parents♥♥how would you react if your teenage kid told you that?

Question

he/she was gay....how would you react?

Answer 1

It's easy enough for us all to answer this question but until it happens to our own kid, none of us would know how we would react.

The age is quite important. I remember when I was a teenager and one of the girls I was sort of friends with was gay. I remember talking to some of my friends about it and our verdict was that, at the age we were (13-14) it was impossible to know exactly what our sexuality was because we were not "experienced" enough with dating both genders.

The most important thing to remember is that they are still your child no matter what. Because people think being straight is the "norm" they get scared when someone says they're gay. Straight or gay, they're still the same person and it doesn't matter what their sexuality is.

I would like to think that in this situation, I would be understanding and accepting but who knows. I'll only know if it happens...

Answer 2

Remember you cannot judge them you have to love them the same because you could have been one the few women in this world who cannot not have kids. So be grateful for your child. Aids is a very big concern in the gay community so educate him or her about this and all the other diseases and practicing safe sex. You may not be happy with who they are now but because it is a teenager you cannot stop being that child's parent. Just as if they were dating the opposite sex you would want to meet the other person and monitor what is going on. You have to now welcome who they want to date (if they are of age to do so) into your home so that they feel some support and not feel neglected and end up being promiscuous; because they want someone to talk to and you are shutting them down and out. Being gay is now a part of life so don't act shock let them see that they are no different than before and nothing has changed between you both and the rules of the household.

Answer 3

This happened to someone dear to me. A few years ago, my friend's 11 year old son told her he was gay. She did not believe him because she thought he was way too young to know. Now, he is 15 or 16 and the signs are all obvious now. He says he is a female trapped in a man's body and acts very openly feminine though he was raised to be a big, tough boy.

My friend has done a beautiful job of accepting her son, but at first, she did quite poorly in confronting him. She yelled and cussed him out when she caught him kissing another boy. She spanked him, put him on restriction, set him down to talk to a pastor, and did so many other (some even unspeakable) things to try to discourage him from being gay. She wanted to reform him and make him be the normal boy she raised him to be. He finally made it clear to her that he is still the same respectful person she raised him to be. He made her understand that it is not her fault that he became that way. She had been a wonderful mother and role model to him and he knew she loved him deeply. It took about a year after she got over the initial shock for her to finally realize this was who her son was and that she must accept him the way he is.

I hope and pray that if one of my children tells me they are gay that I can simply accept it without putting them through what my friend put her son through before she learned to accept it. I will put my loving arms around my child and make it clear that no matter what, the depths of my love will only grow deeper with time. I just want my children to be happy.

Answer 4

My friend has done a beautiful job of accepting her son, but at first, she did quite poorly in confronting him. She yelled and cussed him out when she caught him kissing another boy. She spanked him, put him on restriction, set him down to talk to a pastor, and did so many other (some even unspeakable) things to try to discourage him from being gay. She wanted to reform him and make him be the normal boy she raised him to be. He finally made it clear to her that he is still the same respectful person she raised him to be. He made her understand that it is not her fault that he became that way. She had been a wonderful mother and role model to him and he knew she loved him deeply. It took about a year after she got over the initial shock for her to finally realize this was who her son was and that she must accept him the way he is.

Answer 5

First I would take a deep breath, exhale slowly. Look at them say I love you, tell me more. Whether you agree or not and if you want future contact with them, do not say things you can't take back. After all they are still your kid. the one you raised and loved. That part will never change. You need to have a open conversation with them. Can you imagine how difficult this is for the teen? How you react now will set the standard for the future.

Answer 6

Speaking as a Mum of 2, I'd hug them and tell them I loved them no matter what. I'm not saying it wouldn't be a shock but the parents who disown their kids or treat them differently after hearing something like that should think really hard about what they've done. It's not like being gay is a terrible thing. Being a parent is about being supportive and loving.
Are you going to tell your parents something!? If you are then I'm sure it' be fine, if not, what a curious question!!! x

Answer 7

I would ask them how do they know if are gay and how long have they felt this way. Do you have a mate in mind, and what caused you to come to this decision. Is this just something, an experiment, or are you really serious...
Ask them the importance of understanding about HIV and std's and other issues concerning this lifestyle.. Offer assistance and reading material. BUT WHATVER YOU DO, dont be judgemental and criticise the child b/c this could cause them to fear this lifestyle or any issues they want to share w/you in the future.

Answer 8

I don't know how I would react. I hope that I would be calm about it. I would be disappointed, but I would still love my child no matter what. I hope that all these people who say they would spank them or kick them out of the house or tell them they aren't gay are joking. I would be glad that my child felt that he/she could come to me, and even though I may not like the fact that my child was gay, I would want him/her to know that they would always be my child and part of my family and that I would always be there for them no matter what.

Answer 9

parents you have to realize that your kids wouldn't be telling you unless they knew that you would love them, no matter if they like the same sex.
Because you have to get with the fact that your kid might not be going threw a little fase, but they really could be in love with the same sex.
Be happy for you kid, and thank god you even were blessed with one.
I'm not gay. But my best friend is bi, and her parents told her that they wanted to file a restraining order on the girl that she was seeing
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Answer 10

I would love them anyway. My husband and I have talked about this. We have 3 small children, but we vow to never react out of anger, no matter what they may tell us in the future. Pregnancy, homosexuality, bisexuality, drug problems... its all something that doesn't change the fact that I love my child.