is a connection for someone that you have not met in person on the internet real?
share information, likes and dislikes, attitudes and views, seen pictures but thats it...
well my opinion is like if you meet a flight attendant at a bar wich you know you dont get to see her often...
but would Falling in or liking her already be something???
2007-12-27 07:03:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES, it is possible. I used to think it was ridicolous until it happened to me. Truth is technology gives us the chance to get know people even more than you met someone at a bar (you don't see his friends, likes and dislikes at the bar, but on somewhere like Myspace you can reach all those informations)
HOWEVER, don't ever forget that people lie and meeting someone through internet always may be dangerous.
2007-12-27 07:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not real. It feels real, but its not. The reason it is not real is because both you and the other person are not putting forth your real personalities. You are putting forth your best idea of what the other person wants to have in a companion. You are not saying what you really think, you are saying what you think the other person wants you to say. At best you are saying what you wish you could say in real life. What you have always wanted to be able to say. And what you have always wanted someone else to say is what you are hearing from them. That's why you want it to be real so badly. Because for the first time you have found exactly what you've always wanted. That's why it's so scary, and why you don't want to lose it, because it's so perfect right now. But it feels fragile because it is.
The relationship is not real unless you are both being honest. You can't be honest in an internet setting because nothing can make you overcome the urge to pretend you are the perfect match. You can't burp, fart, scowl, walk away, leave the toilet seat up, have mesed up hair. None of that can happen on the internet and all of that can happen in real life and all of that can get on someone's last nerve.
In real life people are not perfect, on the internet they are. I'm sorry to say this, but this relationship will most likely not work out in real life. Hopefully when you mourn this break-up it will teach you to not go finding another one when you get lonely again. That's about the best thing that can come out of it. I wish it were differently for your sake.
Take care, n good luck!
2007-12-27 07:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by princessdemeesa2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, on line dating can work, BUT you have to be on the same page as the person you choose to connect with.
For example, say you chat in the rooms alot. Make sure you are SPECIFIC in what you want. Alot of people who just chat are looking for people to just fool around with...if that is what you want, then go for it and don't expect a long term relationship.
If you join a dating service, for the MOST part...those people are 'looking' for a relationship, but make sure you clarify the whole situation again! Make sure your are looking for what they are looking for and vise versa.
Also, BEFORE YOU MEET, ask a boat load of questions. Even silly things like, do you smoke and do you drink, can make a serious diffrence.
Be careful and if you 'feel' weirded out by someone in chat or on line dating, DON'T MEET... you are not obligated, unless you tell them you are going to meet. If a person doesn't ask you enough questions, or if they seem to talk only about themseleves, it may not be a match. And if you do plan a time and date, SHOW UP...don't stand up people.
Good Luck
2007-12-27 07:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i did , it was 9 yrs ago, back then when 56K modem was a top choice! Now I'm happy married to the one I've met on IRC. I consider the internet as another means of communication. however, be aware that at that time there were less spammers and bizzare ppl as we got today. whatever or whoever you are looking for or found, make sure that there is a TRUST. in my case we developed our relationship over 1 yr or so, and it takes a lot of dedication, patience. As for your question abt the flight attendand. it's just a profession, igf 2 ppl really like each other and no matter what they do in their lives , won't stop them of being togheter for the rest of their lives.
2007-12-27 07:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by sebastianroj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I 'm a puertorrican who use to think that falling in love "via net" was a joke, that was somethin exclusive for people that were unable to crete a social conection or to make friends face to face...... But one day, just checking how this "chat" and MSN things works, i met this argentinian man and the conection ( weird as it sound) was fast. Now, we have 2 kids and a six years happy marriage....
Net love is a possible as regular love... the only important thing in both is to be sincere.
2007-12-27 07:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by arimayeliz f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband through an e-mail discussion group in 1995 (I'm an American and he was British). We have been married for ten years.
Nothing can substitute being together in person. Make sure that if it gets serious you will spend a lot of time together before making a commitment.
2007-12-27 07:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Gen•X•er (I love zombies!) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and RUN as fast as you can. I met a man in 98 i moved in with him in 2002 married 2004 and it was a huge problem. he led me to believe all those years he was one way, but once he had his cluches in.....the real himcame out. he figured out, while our online dating period (which we lived in the same town, so we physically met a few months after initail contact via internet. we both had young kids, so we talked alot online, and would "date" occasionally. He knew all about my past relationships, my weak points, and he ended up using the knowledge by controlling everything. right down to watching us at home while he was at work. (owned his own business...put 9 cameras in our house) EVERYONE i know who has had a internet relationship, has had problems inthe long run....so RUN
2007-12-27 07:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by powerofmindz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's real enough that a woman went to Texas and married a man that she met on the internet. The man killed her little girl. Didn't you see it on the news?
2007-12-27 07:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by jbeezz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is real. it's no different than falling in love thru letter writing...or speaking to someone on the phone for a very long time without ever having the chance to be with them. love is emotional 1st - always. it doesn't have to become physical for the brain to kick the feelings into motion. but be careful. i DID fall in love with someone that lived 1000 miles away from me, he eventually moved to where I was, moved in with me, stole 5 years of my life then started sleeping with a co-worker and left me broken hearted.
2007-12-27 07:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by NY Lonestar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, Your question is not complete ! But I am a disabled man of faith who has recently fell head over heels in love with his honey ! Sight unseen she gave me the best first true love of my life. I am a shut-in while she has a life and that is tough but God willing we will one day meet, fall even deeper and marry ! Then spend all of eternity as one flesh !!!
2007-12-27 07:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋