Anger Managment?

Question

I don't need anger management but Christmas is now near enough over and time to stop shoving my face with food. I wanted to know if you could give me advice on controlling my temper personally without seeing or speaking to anyone of importance about my anger management. Usually when i'm getting beaten at a competitive game such as a sports video game i tend to get a bit angered then if i still don't get things my way i just say stupid things (like blame it on god) and get worked up and hot for no reason. I try and stop my self but i just carry on thus leaving me stressed and miserable towards my family for the next hour or so. Now if anybody could give me some advice on this and tell me how to play video games for fun and not for my health then i would be greatly appreciated and send 10 points your way. Any other little things aswell such as keeping my room tidy and organised then that would make me smile even more (for once)

Answer 1

My dear one, you have taken a big step in controlling your anger, in that you have taken responsibility for it.

You may not want to hear this one, but video games, depending upon what you are playing, can incite anger, especially in a male. Testosterone gets a bad reputation, but it does play into war, aggression, fights, name calling, hitting, murder, and lots of other negative issues.

Playing video games can release testosterone, and you can end up dealing with the fighting feelings that come from it. You're dosing yourself up on war/sex drugs that come from within your own body.

Okay, that said, I suggest you limit your own video game playing time. Make it an hour. No more. Period. Then get up and go outside. Run. Do something physical. That is what your body is designed to do. Flood with war drugs, go make war with your muscles.

DO NOT say anything to your family until you go outside and run around, or lift weights, or get on the treadmill, or do chin ups... something, anything to get the physical end of things used up as you are designed to do.

As for your room, have some self talk. Don't make excuses. Talk to yourself as if you were a guest in your own room or house. Say "this is how it's done here, period." And the clean it up. Get rid of "too many things." If you can't decide what to get rid of, then put everything you don't use daily in a box, and tape it up, and put it on your shelf in your closet. If you don't go looking in the box for 3 months, then just get rid of the whole thing at Goodwill or similar.

Be your own "drill sergeant" like you just went into the military. Make yourself get up in the morning at a certain time, go for a walk or a run, make your bed, clean up your area, and allow yourself no more than an hour at a time with the video game.

And as for your family, be aware that (especially female members including your mom, and any boys that aren't yet adolescents), that your angry outbursts have hurt them deeply. Ask their forgiveness, with words, and say that you love them. Be a real man and do this for them... and then make it part of your Drill Sergeant to yourself routine to do something nice with them, every single day, even if it's just for 5 minutes. A hug, a smile, spending time playing a childish game with a younger sibling can all have far-reaching loving and healing effects.

One final thought here, and that may be that even with all this, you find that the anger continues to be a problem. You may possibly find that to have a little help, even with natural herbs (which you can research online), may be extremely beneficial to you and your family.

Bless you in your grown up approach to this problem.

Best wishes!

Answer 2

Find something that can calm you down. I am really calm near my cat. I pet her and even talk to her. You Should find something that ca;ms u down