ok so, the thing is i really really like this boy, i love him so much, we aren't going out or anything, but i know hes kind of seeing other girls to so this is why i want to try and tell him how much i love him. and how much i want to be with him. but all of a sudden he has these mood swings and starts calling me every name possible and it all starts if i say i miss one of my guy friends,and i mean we arent even going out and he goes off on one. i havnt said anything about his other girls, yet he has a go at me? but he can be the sweetest person you'll ever come across. but anyway, i just need some advice on what i should do, i dont know wether to give up on him or try and make things work between me and him. i love him so much, more than anything. it kills me seeing him with other girls, but he knows that i love him. and hes not bothered it seems and he only wants me when he bored almost, i just dont know what to do, and i dont really have anyone to talk to about this, advice? plz
2007-12-27 09:00:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk away from him – people rarely change and most likely, he’ll get worse. Even if you two decided to be in an exclusive relationship, there is very good chance that he’ll explode (emotionally) and might become physically abusive. If he goes off now because you mentioned about your guy friends, then it’ll get worse once you start dating him. If I would you, I’d walk away from him and find someone else who truly loves you.
There are plenty of men out there who would treat you like a princess. Even thought you think you love him and you will never find someone better now… you WILL find someone better and you’ll fall in love again.
I thought I could never fall in love again after I broke up with my first boyfriend (long story), but I fell in love with another man. We stayed together for three years, until I found out that he was cheating on me. Guess what I did? I loved him and I couldn't stop thinking about our happy moments... but I managed to walk away… because I knew that he’ll never change. He cheated on me once and he’ll cheat again.
My dear – no one is worth your time if they give you heartache. Life is too short to get miserable with someone who doesn’t appreciate you.
2007-12-27 09:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Always_Optimistic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a question for you---what do you like about him?He dates other girls,ignores you unless he is bored, has mood swings( which may suggest a mental health problem that is undiagnosed), calls you names and you are not even dating,is not bothered by the fact that you love him,and you have not even gone out once.So I ask again, what do you love about him.I do not know how old you are(but suspect you are a minor) ,however, this is not the type of guy you should be pining for but running away from as fast as you possibly could.There are tons of nice caring guys that would be elated to have a good gal like you in their life. Unless you believe that you don't deserve a guy who will love, cherish, care for and support you, and want only you in their life, then you can choose to date this guy.I hope you choose to move on .
2007-12-27 17:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, let him go! He isn't as into you as you are to him. It is clear from the outside perspective that he is not serious about you and shows a lack of concern for your feelings. I was with someone that started like that and he would do just enough to keep me there. But that's not enough! It ended poorly and I wasted alot of time and energy on soemone undeserving. You may say this is different but it's not! If he is seeing other people and flying off the handle at you he is simply showing you little glimpses of himself and you don't deserve that! If you are unhappy now except for a day here and there then why would you want to commit yourself to a period of misery? Let him go, cut your losses and know that he may try to be Mr. Wonderful for a MINUTE after you let him go, just long enough to get you back, but don't be his toy. Be a strong person and fight for your happiness and honey, it's not with him! He sounds emotionally selfish. he may be a great person and a great friend, that doesn't make him a great guy for you! A great guy for you is one who cares about your feelings, wants you and only you without you having to make him drop other girls and one who treats you fairly and with thought and heart! Don't settle for less, if you do, it will only be a matter of time before it's over and you wish you had just listened to your inner voice that told you he wrong for you.
Good Luck! I say, start the New Year fresh and free!
2007-12-27 17:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by crazesillyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it sounds like he is jealous of you having "guy friends" but its okay for him to have "girl friends". It also sounds a little bit like your trying to make him jealous by bringing up your "friends" and I'm sure we have all done it just to get a reaction from them. Believe it or not in some sick way it makes us feel good to hear them so upset just because of another guy/girl. Just be sure he isn't the kind of guy that would carry this jealous thing to the point of abuse. If I were you I would tell him how you feel and how it makes you feel to see him talking with other girls. (it's okay to talk to others just not in a flirty manner...right??) If you don't get the response you want I would try to pull back from him...separate yourself from him a bit and see if he starts running to you if not ..move on. If he does do not run back to him..act as if he's just taking up a bit of your time while you have nothing else to do. After a few days of this you will know if he is sincere or not and then you can tell him you pulled away because of his reaction to your sharing your feelings with him. Go from there!!! Good Luck and Have fun!! Life's too Short to worry over one guy!! There's plenty more to go around!!!
2007-12-27 17:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the cold-shoulder. It seems like he takes you for granted and thinks that you'll be his punching-bag and still love him. Act like you hate him for a while and see what he does. He'll come crawling back. And if you do end up with him, DON'T tell him how much you love him. That's instantly giving him the upper-hand in the relationship and letting him know that you need him more than he needs you. Act like you're doing him a favor by being with him. That'll make sure that he stays with you and does right by you.
2007-12-27 17:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what your saying, I honestly think that you need to move on. If he is seeing other girls then there should be nothing stopping you from seeing other boys. If he is getting that possessive over a friend and yet it is still OK for him to do what he wants. I would say that he is controlling and you do not need to be with someone who is like that. I understand that you care for him but when someone treats you like a possession that is not a good relationship.
2007-12-27 17:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by luckyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SOUNDS LIKE A D1CKH3AD AND YOU SOUND LIKE A STALKER...
NOT A GOOD MATCH!
maybe when you've matured a bit you'll stop being so needy and realise that if you get on with you're life and concentrate on your own happiness and success then people will be attracted to you and want to spend time in your company.
2007-12-27 17:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by shakra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you! Or if you really don't believe that, then you need to sit him down and talk to him. This friendship has to go both ways or not at all the way I see it from the info above.
2007-12-27 17:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by starfire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is a hard decision if you're so in love with him, but he seems like the kind of guy that might end up being abusive. if he doesnt like you as much as you like him, and you're only his friend when he's bored, i say you drop him. it sounds like a relationship with him can only cause heartache.
2007-12-27 17:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow if he is hanging with other girls i see a problem unless you are invited all the time. if not you know what you need to do
2007-12-27 17:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋