Dating is NO, but studying together is Yes???

Question

I am a college student, and I met this girl. I am in the second year premed, while she is in the third. She is an extremely busy premed girl. We dated once, but she couldn't go out anymore cause she is soo busy.

I figured this out, so I changed my strategy by studying with her and helping her whenever I had chance. We had dinner together after we studied together. So, I thought this was so called "pre-med way of dating."

At the end of the semester, since she would be done with every final exam, I asked her out before she left, but she said no. After frustrating me, she tried to solace(ease) my mood by trying to talk to me, but well I was pissed, so I tried hard to end the conversation.

Man, I don't know what is going on. Currently, I am kinda retreating from her during this winter break to give some space for both of us, so I didn't make any contact with her.

What should I do when the semester starts? Should I just move on? But, I don't want to give up on her.

Answer 1

Need to learn to be more honest with your communications, your pre-fin-med, no offense, some day you'll have to give someone the old "Yep, only three weeks buddy, thats going to suck, well bye" speck. My point being, work on your ability to communicate honestly your feelings without getting smacked. You never DID ask her WHY, after the time you've spent together, that she didn't go on a date. Shoot could be she needs to see her family! Could be she had a boyfriend but the subject never came up, I was never there. But for you to get pissed, after asking on a date, tells me there was ALOT of missing piece that you needed to do some research on. With friends, your not supose to get suprised like that. That aside, keep up the communication, you have a BIG lesson to learn her about how you truely get a person to open up, on top of how you use a person to get what you need. You failed this, yes with the best of intentions, but theres no telling weather you just failed this section, or the WHOLE test, unless you talk to her agian. So full circle, this time, be more honest,....... pre-med and you act like a kid, I would slap your hand so hard if I knew were the heck you were at!!!! No offense, but you ARE better then this, behave like it....