I'm a divorced mom of a 8 yr old son. My ex is remarried and I know his wife takes my son out shopping for his dad but i still like to get my son a little something to give his dad for holidays. For example this x-mas i got a nice frame that said " I love my daddy" and put in a photo i took of my ex and son together. What do you guys think about me doing this? In the 5 yrs of our divorce my ex never got my son a gift to give me (don't expect it) but am wondering if i'm wrong in doing this.
2007-12-27 07:59:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think it is great that you do this, for your son, not so much for the dad. I think it is important for your son to see that you and his father have respect for each other and are nice to one another.
2007-12-27 08:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the gift is being given from your son to his dad, and your son likes you getting something for him to give, then that is great. However, at age 8, maybe you should take your son shopping and let him pick out the gift (with a dollar limit). If my daughter wanted to get a gift for her dad, I would take her out and give her a little money for it. That is about making her happy and has nothing to do with her dad really. However, if your son doesn't care if you get this extra gift, then don't do it.
2007-12-30 17:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. Keep doing it. I did the exact same thing (the photo frame with a picture in it) from my son for his father for his birthday last month. I bought 3 Christmas presents for my ex-husband (who spends Christmas with us at my home) and put "To Daddy From (our son's name)" on all of them. I let my son pick out the color of one of the shirts so he felt like he had something to do with the gifts. Because my ex-husband and I still have a very close relationship (he flies 2500 miles every six weeks to see our son and he stays in our home), he gets me presents on Christmas and my birthday. You are doing the right thing by maintaining that kind of relationship between your son and his father. Your son will appreciate it someday when he realizes that, even though his parents are divorced, you cared about him having a bond with his dad. You sound like a good mom. Way to go!
2007-12-27 08:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by aloha.girl59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are totally in the right here. What you are doing is showing your son how to have a nice friendly relationship between you and your sons dad. Your not supposed to talk bad and be like no were not buying your dad something for Christmas. That would leave a bad taste in your mouth and make your son wonder what he did wrong to make you hate or angry with his dad. What you are doing is totally healthy for your son and if his dad or step mom gets upset about it tell them to kiss your a** you are doing what is best for your son.
2007-12-27 11:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by H mom of 3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right. Your son will appreciate your gesture. My ex and I have been exchanging Xmas and birthday gifts for a few years now, even though our son is now 20 years old. We decided it was easier to be friends than enemies, for our son's sake. I don't think being nice can be considered the wrong thing to do in any situation like this.
2007-12-27 08:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
not at all! my mom buys my half sisters dad a present every year "from" my little sister of course this year my mom got my sister for her dad a gift cert to applebees for the both of them to go out and eat together. My sisters dads new wife buys my mom a gift from my sister. It seems like maybe your son's dad is scared of his new wife that she gets jealous easy and he doesnt want to cause plms by getting u a gift even tho its from your son maybe they are just not very thoughtful people. At any rate I think it shows you have class. :)
2007-12-29 01:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by missology 101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not incorrect. Your newborn at 5 years previous isn't sufficiently previous to get a recent by means of himself so that's completely comprehensible which you're able to take him paying for. That your ex does no longer return the desire in simple terms means that he's egocentric and not as considerate as you're. My mom did an identical situation with my brother and that i as quickly as we've been youthful. Our organic and organic father behaved an identical way as your ex. And that's sturdy to your son to have the skill to furnish that present with the aid of fact no one at his dad's house is conscious what that's beside him so he gets to have his very own secret, for a jointly as, and then he gets to rejoice together with his dad's reaction while he opens the present. those are very sturdy issues for a youthful newborn to journey. Peace, Jenn
2016-10-20 02:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by mcclune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are not wrong. It just teaches your son about gift giving you know, I did the same thing with my son.
2007-12-27 08:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that what you are doing makes a big difference in the eyes on your son. It shows that their is no animosity toward the other parent and your child feels safe to express how he feels. You should be very proud of yourself their are not many parents that think of the other in this kind of situation.
2007-12-27 08:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means more to your son than you could ever imagine. I think it's great that you would do that.. especially since it was something "directly related to that father-son relationship". Sometimes people can overstep boundaries and get a "personal" gift.. but as long as it is evident that it's coming from your son I think it's great!
2007-12-27 08:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by jenadee_01 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋