What happens if ...?

Question

I asked this question yesterday and people took it the wrong way. I'm gonna try to explain it better.
If you have an ugly child how would you feel? Would you feel responsisible for the way your child looks? Everytime someone mocks your child because of they way they look would you feel to blame? Would you force your child to get plastic surgery to fix their imperfection so they won't have to suffer with what you caused? What would you do if you have an unattractive child and you know they're misrable because of how they look. I know every parent thinks their child is beautiful in someway but what if you know that what you think is not true.
BTW- People made fun of my user name last night with this question. I'm not obese, it's an inside joke I have with my friends. According to many I'm attractive so don't make fun of me when u don't know me. I'm not a parent but I've always wonder about this question.
Please Don't be mean. If I marry an unattractive man will our kids suffer?

I do care about personality. But when a child knows their ugly they go into depression. A few a my friends go through it. I don't want my kids to suffer liek them.

Answer 1

first off, some people are going to take this the wrong way, look at some of the answers people have posted.

to answer your question;
if the parent is very practcal, they will realize that ther kid isn't all that attractive,
and teenagers are often unnecessarily rude, especially to girls.
if guys aren't so hot and try to hit on pretty girls, they will get made fun of...
but other than that they should be fine in high school.

girls are pretty.
very common thought
and often misconception.
girls who have hairy upper lips
dont shave their legs
are overweight
etc.
are going to be disliked by at least one person.
just by the way they look
people are like that, and nobody can change it.
it happens, though, beautiful parents make ugly children.
but you know what?
at least one person, ONE person,
WILL absolutely find something beautiful about them
it could be their gorgeous hair
or how their lips are perfectly shaped
if someone loves them,
and someone will,
looking through their eyes,
they will see the 'ugly' person as beautiful.

a lot of time theres ugly people
who are annoying
that
is just not
good
at all
its annoying not because of the fact that maybe theyre ugly
but just because if youre not friends with them
and they cant take the hint
and go away
and they end up coming out of it, i guess, thinking that people hate them because theyre ugly,
when, in actuality, people dont like them because they're annoying.

it'd be horrible to force your kid to get plastic surgery,
but if they come to you hating the fact that they're so ugly,
you have to tell them they're not ugly
no matter whether they think it or not
"youre my mom...you have to think that"
they'll still know it in some small way
that at least one person thinks theyre beautiful.
and it helps, helps a lot.

people saying it doesnt always help though.
take me for example.
all my friends and both my parents and their friends and random people from school tell me that im really pretty, that im hot, sexy, beautiful, whatever.
i dont see it in myself
i really don't.
people try to convince me,
it doesnt really work.

to answer all of your other questions...
i wouldnt feel responsible for it, it happens.
the parents aren't to blame.
reproduction isn't a computer game where you can select which traits from both parents you want the child to have.
if the kid wants plastic surgery,
if they really really neeed it
if theyre deformed or something
let them get it
sometimes its not attractive
though, to hate the way you look so much
that you would change it too look like some stereotype of a perfect person.


and inside jokes are great...i have a million.
some people have issues...listen to them and you'll think you have issues too.
theres too many people liek that in the world
ignoring them is the best way to do away with them.

Answer 2

Everyone parent should think their kids are beautiful. Anyway you could turn out to have a really pretty child and then it turns out to be a dog as an adult.If you are asking this question,i hope you dont have kids. Im actually offended by your shallowness. I know loads of ugly people who have had beautiful kids and vice versa. If your child thinks they are ugly,you fix it by telling them looks count for nothing. I know lots of pretty people whose personalities suck and some ugly people who are the best people ever. Im guessing you are the former.

Answer 3

I am shaking my head as I type this. Any parent will think their child is beautiful. No parent will ever think their children are ugly. I know some ugly people who made BEAUTIFUL kids and I know some good looking people who make ugly kids. To me it soundls like you only care about having a "pretty" kid, grow up! Life is not all about looks, there is something called personality too!

Answer 4

My son has a large hemangioma on his forehead right between his eyes. (its a large birth marks that looks like a goose-egg). Many people see it and comment about how sad it is that he's "deformed" and hope that we can have it corrected. First of all, 99% of the time, they go away on their own. Because of where his is, it has to be watched closely to make sure it doesn't interfere with his vision. Secondly, its not "sad" that anything is wrong with him. NOTHING is wrong with him. Some people may think he looks weird or ugly, but he's my child! He's beautiful and he's precious to me. End of discussion.

Answer 5

I would hope that I could instill into my child that looks aren't everything; that its what a person has on the inside, their heart and soul, that matters.
Though I would never tell them this outright or even encourage it, but if they came to me and said they wanted plastic surgery and were 18 and going to pay for it themselves, I'd support them because I love them and if they feel that it would make them happier then they should do what is best for them.

Answer 6

Okay why would you be to blame?? I mean used to ppl woul tell me that i was ugly, fat ect. and i would believe them and now that i had a boyfriend if people tell me i am ugly then i just tell them whateve....when i told my mom i thought i was ugly she told me i was beyond beautiful and i told her that she was jsut saying that even though i didnts show it, it made me feel a lot better to know that some one cared about me and thought that i looked pretty........I still get told that i am ugly but my mom pounded in my head that i was beautiful and so i just tell them that i am beautiful and walk away because i know that i have a great personality phave tons of friends and know that not everything is based on looks becuz if it were not very many people who arnt really that good looking but have great personalitys wouldnt really have anything to do with society! So just encourage them that they ARE very beautiful and dont let them forget it. Because now that guys see that i am confident in myself and my looks alot of them like me now! so show them that they are beautiful!

Answer 7

I would try and help the child if THEY were worried about their looks. However if they were not concerned, I wouldn't bring it up as I would not want to hurt their feelings. I would try and help them (in a subtle way) to find clothes and stuff which suit them.

Answer 8

i would probably beat the crap out of you if u were a guy

Answer 9

i agree with "dont call me anything".