well I've been with my girlfriend for 11-months (almost a year) and well like she always thought of me as "perfectly loyal" i knew this wasn't true...so i told her that in the past, when she really angered me, i checked out another girls *** and ive been involved in conversations talking about other girls...(nothing too deep, just saying who look sbetter than who) i even apologized and wrote a poem
well she felt betrayed and said that she doesnt really trust me and stuff, and now she keeps reminding me of it constantly...what should I do?
any advise or anything would really help...
2007-12-27 08:30:39 · 24 answers · asked by Mikey =P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like you're in High School... It's ok. You will both grow up and look back... and laugh.
2007-12-27 08:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by nava 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Brother, you did nothing wrong. It sounds like you were a great boyfriend, and she is overreacting in a big way. All guys check other girls out, but its nothing serious. It doesn't mean you were cheating or unfaithful. It just means you have a keen eye for beauty. And don't kid yourself into thinking that she never checked out another guy. Not a big deal. As far as the conversations go, that is normal and healthy. You can still be friends with girls while in a relationship. And the peom was a great idea. She needs to lay off and move on, because it sounds like she has a damn good boyfriend.
2007-12-27 08:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Vengeful_Hippie (AM) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see anything wrong with being involved in conversations with other girls and guys checking out other females is usually an unspoken reality with most of them. I think this is a small issue that she's making bigger probably because something bigger has been bothering her. If she keeps reminding you of it and going at you then just try once to apologize and tell it to her straight and otherwise find another girlfriend as that is a toxic relationship.
2007-12-27 08:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Apple Gal 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look buddy... You're a man. Men are bound to check out other women or talk about them. It's in our nature. We just appreciate the female form. Now you didn't cheat on her, and as long as you don't do so, you shouldn't have to apologize for anything. By the way, you shouldn't have told her about your wandering eyes in the first place. It's a given that men's eyes wander. She should know that. And she should accept it. If she won't accept it, she's in total denial. Good Luck bud.
PS: This post is bound to get some thumbs down, especially from women, but I'm only telling the truth. Stone me for it if you will.
PPS: In no way am I encouraging any guy to cheat on his woman. That's a big no no. But we have eyes, and women are beautiful. We're bound to look.
2007-12-27 08:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by stratostix 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if she is delusional enough to think that any man will think of her and only her then omg! i mean i could understand if you cheated on her but you have not done anything wrong! You have apologised aswell and wrote a poem. Tell her to deal with it, and that you have not actually done anything with another girl. You need to ask her to stop bringing it up whenever she wants to make you feel like crap. Ask her what the main problems are with what you have "done" and talk through it, after that conversation state that she cannot bring it up again. As for the trust thing, you are just going to have to work on that one with her. Ask her what she wants/needs from you to be able to trust again.Good Luck
2007-12-27 08:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my gf is the same way, only ive never done anything to make her think that way. she says shes worried about it alot bc ive never really had a menaingful relationship before her...and bc she says im so good looking she doesnt believe me on that. Ask her what makes her doubt u and use that to try and show her u r being honest. she should at least respect that uve told her...but shes also thinking ur trying to tell her, but not telling her the whole truth. any mention about other women....and most of them will automatically believe something happened because most believe men are pigs and try to conquer as much...well u know.
2007-12-27 08:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by kingfan19 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey if the relationship is really wrth saving tust me youll do anything thats worth saving it for.
When you get mad it is best to explain calmly that you are to angry to talk about it right now and go do what ever it is that calms you down.
The part that you said about you talking to other girls about who looks bette than who? Well that is called Fishing...Fishing for compliments. Dont do that. Just focus on your relationship not what other girls think about you. How does that help your relationship....it doesn't.
As far as her trusting you... well if this relationship is worthsaving then you will trust have to earn it back over time.
Remember...Love is patient, love is kind and love is not jealous.
john
2007-12-27 08:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by john W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i would advise you to do something nice for her... take her to a date (something she would love to do)... tell her how you feel towards her and yeah say sorry one more time about you checking out other girls, tell her that no-one is like her and you wouldn't leave her for anyone (of course if it's true). Then ask her in a nice way to please stop bringing that stupid comment up..
Now you have to understand that girls can trust you a lot but once you do something stupid ; that will change. Rebuild that trust she had towards you.. .. love, trust and communication are the pillars to a relationship.
2007-12-27 08:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ecuanena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, give her time. You've basically done everything you could think of doing without being to pushy I'm guessing. If I were her, I'd want time to myself to think about some things and think about the relationship more.
Give her a little space for now but keep talking to her. Maybe you two could talk about it and come up with some solution. But you both need to be willing to communicate.
2007-12-27 08:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you and your girlfriend older than 12? Quite frankly, this behavior strikes me as very juvenille. Looking at another girls @ss is not a betrayal, nor is discussing attractiveness in the opposite sex. Possesiveness never works to bring a couple closer.
2007-12-27 08:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What in the hell? You wrote a poem? Lame.
So you've checked out other girls? Thats sorta what makes you almost male. Now she doesn't trust you because you look at other girls? Tell her to get a life.
It may sound harsh, but come on.. look, just don't touch.
2007-12-27 08:34:24 · answer #11 · answered by p_rutherford2003 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋