationships. While there are a few people that still frown upon that (and some always will,) on a whole, it is much better now.
Society is changing for the better thanks to people like you who refuse to be ashamed to be the people you are. You make the world a better place. Keep telling your daughter to hold her head up high since she is in a safe and loving home. There are so many other kids out there in hetero families that cannot say the same.
2007-12-28 17:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by lololo_and_lalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant make them stop as much as u want to protect her u cant make other kids do something u want them to. You can talk to the teacher though. Also tell your daughter that they are jealous that she has two mommies instead of just one. This is something that you both should have known would come to. I really doubt that 7 year old kids would even care abt such a thing as a person having two moms they are obviously hearing it from their parents. Sadly in this world people are just plain stupid and look down on anything that is different or out of the norm. This is going to be a life lesson for her so u will just have to let her learn it all you can do is stand by and give her lots of love and encouragement.
2007-12-28 09:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by missology 101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to the school. This is bullying but if it was not this it would be something else. Kids are cruel. Just explain that families come in all different forms and hers has two mums. Some have 1 mum, some have just a dad. some kids live with grandparents. There are many different types of families. And if kids say something to her just to act bored and say "whatever" or a simple "so" and turn and walk away. They will get bored soon enough and move onto someone else.
2007-12-28 05:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
lol my mom left my dad when i was 13 and found a girlfriend.. wow it was a surprise.. but i wouldnt change a thing.. and i was in highschool so imagine some of the things people would tell me.. i had one prick tell me that my mom should be on a island with all the other days and that my mother was sick with a mental illness..i didnt react very well to that and ended up getting suspended for throwing a chair at him. people are gonna talk..just tell her..dont listen to them you cant do much!! people are gonna let it be while growing up..im 19 now and i dont care what anyone has to say people will always have their opinions..i have a 5 month old now and he loves both of his nannies...i wonder what the kids are gonna say when he tells the kids at school about having 2 grandmothers that are together!
2007-12-27 22:42:05 · answer #5 · answered by ProudMom_of_2_gorgeous_boys 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's a really tough question and a tough issue for a kid! I think your question is probably better answered by people who have walked in your shoes which I have not. I think kids will make fun of anything that is not 'normal' to them. I tell my kids that they can't control how other people act but they can control how they react to those people. Hey, I can thank my therapist for that one! Ha, ha! But it's true. I also try to give my kids examples of ways to handle things because just sharing your philosophy isn't always enough. You might give her an example of something to say next time and ask her if she thinks that will help. Sometimes I go through a few ways to say something before I come up with something my kids like and that's important because it has to be words that they are comfortable saying.
Good luck!
2007-12-27 21:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by MG 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Teasing happens to all kinds of kids, for all kinds of reasons. Are you or your partner involved in the classroom? Have you taken the time to get to know the kids in her class? How about the teacher?
Does your child's school have an anti-teasing / no tolerance for bullies policy? How about a program that teaches the children basic values - sharing, fairness, kindness, acceptance, etc? In my child's school, this is taught as part of the regular curriculum in Social Studies and/or Health. Talk to your child's teacher & the school principal regarding adding these policies & programs to the school.
Finally, teach your daughter how to deal with teasing. Have her think about the kids who are teasing & why they do it. Is it because they are confident & happy in their lives? Or because they are willing to do whatever it takes, even things that are wrong & mean, in order to get friends? And, why would they be willing to be a bad person in order to get friends, if they were happy? How sad for them that they would do that. Ask your daughter if she thinks there's anything wrong with the life she's got & help her to be confident & happy herself, no matter what anyone else says or does.
2007-12-27 21:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You can make her realize how lucky she is to have two people in her life that love her unconditionally. A lot of kids don't have that advantage. No one can stop the kids from teasing, if not in school, then on the playground or on the bus or anywhere else she goes. You will just have to make her realize that she is special and blessed and that the others either don't understand or are jealous.
2007-12-27 20:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You go up to the school and make a fuss. Ask your daughter to tell you which kids are doing this to her. Tell the counselor that you want ALL those kids talked to and their parents called, it is their job to protect your daughter when she is in school and they are not.
2007-12-28 01:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not right man, kids will always find something to tease
about thew, I suggest bringing this to her teacher because
alot of kids these days -as you can see get really depressed
over other kids comments, and they start to withdraw and
this can effect them later in life,maybe if your child has
A show and tell day she can bring the both of you and
she could introduce her whole family and tell the fun things
that she does, this way the kids can see that she does after
all have A regular life !!!
2007-12-27 21:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by koko 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋