Suicide...things will never get better..?? ..Im a 19 yr old male who is struggling with losing his gf of a?

Question

couple of years..whom i planned to marry..it really hit me hard when she dumped me, its been 6 months and everyday is pure hell..i cant stop thinking about her every second of the day & night..& it hurts even more knowing she has another bf & knowing that i never have a chance with her again...she truely made me happy & was everything i wanted..when she broke up with me i tried to commit suicide twice....ive been in the hospital multiple times on suicide watch & ive been on almost every anti anxiety/depression med u can think of...also also many pschychiatrists and therapists..i had many break ups before this, but this was the girl i wanted to spend the rest of my life with...everyday is a struggle for me not to do something..i even tried dating & going out w/ many girls since the break up but it didnt work..i tried spending lots of time with family/ friends & doing things hobbies but nothing has helped..i also have other medical problems & im medical leave from college..i dont want to

i dont want to date anyone else i only want her but ill never have a chance with her again and i know that..i dont want to live any longer..every day is suffereing and misery...i cant do it..please give me the best advice u can..pls dont say go to a doctor i just need your opinion/experices/advice

Answer 1

I used to be like that. I thought to myself that I will never get over this girl and that she was my true love. I did anything and everything for her. I loved and addored her.
I went through depression, thoughts of suicide, etc
I tried all these methods of forgetting her but I would always think about her. Hanging with friends, work out, football, etc

After a while, you really have to sit down and think about this. Seriously, look at yourself from a 3rd person view. I saw myself, down, wasting time mentally mastubaiting over a single girl. You realise that there are many others out there, and after you screw a few you ask yourself "whats so great about the first?". Also, its just a waste of time and it didn't make myself look attractive towards others... nor was it fun to hang out with me because I was too caught up in it

Answer 2

Please, I know is does not matter what other people say. Because really nothing anyone else says is going to make you feel better, but, you are only 19. Please trust me you will find another love that makes you just as if not happier. I am 39 will be 40 in 6 days. I have had many heart breaks and I know how you feel right know. You are so very young and have so much life to live. I have felt suicidal at times and have always realized the next day, what a mistake it would have been if I had done something stupid. As life goes on you will come across many troubled times. It takes time to heal all wounds even mental ones. I wish you the very best and please, please try to look at a brighter future. It is there. You just have to find and believe it. Try working out. It helps clear the mind, sleep better, feel better, and look better for that new girl that will come some day.....

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I had a bf who was so sweet and so great for 2 years. He was not the typical guy he was an old fashioned guy and always caring, honest, helpful, loving.

Then one day I find out he is going out with some nasty ***** because well he likes her and wants to try it with her. It hurt for forever until a year later I met another guy who I feel even more in love with. After a year, I found out the last 3 months we were together he spent cheating on me. That was in 2005, now Im married with an 18 month old and I sill think about him and miss him.

All I can tell you is as much as you love her, and as much as she made you happy...If she can do that to you that easily then she was truely never worth it. If she could hurt you so deeply after all the "I love yous" she threw out...what should that say to you?

I know its hard..trust me I know. The best thing to do is keep busy. Meet other girls, go out and have fun. Just keep yourself busy and youll find it getting easier and easier to cope with.

Answer 4

The thing is life sucks. Plain and simple. Right now you are not alone in your misery, but what you have to look forward to should not be some other random woman, but healing your mind, body and heart. You need to take care of yourself and build a life you want to live before you should worry about finding the new love of your life. I may be a little harder about it because I am experiencing a pretty bad bought of depression and know what it is like to want to end it, but your concern needs to be taking care of you. If you need help and do not want professional help seek the helping hand from friends and family. It is hard to be one to ask for help or a hug at times, but it can be worth it. And if you can't turn to those you know, or have no one look into nami, they have support groups and the benefit of anonymity.

Good luck

Answer 5

Almost everyone has, or will, go through your experience( I know I did). It is part of life. It is extremely painful, but you are wrong to think she is/was it and no one else will ever replace her. Every person is unique and even though she was very special, there will be another just as special. You need to be thankful for the relationship while it lasted and move on. Being thankful is the key to getting over depression. When you first start being thankful it will seem empty but eventually it will begin to heal you. Don't feel alone in this experience; just hang in there.

Answer 6

U WILL FIND SOMBODY ELSE. dont ponder on the past look into the future. there is so much out there that u can still experience. and it is honestly wonderful. i know how it is to loose someone u love. its very painful expecially when u did plan ur future with them in it. but trust me. this isnt the end of u. let her go. and please move on. shes not worth having u or ur life if she doesnt wanna be with u. efff her. u will find someone else.

Answer 7

Be your self, in basic terms spotlight the sturdy aspects of your character and be the final guy or woman you may. you will finally locate somebody who likes you for who you're. I actual have a very person-friendly style of autism alongside with rigidity, so i'm in an analogous place. i've got primary men who like me for who i'm, and characteristic informed me I actual have a lovable character. consistently look on the vivid component and you will meet your princess at some point :)

Answer 8

I am in my 30's. I have had a couple of these. IT DOES GET BETTER. Eventually you meet somebody else, and fall in love and when you look back, you think "what was it that I loved about that person?" You just have to hang in there and give it time. Time heals all wounds...trust me.

Answer 9

If you ever have a girl love you that you don't love back--then you will know.

Otherwise try to get over her--hard to do, but it is possible.

Answer 10

If you really cared for her, you will let her go. She isnt right for you if she left you. You need to move on, and keep yourself healthy.