I have full custody, and I split because I was hit with a rock (that is the spite part) the relationship was kinda rockey itself, I almost make enough to pay all of the bills if i cut out the fast food and fun. Daycare is expensive and when I asked the "donor" to contribute, I was told a hard luck story. I feel rather ashamed to have to go to court and ask that the Order to pay be enforced. Please help and please no guy or girl bashing we all have good spirits even though the skin is a little bad sometimes.
2007-12-27 09:37:57 · 9 answers · asked by Ize I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have full custody the "donor" was placed on strict supervised visitation, and I split because I was hit with a rock (that is the spite part) the relationship was kinda rockey itself, I almost make enough to pay all of the bills if i cut out the fast food and fun. Daycare is expensive and when I asked the "donor" to contribute, I was told a hard luck story. I pay for everything happily because I enjoy being a parent, however I feel rather ashamed to have to go to court and ask that the Order to pay be enforced. Please help and please no guy or girl bashing we all have good spirits even though the skin is a little bad sometimes.
2007-12-27 09:58:29 · update #1
If you are going to refer to your child/children's father as the "donor", then why get upset when he acts like one? Even if you have issues with the things done in the relationship, your children(I will assume you have more than one), still need support from both parents. Yes, it is unfortunate that some people (men and women) have to be made to take care of their kids by the courts, but if that's what you have to do, so be it.
2007-12-27 10:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by phree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few questions for you to consider before making your decision...does he see the child? does he pay for anything for the child (i.e. groceries, school supplies, baby food, diapers,etc)..I ask that because sometimes those items are more "needed" and in his own way he is giving support...however, if nothing is being done and he is not supporting the child in anyway...yes, I would go to the court and get an order.
As a single mother...my ex-husband terminated his parental rights which left me without having the right to order child support..so I do everything on my own, but that was my choice...it is difficult, but if he has a role in the child's life then he should be supporting the child as much as he can!
Good Luck!
2007-12-27 09:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by TT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May be filing out of spite...haha you know that you're filing out of spite if you asked that question. which is understandable. Now shake that anger off and remember you're doing this for your kids, they're number one.
Then step up to the plate and talk to the other parent discuss this, that you need help with money. Even a little help since they're already in a financial predicament. talking is very important, work i tout so the children benefit!
Leave spit to feeble women and men who don't know what loving your children really means. You and your kids are way too good for that.
2007-12-27 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by buffrxinfo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that child is entitled to some kind of financial contribution from the other parent, even if it isnt much..................not fair u have to be the only provider. just get what u can, every little bit helps. maybe the other parent will be forced to do better for himself and the child if he is held responsible for his actions. oh and i dont understand what u mean by being hit with a rock. u should explain
2007-12-27 10:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel ashamed to go to court! This is his obligation too, and if you do not pursue it, you are just taking his word on what could be a made-up, song-and-dance hard luck story. Why would you just take his word for it? The court can determine this for sure.
2007-12-27 09:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I'm hearing here is YOU YOU YOU. Chils support is about the CHILD!!! Of course go file. Who cares about sob stories?? It's the "donors" obligation. He helped bring in the child into this world.
You'd be able to care for the child BETTER!
2007-12-27 09:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of the situation or reasons, he has an obligation and should be forced to honor it. Keep your spite in check and base your decisions on what is best for your child. Even if you can afford to raise the child on your own he needs to honor his obligation to that child. Make him do it. Best of luck!
2007-12-27 14:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should file for child support. who cares if the donor is broke. He still has an obligation to support the child.
2007-12-27 09:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by mudslide_23511 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File - they will determine the amount he pays based on what he makes and if he owes other support ,etc. It's not like he'll be entirely screwed out of all money in his pocket.
2007-12-27 09:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋