On occasion I get social invitations from people who I do not like. I suspect they are inviting me out not because they have any love for me, but they just have no friends and are lonely. Their personality turns me off and I do not want to go out with them because I honestly do not like them.
If I tell them I am busy or make up another excuse, I would be lying. I am not busy I just do not like them. Would it be rude to be honest?
2007-12-27 09:54:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i think it would be rude to come out and say "i dont like you" but if you say it in a nice way like "i appreciate the invite, but i feel that we have nothing in common and i dont really see us hanging out anytime in the future."
another option is to hang out with them and annoy the hell out of them so they will just stop asking
2007-12-27 10:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is rude to lie to people. If you don't like them, why do you care if you are rude anyway? If you lie and tell them you are busy or something, they will invite you again and you have the same problem. Yes, they may eventually get the hint after several times, but isn't it rude to string someone along like that? Just tell them the truth once and be done with it.
Here's another thought...have you spent time with this person before deciding you don't like them? Maybe you should take them up on their offer once and give them a chance. You may find that you were wrong and you do enjoy their company. You have nothing to lose and may gain a friend out of the deal. Worst case, you still don't like them. But at least you would have given it a fair chance. That would be the least rude thing.
2007-12-27 18:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by n42080 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one because you don't want to be known as the @sshole who is rude and insensitive. If this is on a friendship basis, you don't want to be rude...however if this is a date with another person, then yes, telling them that you aren't interested is perfectly acceptable.
If it were me, and I have been in this situation before, I would try just ignoring the invitations - don't respond, rsvp, etc. After one or two is ignored, they usually get the hint.
When you see them out and they ask why you never came, if they ask, just tell them "didn't have the time" or just change the subject.
IF they are persistent in sending you invites and have blatantly asked you why you don't ever go, ignoring it doesn't work, then you can simply tell them that you will most likely never go to one of their social gatherings and leave it at that.
2007-12-27 18:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very rude and hurtful to declare you can't go for no reason except you do not like them, as well as suggesting you are making yourself look superior by making them inferior. None of this is to your favour.
Much kinder to say thank you for the invtation, but you can't make it that day. You don't have to give excuses.
You think these invitations are issued because the people concerned are lonely. You can say "no" without also slapping them in the face. Loneliness is not a crime. Neither is rudeness - but that doesn't make it right.
2007-12-27 18:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by bluebell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude to tell people that you do not like them. People see this as a put-down. When you get an invitation from people you don't like just decline graciously. You don't have to make up an excuse. Just thank them for the invitation and say that you're unable to accept it. Be kind to them.
2007-12-27 18:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not too uncomfortable being a complete ***, then certainly tell someone who was gracious enough to invite you somewhere or to something that you don't like them. Just ignore the invitation, then you can be superior and still not hurt their feelings. Perhaps they are inviting you because they suspect you have no friends.
2007-12-27 18:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in this case it would be rude to tell them you do not like them.
The only case I can see it being okay to tell someone you don't like them is if they will not leave you alone and they are harassing you.
If you say no to the social invitations enough times, they should get the hint.
2007-12-27 18:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think it is rude to tell someone you don't like them. You or they can usually tell you don't like them by their actions.
I work with people who believe they are the best and talk about everyone when they go out. Quite honestly, I think they are poor excuses for human beings.
2007-12-27 18:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by mac3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be rude, unless the person is annoying you.
Tell them, you do not attend social invitations and/or events. You do not need to tell them you don't like them, just tell them you are not interested in social events.
However, if the ask you if you like them, then just be honest to them.
2007-12-27 23:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by carlosdavid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not only rude, but ignorant and inconsiderate. Just make up an excuse and say you're sorry you can't make it.
What if that person turns out to be your boss 10 years from now, and remembers, how do you handle that???
2007-12-28 07:42:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋