How do I make my relationship stronger?

Question

Ive been with my boyfriend for aout 3yrs and we seem to spend more and more tme apart. We argue alot do to my jealousy and possesiveness. I just really need some great advice on strengthening my relationship

Answer 1

I think you might need to go to therapy. No, don't get me wrong, I don't think you are crazy. Many times we use jealousy and act possessive because there are some issues we need to resolve within ourselves. Like for example, self-image and self-esteem problems. I have a friend who is like that with not just her boyfriends but with her friends too. She has been going to therapy and has improved greatly. Also, remember that you can love someone and not be with them all the time. Give him some space, trust him, don't be calling 2, 3, 4 times a day, even if it is to tell him you love him (especially that, it loses meaning after a while). Let him go out with his friends, I would even say, sugest it to him. Say: "Sweetie, you have been working hard, and haven't had a break or gone out with your friends in a while, why don't you get together with them?..." Or something like that. And don't call him while he is with them or be asking him about what they did or where they went.

But my best advise to you is to get help for your possessiveness and your jealousy and you'll see how things improve.
But remember that if it's already to late for this relationship, you still have to get help for your problem so you don't repeat it with your future boyfriends or future husband.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Take the trust in a relationship to the next level. If you learn to trust the person you are with to a greater extent then as a result your relationship will be stronger and deeper. Another way would be to experience new things together, maybe a vacation. Add new romance to the relationship by something simple, going on a romantic date or surprise flowers. When you do that it brings back those first feelings of love that reconnects the relationship to like when it was new. A person must feel as though they are comfortable, wanted, loved and needed in a relationship if those characteristics are re-embraced then the relationship is being held tighter together. Good luck!

Answer 3

First the jealousy and possessiveness needs to stop this will not only push a man away but push him to cheat as well. Remember there is not a man alive who enjoys nagging so stop and he will want to spend more time with you.
Second communicate better. You two need to learn how to discuss the issues at hand rather than argue.
You have pin pointed you weakness now admit to him what problems you cause in the relationship and he may admit to his.

Answer 4

You need to stop being so possessive! You're going to drive him away.
Figure out why you are so possessive and jealous and work on that. Find things you like to do independent of him and do them.
It sounds like he is distancing himself, so you may not be able to strengthen a relationship unless he wants that as well.
It's great to be in a relationship...but it's also nice to do things with friends or alone. Communicate with him and see if this relationship still has a chance, and honestly work on your trust and self confidence issues. You haven't mentioned any reasons not to trust him, so it's time you start.

Answer 5

I understand what you are going through. The best thing to do it give him all your trust. Give him some space and let him ask you to do things for a while and then when you guys aren't together leave him his freedom. He'll love you more for it. Don't ask questions about where he's been and who he's talking to. It will really drive him away. Put yourself in his shoes. and try to honestly trust him. but even if you have doubts, don't make him have to deal with them.

Answer 6

After 3 years, the word "; relationship:" gets a little old.
Maybe it's time to decide, marriage , or part your ways. When you have a "relationship" you don't own them and they don't ,owe you a thing..

Answer 7

First - you both have to want that. So say what you just said to him and make sure he wants it too. Then if yes, ask what do you need to feel closer to me. And he should answer that question for you also. Then make a plan to carry that out for each other.

Answer 8

I would recommend that you sit down with him to establish goals for your relationship and express goals that each of you have. As sad as it may be, you may see that this growing feeling is something that will happen. Better to be open about this so as not to hurt one another.

Answer 9

use ducktape

bt oda dan dat u have 2 tlk 2 each ova nd understand each oda

stop bein jealous

if u dnt trust him den maybe dis relation ship is goin downhill

Answer 10

i've been in a relationship for almost 4 years and it is hard since all we do is fight and argue...we need some time apart and i think you and your bf do too