I have known this girl forever and she has always been a little promiscuous. I've always liked her and she likes me on and off but it bothers me to know that she has gotten around with a lot of guys. Up until the other day we hadn't talked much over the last 2 months or so, but out of the blue she starts talking to me about marriage, wedding rings, and a life together. (She even started looking at wedding rings online and showed me what she wants). She asked me if I would really want to marry her, which I would but I didn't want to come right out and say it. She always tells me how much her family loves me and that her parents say I'm the kind of guy she should marry so I don't know if she is just asking all of the questions because of her parents pressure or if she is really sincere. We hung out last night and I thought she would be flirty and interested, but we just hung out like friends. I don't know what to think and I don't know how interested she really is.
2007-12-27 11:28:25 · 24 answers · asked by asdf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have dated in the past and we have talked in the last 2 months, we just haven't hung out much (I made a mistake with that sorry.) I feel like I could get over her past, its just right now I don't know what she wants. I mean, I really like this girl. I can never get her off my mind, and when I'm with her, I'm happier than ever. But I don't want to get played.
2007-12-27 11:39:37 · update #1
maybe she wasn't being flirty becuase she doesn't want to be that way with you which is a good thing. being flirty and promiscous with you would mean things would end and obviously she doesn't want things to end. i wouldn't worry to much about her parents. take it slow and see what happens don't get engaged till you are ready and have actually dated... i'm actually in the mist of trying to be friends with someone i dated for a while a few years ago. we are on the no sex plan and while it's very hard it makes it a lot easier to sort out our feelings right now.
2007-12-27 11:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by heartbreaker6713 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like you want her as a wife. She doesn't seem to be the kind of girl you have always dreamed of settling down with. It doesn't matter what she wants or what her parents want, what do you want? From the way you wrote, it sounds like you're not ready to stop looking and I don't think you should. She's flighty and promiscuous. How do you know she's not saying the same thing to other guys? I'd give her a year, see how she feels and just how faithful she can be without the ring!
2007-12-27 11:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sassie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her. If her past bothers you now and you're not really even together than it will haunt you forever if you marry her. Also, where does she get off talking to you about marriage when the two of you haven't even talked for months. It doesn't matter how much her parents like you. You're not marrying her parents or her family. It's HER you would be spending the rest of your life with.
2007-12-27 11:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Christy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you two even dating? It sounds like you're just friends. It also sounds like she may be a little bit desperate to get married and you just seem like the person on her mind right now. It's really up to you.....don't let her pressure you. Marrage is a big deal and shouldn't be taken lightly as it should be for life. People already don't take their vows seriously given the 50% divorce rate. If you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, by all means, propose to her. Otherwise, you need to tell her to chill out.
2007-12-27 11:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She couldn't be more serious. Taurus are partner-oriented people. They love their home and their creature comforts. It sounds to me that during that year of separation she had a change of mind when she wasn't with you anymore. Please take this as a compliment because sometimes we don't really know what we have until we just don't have it anymore. I think that is what has happened with your Taurus girl. She is ready to dump her fiance too!!! That isn't really how Taurus operates as they are stubborn at times and I believe she is quite stubbornly fixated on walking down that wedding aisle with you waiting at the altar! I would slooooooww down with this relationship. Think about the guy that she is dumping to be with you. Wonder how he's going to take the news that his girlfriend just left him to be with her former fellow. That would be you. If she does this to him I feel there is a good chance she will do it to you too. I can't help but wonder if you make more money than this other guy because Taurus does so love the material things that make life so comfortable. Maybe he can't provide for her in the manner that you did. You are clueless for a very good reason because much of this makes no sense at all! Here we have a former girlfriend dumping her current fiance to "marry" you as quickly as possible. It just doesn't add up. I get you. Oh and Taurus girls do not joke about marriage as they are sure they will marry and they want to marry well. And I don't believe either that she was carried away by emotions because everything is happening too fast. I wouldn't want to be responsible for breaking up two people's engagement. And that is how YOU will be seen. As the guy that "broke" those two up. I don't think you want that label. Let her do the breaking up and then decide if you still want to be with her. I think she bottom line misses the good treatment she received from you. And her current fiance isn't you. Period. That simple. So for now I wouldn't touch her with a ten foot pole. Wait until she get untangled from her fiance and then pursue this relationship if YOU desire to be with her. A relationship is a two-way street and right now she is already on a two-way street with another guy! I wonder how much he knows about what if going on right under his nose? I bet he is clueless too! I would have to pass on this for now and put alot of thought and time before surrendering your life to her. It sounds like you both are quite young (as I am not) and when young people get into relationships, there are often several relationships before you find the right mate for you. So keep looking. And please stay out of this mess because that is what it is right now. A big mess! Good luck and bless you and I sure do wish you well.
2016-05-27 08:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends make for a lasting marriage. If you feel you can spend the rest of your life waking up next to her, then by all means ask her point blank why she's so interested all of a sudden... is she pregnant? For that matter you should ask yourself if you can be happy with knowing she's been with people you know?
Your whole question is about what she wants and what her family thinks... What do you FEEL... NOT think!!!
2007-12-27 12:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Orpheus Think Tank Repairman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her parents. Tell them what you think of her and see what she thinks of you. If you really, really like her, marry her. If not, say you just want to be friends. She will understand, you said you've known her forever. If her family likes you, that's really good for a relationship between you and this girl.
2007-12-27 11:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Moi and I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might want to get married as quick as she can because lke u said she has been around other guys and u said u didn't talk to her in about 2 months u never know she might b hiding that she's pregnet.
2007-12-27 11:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be she's finally realized what a tramp she's been and wants to clean up her act and get serious. Funny isn't it, how sexually free and easy our society seems to be nowadays and yet, when it comes down to it, guys would really rather have a vehicle that doesn't have excess mileage. Make sure you both get tested before you decide.
2007-12-27 11:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her on it. Ask her if she is serious.
Don't wait too long to have this conversation. Some women get annoyed and ultimately leave if they feel the guy is just wasting her time and has commitment issues.
2007-12-27 11:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by LuckyLavs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋