am I in the wrong?

Question

I am a young preacher, and I am in love with a young girl that use to come to my church and she loved me. but her dad wanted to havd sex with some girl so he left our church to live in sin. And there for she had to leave as well. its been a year since I seen her lovely face or talked to her but one day out of the blue I had a dream about her and now I cant stop thinking about her. I cant get a hold of her because I dont have her number. I so want to see her lovely face and hold her in my arm's and tell her I love her once more. Is that wrong for me to wish.

I am a young preacher, and I am in love with a young girl that use to come to my church she is 16 and so am I and she loved me. but her dad wanted to havd sex with some girl so he left our church to live in sin. And there for she had to leave as well. its been a year since I seen her lovely face or talked to her but one day out of the blue I had a dream about her and now I cant stop thinking about her. I cant get a hold of her because I dont have her number. I so want to see her lovely face and hold her in my arm's and tell her I love her once more. Is that wrong for me to wish.

Answer 1

relax and let God reveal His plans for you. while it's odd that you just suddenly started thinking about her, you might consider that God has put her on your heart for a reason. don't get all obsessive about it and just pray for God to reveal the reason.

it's not wrong for you to wish to be with this girl, but a year has gone by and she may not be the same person she was when you last saw her. see the situation with God's eyes and His heart...you will not be disappointed.

Answer 2

I had the same thing happen to me, I had a vision of getting married to a guy I fell in love with but in the end I was to young, Satan can give you visions and dreams to make you think you should marry someone and that will get you off track with God.
God has timing for everything under the heavens (that is in the Bible) so leave it alone until you are sure you are ready to get married.
Here is a helpful hint, don't tell her you love her till you are courting because that will just stir up emotions the were made for marrage.
Good luck and don't forget when you have dreams or thoughts always bring them to God, and never go by your feelings.

Answer 3

You need to add more detail to your question,
Your age and status, her age and status, You know what the scriptures say in this regard or if not then you should not be ministering to others. You are being enticed and drawn out by your own desires and this gives way to sin.
You should not be holding her if marriage is not intimate.
So to start off with you need to be honest with yourself, and by giving in to fleshly desires you feed the god of this world and he will claim you in the last day.
AS THERE are desires that lead to death, so there are desires that lead to life. These are right desires and are the ones a Christian must cultivate. While he was part of the world he shared its cravings and was moving with it along the broad way to destruction. But now that he is no longer a part of it, but has separated from it, he must leave those old desires behind and cultivate new ones. The apostle Peter made that clear when he said: “For the time that has passed by is sufficient for you to have worked out the will of the nations when you proceeded in deeds of loose conduct, lusts, excesses with wine, revelries, drinking matches, and idolatries that are without legal restraint.” (1 Pet. 4:3, ) But when a person separates from the world and dedicates his life to the service of God, agreeing to obey the Most High, he can no longer ignore the legal restraints placed upon human conduct by the Scriptures. He must keep his desires within the bounds God has set.

Answer 4

If she is not a minor, then why could she not stay at church? If she is a minor, then you are a sicko.

It is not wrong for you to wish that, but what would you advise a parishiner in a similar situation? If you would tell them to drop it and move on, then that is what you should do. You are a preacher, I am sure you see your share of marital problems. Stop thinking with your heart and start thinking about this logically and counsel with the Lord, then you will know what you should do.

Answer 5

as far as I know, theres nothing against Preachers seeing people who go to their church... So I cannot imagine there being anything wrong with merely dreaming about someone either...

Now... I have to ask though... How old was she ? How old are you ? I mean... you mention that she had to move away when her father did and that she was a young girl, so I have to wonder whether there is an age factor there... sort of goes with whether its wrong or not to be thinking about her that way...

Answer 6

all dreams don't come from God you seem to have a lot of confusion that doesn't come form Good either I might suggest Battlefield of the mind by Joyce Meyers or Love one another by watchman Nee. both of these books address the mind and thoughts. I will be praying for you.

Answer 7

IF you are actually a preacher, you might want to take some grammar classes. Do you feel that your affection for her is approved by God, God pleasing and honorable? Or is it something "other" than that ? Are you putting God first or are you putting yourself/girl first? Hey, if Jesus had the same sort of situation, ask yourself W.W.J.D. ?

Answer 8

It is wrong. You sound like a pedophile. If she has to go were her dad goes I would assume she's under 18. Also your a hypocrite for saying her father is living "a life of sin" while you want that same sin with an underage girl.

Answer 9

Being in love is not a sin. Making love sometimes is. Pray a lot.

Answer 10

Why on earth would she have to leave because her father wanted to? The only reason I can think of is that she is not an adult. If that is true, you have no business with her.