Why does my boyfriend's dad not think I am good enough?

Question

I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half. I am a school teacher with a Master's Degree and am very successful. His Dad (who is divorced and shallow about women) is always saying rude things about me to my boyfriend and his sisters. He hopes that his son will ditch me or find someone better. The dad is nice to my face, but turns around and acts differently. My boyfriend and I are active together and really enjoy each other's company. I despise being around his family because I know they will turn around and say mean things about me. I am not sure what I should do...do I end this relationship because of this problem with his dad and sisters? Will this last forever? My family is not like his, so this is hard for me to deal with.

Answer 1

Perhaps your success makes the father feel less power as a man whose sense of power and identity may already be compromised. But that's not your problem. Since the son is an adult, he must step in as a man and respectfully defend you from his father's disrespect of you.

Be very careful, because the son may later exhibit the same behavior as the father, especially if he doesn't say too much while his father is on a tirade about you. Remember that old saying: The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Answer 2

Deep down he is probably jealous

Or maybe he is hiding the fact that he is punishing himself or not finding anyone as decent as you

The most obvious one, however, is that his previous break up through his divorce has led him to suffer a bitter heartache and a nasty streak towards women, in which he thinks that you are too good to be true and that one day your boyfriend will end up like him....

You could also remind him of his ex wife, or that you are not being yourself (even though you are)

Answer 3

Who knows what the clot in his brain is? Does your BF live with the dad? What does your BF do to stick up for you in your absence? This CAN work - and I know, it is hard to deal with, it is always hard to deal w 2-faced jerks - but, you need to know that you will stand FIRST in your BF's life. Trust me, the dad sounds like a really insecure loser - and if the sisters and BF are any good, they know that it says more about him than you when he is such a lying jerk. My first motherinlaw was like that - my BF and I had some joint counseling before we got married to air & resolve the issue.