like its not that difficult. i live with both my parents. my best friend invited me to go with her to ottawa thats only 3 hours away by drive for 3 days on new years eve. im 18 years old turning 19 in 2 months. my mom said its okay but my dad said that bad things happen on new years eve and that i cant go. i said he could talk to her parents about the trip but he still says no. every year at my house on new years eve we always do the same thing..stay home and watch a movie and he says we should do the same. he says i cant even go out to a party my friend is having cuz bad things happen on new years eve. he says he trusts me but he just doesnt trust the people out there. and just the other day he said to me "why cant u grow up?". ggrrrrrr im sssoooo mad i really wanna go on the trip what do i do? advice please!
2007-12-27 08:39:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So i asked my dad if he would let me go up their (I live in New Jersey USA) if i was 18 (I'm now 14) and he said no. n I asked him why and he said basically the same thing your dad said, and when i asked him his reasoning and he said that he wants to protect me in the world and even though he does want me to grow up his still wants me to be his little girl. He still wants to control everything about me growing up as much as he can and he said that bad things' could happen on New Years eve and that protecting me from them is his sole purpose in life. Well i hope that that helped.
Monique
2007-12-27 09:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Monique♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have my 19 year old son and his 19 year old fiance living with us. I would give my opinion(which would be to find something close to home to do--as it is dangerous out on New Years Eve-think about it--and accident because of drunk drivers is not worth it) But is would be his choice. You are an adult now--lots of things to think about!!!
Yes it is difficult to let go---you just wait!!!
2007-12-27 08:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is eighteen too. She and that i've got the comparable issues you're having. and that i be attentive to that's annoying to comprehend the place we (the mum and dad) are coming from. people circulate out and get quite under the impression of alcohol and extreme on New 3 hundred and sixty 5 days's. i don't be attentive to why they could desire to push the obstacles yet they do. Your mum and dad be attentive to approximately documents and such. and that they be attentive to that females such as you (reliable women) finally end up in a foul difficulty in basically some seconds and that they did no longer ask to be interior the situation. New 3 hundred and sixty 5 days's Eve is so cool! and all people desires to circulate out and function a reliable time. We additionally do like your loved ones does. sit down at homestead and watch a movie and all people is going exterior at nighttime and lights fireworks. (we are residing interior the country) Your mum and dad love you. and that they do in simple terms no longer desire you to grow to be a statistic. there's a advertisement the place i stay. It says "it quite is Shannon. She is eighteen. 5'7" tall. Bruenette. She likes her acquaintances and to observe activities, and is a cheerleader. Shannnon would be killed by applying a under the impression of alcohol driving force. Are you going to kill Shannon?" The maximum eldritch component approximately this advertisement, is that my daughters call occurs to be Shannon. I could desire to tutor the radio off whilst it comes on. It scares me to dying to think of approximately you childrens accessible customary and everynight. no longer understanding what can ensue. i'm sorry your dealing with this. Please do as your mum and dad ask. Or in case you do ensue to circulate out, take your mum and dad alongside. reliable success!
2016-10-09 06:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you're 18, perhaps you may consider the idea of moving out of your parents' home. OR, perhaps when he asks, next time, why you cant grow up, you may answer with,
"because dad, you arent allowing me to. I need to make mistakes in order to learn adulthood"
However, that could be considered disrespectful. So it may make him angry.
2007-12-27 09:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have been their little baby boy for so many years. Their little kootchy kootchy koo. Their widdle wuvey woo woo. Their little dumpling cake.
Ok enough with the baby talk.
But point is....they are afraid to let you go. Afraid you will get hurt.
Some use that to be abusive.
2007-12-27 09:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by kickindevilbutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're old enough to decide whether you should go or not. I know when i was 18 and my parents wouldnt let me do ****, i would do it anyways...
2007-12-27 08:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously.
your 18.
Just go.
Don't ask. Tell. Say..I'm going with my friend..
see you when I get back.
2007-12-27 08:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋