I guess one of the biggest problems between my husband and I is his mother. He will drop everything to help when his mother calls for something, wheather it be money for her or family member, needs airline tickets, her car breaks, he will fix it and pay for the parts and give her my car to drive. He even makes plans with her and doesn't tell me until the day and I have to go. He speaks 2 languages (english and spanish),she only speaks spanish. He says that his mom doesn't have money and he wants to help her but they all wear timberlands, nike/southpole, computer etc. One day he told me that his mom needed 400 and she would pay me back weekly, that was 3 years ago and now he tells me to forget about it. Not to mention the first 400 to have her move here 600 for her apt, the list goes on. Am I over reacting when I question him on why he does that since we are struggling and the times we asked her for help she said no. He always tells me its his mom and will help no matter what.
2007-12-27 08:08:24 · 5 answers · asked by slc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not a selfish person, I like to help people too but I don't think helping is always money. I am jealous because I can't be close to my family cuz of racial issues.
2007-12-27 08:45:48 · update #1
I guess he FEELS that he has to help his mum but he also has to realise that he has his OWN family too.
Stress your worries to him and if he doesn't listen, leave him or kick him out and he can go and be his mothers full time carer. You can always get assistance from DSS until your on your feet
2007-12-27 08:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He answered your question: its his mom and will help no matter what. Why do you have a problem with that? Are you just being selfish or is there a real problem here? Does he treat you worse or something? My guess is that he treats you just as well, but you're a little jealous and selfish. What would you do if it were your mom? You need to grow up some or at least see things from another's point of view.
2007-12-27 08:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by tshnobodysfool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's his mom but he has to draw the line somewhere I don't know how many people know this or not but after you get married your wife is first mother second maybe he needs to move back home alone. Good Luck to you
2007-12-27 08:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a partnership.
Either he gets that, or there is NO PARTNERSHIP.
It's nice he wants to help his mom. But he married YOU.
I'd remind him of that.
2007-12-27 08:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should start "helping" your family, even they don't need still do it, equal amount of money, for example: your MIL needs $400.00, great...now, $400.00 for your family and so on...$600.00 to her and $600.00 to your family "...to help..."
Let us know how he going to like that!!...
LOL
2007-12-27 08:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bubi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋