I think I like this guy, and we can talk a joke around when we're with a group, but if we hang out alone, i can't think of anything to say, and he's quiet, so it gets silent and awkward fast. any tips?
2007-12-27 09:42:04 · 24 answers · asked by Kat Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I had the same problem earlier this summer. I liked a friend of a friend for a long, long time. We didn't know much about each other and found that we really had nothing in common. But we were so attracted to each other and wanted to start hanging out alone.
The first time we hung out alone was awkward. We both didn't know what to say to each other. Especially since we didn't have much in common. *Think about it this way... he's just a human. A regular person like everyone else you know.* That should calm you down a little before any conversation.
*The next thing you could do is think about the things you like, then ask him questions about the subject. Maybe even ask him for advice with a problem you have.*
Doing this does three things: helps find common ground, starts a conversation, and allows you to get to know his personality better.
If this guy is anything like the guy I was with, he'd try to answer everything with a quick yes or no. (He was really shy, so i had to do all the talking.) *Try asking open-ended questions.* That way he will actually have to talk and tell you more.
If you still find nothing to talk about, *engage yourselves in an activity that will stimulate conversation.*
Try: book store, cd shop, amusement park, museum, etc. Maybe not so much: a park, restauraunt, the beach, or movies. These places might seem like the ideal place to hang, but it doesn't feed conversation much.
Doing this could possibly help you both find new interests, as well as, create memories to look back at. (Something he can think about later that ISN'T sexual :D)
If you find you don't really like him after all, just let him go. There are more guys out there. *Be positive and confident.*
If it's just that he's shy and you really do like him, *have patience.*
Well, in the end these things worked for me; me and this guy have been together for 6 months now. I hope my suggestions work for you too!
Go get 'em, girl!
2007-12-27 10:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Street Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in the same situation but just dont think of what to say a conversation will come just tell a joke or something.
2007-12-27 17:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the both of you are shy. If you guys are in any classes together, talk about the teacher, or any quizzes you took, or even how much you like/hate it. Talk about your friends and his friends. Talk about things that interest you. Anything. It really doesn't matter, as long as you keep the conversation going.
2007-12-27 17:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by trivkc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People LOVE talking about themselves. Ask him questions like "have you lived here all your life?" "what's your favorite color?" "what do you think of our math teacher?" etc., This shows him that you are INTERESTED in learning about him. Also compliment him about something genuine, like "that shirt really brings out the green in your eyes" Make sure it's genuine and not over the top. Be confident! Smile! Good luck sweetie!!!
2007-12-27 17:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Adee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to say anything, just go with the flow of the conversation, believe it or not body language is much much more important than speaking
EDIT**
lool Attitude yu're advising her to ask him if he had fun the other night, then how would she complete the sentence "you wanna have fun again tonight"
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2007-12-27 17:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find common interests with this guy. For example, if you both like baseball, talk about your favorite teams. Same with video games, other sports, school, etc. Once the ice is broken, it'll be a lot easier to talk one on one.
2007-12-27 17:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have a friend like that. I think it's because your trying to hard to think of something. Relax, breathe. talk about something that happened to you that day, or recently. ask him how his day was... or better yet, ask him if he's been out on any dates. helps to ease tension... unless your the jealous type, and lets you know about his love life while just being friendly.
2007-12-27 17:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by raquel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u jus gotta ask questions like what music u in2? or just refer back to something funny that happened in the group... as soon as u break the silence conversation should flow easily.
2007-12-27 17:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by tailette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about what ever you did with the group. Ex: Did you have fun the other night?
2007-12-27 17:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he likes to do during his free time. Try to find some common interests you two have and go from there.
2007-12-27 17:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋