Could a guy be genuine if he talks about the future, moving to another country to be with you after just dating you for a couple of months?How do you know he is genuine and not just saying things to get what he wants.He was nice, we went out for dinner/movies, and he invited me over to his place and he cooked dinner.We went out for 3 months, but I did not sleep with him cos I wasn't ready.He seemed to be okay with this, although he kept trying, but didn't push it too far.I was taking my time to get to know him as I wasn't sure, but was liking him more and more.
He never introduced me to his friends or family, which I didn't mind, but I don't think he mentioned me and acted single around them.He went to Majorca with his male friends.We had a trip planned also.Before our trip, I found out he emailed girls randomly in Estonia, where he was going on a booze cruise in Estonia with his friends saying he wanted to party all night long.
Was our relationship nothing? Did he just use me?
2007-12-27 08:53:18 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The relationship was what it was. Sounds like it's over. Sounds like he was a little clingy too.
2007-12-27 08:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by D J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so classic and I'm so sorry it keeps happening to women. It's happened to all of us. We fall for a guy based on who he is when we meet him....which most of the time isn't really all that true especially if he's trying to hook up. You did the right thing by taking time and not sleeping with him. Guys know what to say to get in a girls pants...ie...marriage, the future, blah blah blah.....but it usually only work with women that don't have any other plans for their own future. It seems you did and you were thinking ahead which is good. He probably did feel close to you at one point because you weren't giving it up as easy as some other girls would have....so it was all in the chase. He was trying to make you feel safe and secure and that this "thing" you guys had was long term.
Well obviously it wasn't..........move on. you made the right decision.Guys can be real jerks sometimes and they are so lead by the member "downstairs" that they can't think with their brains. Usually any guy under the age of 25 isn't trying to get too serious with anyone.
2007-12-27 16:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wanted a piece of booty. You said no, but he kept pushing you to have sex before you were ready. If he was really into you he would have taken no for an answer the first time. If he was a decent guy he wouldn't have asked you for sex so early on either. Since he didn't intro you to ANYONE, I don't think he saw you as anything serious. As far as the promises go, they were just ways to get into your pants. Moving to your country after only knowing you for a few months? You don't know each other! I've had a guy try to propose once in order to get into my pants (we only knew each other for a few months). Needless to say, he didn't get anywhere.
Blow him off & find a better guy. Hopefully his booze cruise will crash on a deserted island & take one more loser guy out of the dating population.
2007-12-27 17:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First has he contacted you since you 2 dated those 3 months??? IF not well...I think he was just using you to have someone around. 2nd- You mention moving to another country to be with you if he had to, is he not from the same place as you?? If not, how did you 2 hook up??? 3rd-Ask him what is it he wants with your relationship. If he is free to see others (vacation or not) well....I think you are 2 and you need to move on. How old are you??? That's a lot of questions but I don't need the answers you do. Ask yourself and Really LISTEN and see what you come up with. Good Luck!!
2007-12-27 17:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Karen K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really sure, since you did not sleep with him, I guess I would have to say no. But maybe he does not know what he wants from you. How old is he? sounds like he is very young and most young guys not all have a hard time settling down. Just be glad that you did sleep with him and move on and get to know someone else, and remember to always take your time. Good one, lol
2007-12-27 17:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by Marcilla M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to say it, but yes, I think he was. C'mon, you're dating him and he's e-mailing girls randomly & off galavanting around Estonia without you on a "booze cruise", so he can, "Party all night long"?!!!
Fortunately, not all guys are like this. Keep looking, he's out there.
2007-12-27 16:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Gary D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey... I don't necessarily think he used you, it just sounds like he is not committed or serious. If you cut off the whole thing and he does nothing sincere to try and be with you, then maybe he will realize what he has and change his ways! Just trust your instincts and if something does not feel right.... trust yourself and go with that!
2007-12-27 17:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbow Bright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't take it as seriously as you did. He was "having fun" dating like many guys do at that age, but you sound like you got your heart broken! Someone who was serious about making a commitment would have told his family. He obviously wasn't ready to make a commitment. It's good you didn't give yourself to him in the bedroom. You would've felt even more betrayed!!
2007-12-27 17:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter? It sounds like it's over and I'm glad you realize that you deserve better. Always observe the red flags (i.e. not introducing you to friends and family). Best of luck finding a decent guy in the future... guys like him make it impossible for guys like me!
2007-12-27 16:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by BM1234567 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just wanted to get in your pants and if you would have "put out" he would have been gone months ago.
Good for you....you didn't let him take advantage of you!!!
I say move on and find a real man. JMO
2007-12-27 16:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by renwork04 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋