in the bedroom...?

Question

when me and my boyfriend have sex, it doesnt really do much for me like i never reach orgasm...im not a child but this is the first man ive been with and i was wondering why it doesnt feel that great, it sometimes even burns after a while...hes not that big could that have something to do with it? or is there something wrong with me? please help...

Answer 1

No. It's him.

Most men do not know how to "please" a women
and have to be shown. Most [not all] men are only
concerned about their own orgasm.
This type of guy you will eventually dump anyway
because it reflects how he is outside of the bedroom.

With this being your first sexual relationship and
your not having the knowledge yourself....a little
research would help you out. Or talk to some
of your girlfriends. Girls love sharing info.

And in response to some of the suggestions above....
"Oral sex always works".....again, it does not work
if they don't know what they are doing. It can be
just as iritating if they do it wrong.

As far as the lubes....if you are 'burning' do NOT
get the lubes that have the "warming" sensation.
Get a regular flavored one. The "warming" sensation
will only cause you to burn more.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with you. First, a majority of women cannot experience orgasams from intercourse alone. They need clitoral stimulation to get over the edge. Try manually stimulating yourself or having your partner help you out during intercourse to help you out. Second, is the burning like a rug burn? If that is the case then you might be too dry and the skin is rubbing against each other and causing the burning. I would suggest asking your doctor about the burning sensations. Third, stop worrying so much about orgasming. You need to relax and focus on the sensations and don't worry that you need to reach an orgasm. Women also need more time to get mentally and physically warmed up so foreplay is a necessity!! Good Luck! I hope this helps!

Answer 3

If it burns, you may want to get and have him checked for STDs. There is no reason for it to burn. It could feel sore, but not burn if you are not used to having sex regularly. With it being your first, it will take a while before you can reach orgasm, and it will take a while for you to relax enough to actually enjoy it. If it feels like sharp pains at times, then he is likely a bit large for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. This is how it is with everyone their first time and with their first lover. Some women take years and years before they actually have an orgasm during intercourse. It took me years and years and years. You should try taking charge in the bed with him and do things that feel good to you without worrying about what he wants. He would rather you feel good than him bc it reflects on his ability to please you. Also, when you find something that you do like, let him know so that he will be able to please you. He will not be able to if he is not shown what you do or do not like. All you have to do is whisper that you like that or move his hand or position to a different one to give him the hint. He will pick up on it all after a while and hopefully you will be able to enjoy it. I was always like that until I got with my fiance. And now I can see why so many people are sex crazed.

Answer 4

Everyone's first time always hurts...
As for the burning - did you get an STI test? Although you can be assured that he is truthful, some STIs are hereditary.
You could also have Cystsis, a completely normal bladder infection...

but it's most likely that the burning has come from sex

Answer 5

well i am not a girl so i cant tell you based on really first person experience but i do know that the mental card plays a huge part in a woman reaching her peak. so maybe he needs to do something that will mentally stimulate you more, such as maybe really dirty talk, swearing, what ever you find really sexy. maybe you want to be dominated. try those out. or have him eat you out befor almost till the point of orgasm and then when you acutally have sex it will be easier to reach it.

Answer 6

some women may have physical or even physiological problems which can hinder orgasm

the lube is a good idea - burning could be as simple as becoming raw from prolonged sexual activity, however my wife experienced burning sensations on occassion in the past, and she was actually having medical problems

my suggestion is to see a doctor if it is causing you this mouch trouble

Answer 7

Have you ever have experienced sex with the opposite sex? Could be you are a Lesbian. Sorry for schocking you. But I felt like that when I had sex with my husband. And than found out I was a Lesbian. You need to do some exploring!

Answer 8

I know it has to do a lot with your state of mind too, if you're worried about being caught, or even anything thats on your mind that you're worried or thinking about, affects how it feels.

If you don't feel completely comfortable and relaxed, it usually doesn't feel good.

If it burns, that might be because of lack of lubrication, which goes back to me saying that your mind is on other things, or you don't feel comfortable. If you were comfortable and relaxed and really wanted to have sex, you'd be "wet" and it'd feel good.

Answer 9

Try diffrent positions. I can't get off if my man is on top but as soon as we flip I'm good to go. I'd also try lube since you said it burns you are probley going dry since you aren't enjoying yourself. Don't worry so much about the big O just enjoy yourself if you love this guy no matter what he does you should still like it. I bet if you relax you'll find your zone without even trying.

Answer 10

I'm guessing you're fairly "inexperienced", and since this guy isn't doing much to please or stimulate you, you're not going to get the juices flowing to be comfortable. You're probably not getting enough natural lubricant, since he's not even trying to turn you on, and this is why you're uncomfortable. However, it's not normal for it to burn - and you should be seeing a gyno if you're having sex and getting STD screenings annually! Best of luck, sex should be much more enjoyable than this!