To attend a Birthday party.
Gifts are mandatory. Or, if one would prefer to give money, they must give it to a Charity of the Birthday persons choice AND in the Birthday persons name.........
I find that as being rather crass.
And an invitation that I will bypass.
Is this the newest fad for an adult birthday party?
2007-12-27 06:42:00 · 15 answers · asked by Ella 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A newest fad?? Never heard of it. Mandatory gifts? You got to be kidding. Least item to give is a card.
If i were you, I be the better person by declining the invitation by sending a elegant written letter stating that you will not be attending their Soiree and that gift requirement seems, as you said; crass.
Or, If i was not the better person and scoff the gift requirement. I would get a gag gift that someone would be embarrassed to receive. And say "I got this at the last minute , hope you like it." with a big grin on my face.
2007-12-27 07:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by mikelambretta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah its like a momento, as well. You have to invite them! What if they dont get the invitation, and maybe think that they are suddenly not a part of the wedding, or something? That would suck. Or what if they think it is a certain day or time, and show up at the wrong time? Its hard for this to happen, but it is easy to avoid by sending everyone an invite. The notary doesnt get an invite, and neither does the photographer, or caterer, etc.. They arent guests, they are contractors. Plus, you can get an RSVP from the wedding party members, showing you if they are bringing a date or something.. and that helps you have a better rough estimate of how many people are coming, too.
2016-05-27 04:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by karol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are never mandatory but it is usually expected when attending a birthday party.
If I received that kind of invitation I would just make an excuse not to go because that is tacky and selfish. I don't want to waste my time living up to a person's expectations and I wouldn't enjoy being there for the party.
I would just mail them a birthday card wishing them well for their birthday.
2007-12-27 07:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find myself with a conflicting engagement the night of this party. I hope it's not a fad. However, the brides who begin by inserting gift lists into wedding invitations can be expected to move on to birthday demands.
2007-12-27 07:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of my friends do this, and yes, it is pretty crass. Do you think maybe they were joking when they said that the gifts were mandatory? A lady at my church did that one time, but we all knew her pretty well and knew that she was joking because that wasn't her style. That is deep, though. If they're serious, I wouldn't go either, and I'd tell them why when I called to cancel.
2007-12-27 06:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts should never be mentioned. The point of the invitation should be to request your presence/company, not to ask for gifts or donations. That is very rude and I would not attend. If asked, I would even be honest and tell them why.
2007-12-27 06:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie*Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like anyone I would want to know let alone attend their party. The invitation is in very poor taste period.
2007-12-27 08:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Manners are totally going out the window nowadays. If you don't believe me, take a look around at Y!A. There are people who want to know how to word gift requests on wedding invitations!
2007-12-27 06:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are never mandatory. Do not attend. I'm curious, what was the wording on this horribly rude invitation?
2007-12-27 06:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by Katie G 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Who said gifts are mandatory??? I would not attend this party.
2007-12-27 07:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋