been lonely ? lived alone by yourself for any stretch of time with little or nobody to turn to ?
how did you cope ?
im 30 i have borderline personality disorder and live in a one bedroom flat on disability benifit.
i have been in a rut recentley, isolating myself in my flat , not wanting to face the world....not even answering my phone.....my thoughts are racing where i feel overwhelmed.....keep forgetting things....dont even want to deal with opening mail.
my moods fluctuate everyday...always low and hopeless...feeling reliant on benifit...feel worried about going out and facing society.
a couple of weeks ago i missed a therapy appointment because of high levels of panic/ anxiety....so now theyve discharged me to be refered again.....so i feel i let myself down with that.
i have goals and dreams i dont no how to reach...and i feel unable to rely on myself...like i want a person to come do it all for me.
plus i have alot of worries, stress & im not sure where to start.
2007-12-27 08:25:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
it's time to change your pattern and get out of the funk you are in. You have so much to offer to the world..don't let this world of foolish people keep you from moving on and getting those dreams and things you want and desire so badly...you must know that with God and Jesus, you are NEVER alone...never...and be strong and go for it....
2007-12-27 21:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first had my son my partner was at home as it was the school holidays and although not a teacher he works in a school so gets more time off in the school break. He went back to work when our son was 6 weeks and within a week I felt exactly like you describe. I have no family locally, all of my friends work full time - a couple have kids but they live miles away and I'd just moved to a new area when I was about 32 weeks pregnant - I knew nobody in my locality! I worked right up until I had my son (well I was on work placement finishing my social work masters so was at Uni too!) I remember thinking, god is this it? I love my son dearly and hate the thought of going back to work and leaving him but I was soooooooo lonely. I'd leap on my partner as soon as he walked in the door so desperate was I for an adult conversation - hell I'd even pick a fight if I had to! I have made some friends now and they are great, but there are still days, especially now its winter and miserable out, that I feel very isolated and lonely. I suffered from depression after a miscarriage last year and was on citalopram until I fell pregnant with my son. I do worry about it creeping back in so I do my best to avoid it but yeah there are days I just want to hang out under the duvet - the little man however, is not always so keen - I guess its him that keeps me going on those days. edit: I'm not sure where in the UK you are, for some reason I think Scotland but I'm not sure why? Anyway, do you have any children's centres nearby (the SureStart ones) that's where I made my friends - at a breastfeeding cafe in a childrens centre. We've now done baby massage. we do baby music and buggy buddies, there's always a free session on somewhere. I find getting out at least 3-4 times a week helps and also having a couple of the girls back for lunch and a gossip.
2016-04-11 03:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah - I was sent to the hole when I was in prison. I got to take a book with me, though. Thank God for Patrick O'Brian. His books kept me sane, and I really enjoyed the adventures of Capt. Jack Aubrey and Dr. Steven Maturin.
Sounds like you need a new psychiatrist, maybe better meds.
We all have goals and dreams that we fail at achieving. Most of my life is destroyed because of being convicted of something I didn't do. Now, I pay the penalty for life. However, we go on because it is the only option. The best success is when we get to spit in the faces of those who persecute us, and say, "SEE! I DID IT ANYWAY!" Then, we forgive them and move on.
Time to move on Rochefort. You spend so much time worried about your own problems that you fail to see your own successes. If we are blinded by our inabilities, we will never be able to see our abilities. Take off the blinder and get on with your life.
2007-12-27 15:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Following on from last comment to you: Stop fighting everything, accept that you need to change, accept that you are afraid. Decide to take on new positive behaviours. Stop reacting with your anger and fear. You are not the little boy who was abused. Believe that you can and will change.
Believe that you can be strong. You are the only person you can depend on. Keep your next appointment and get a book on behavioural change (wish I had one to recommend) so that you work on it at home. Go to the appointments and put one step in front of the other. I promise you - if you embrace change you will improve your life. Imagine how good that will feel.
2007-12-27 08:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by flip 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're in this situation. You really should seek the guidance of a medical professional that you can talk with and perhaps get medication to assist you with getting out of the rut and becoming more productive. Good luck!
2007-12-27 08:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by JPO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many people in the world have no one.
2007-12-27 14:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by indieochre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear we must endure and try to live our lives the best we can ; I am in a similar situation and your words are the same I would have used .
My heart and prayers are with you - please take care of yourself .
2007-12-27 08:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey how about you try to find some people in your area you can relate to, i feel the same by the way, but you can make yourself happy, just give it your best try. happy holidays xxx
2007-12-27 08:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋