If you were dating a woman for 3 months - and she was your girlfriend officially for 2 months and you still hadn't had sex, what would you think? Would this cause you to respect her more or less or like her more or less?
Then after you have sex would it change your relationship/your desire to sleep with her because you'll already know what it's like?
The woman is 21, and the man is 24.
Thanks guys!
2007-12-27 06:28:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 31. This whole thing about respecting women based on how fast they sleep with you is ridiculous and hypocritical. If the sex is too soon and the man doesn't respect the woman does that mean he doesn't respect himself either? Cause he was 50% of the equation.
I respect a woman or not based on her character, not on whether she sleeps with me on the third date or 3 months in and I would not change my opinion of her afterwards.
2007-12-27 06:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think there is more to your relationship than just sex. To me this is a good thing. I would respect a woman more who "holds out" rather than a woman who is easy.
Your love making would have to be really terrible and un satisfying if your relationship would change.
2007-12-27 14:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by rockwynd1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm well... I wouldnt "officially" have a girlfriend.. lol... especially at 24... I dont go in for making labels. But... if we still hadnt had sex.... we probably wouldnt be going out much longer...
after we had sex would it change the relationship?? most likely.. sex usually does..
Depends on how compatible we were in that department.. but.. no.... not because I already know what it is like.. geeze
2007-12-27 14:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a wrong sense of what maturity really is, you are using the wrong terms for this question.
Guys that are socialized and have been in many relationships can be complete assholes, they will hang out with your parents and gain your trust just to eat your cherry, they may stick around after that, but once they found another target, it won't be hard for them to leave you
A "mature" guy many times doesn't care about socialize and he will respect you for what you are and appreciate you as a real person until you break his heart
2007-12-27 14:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the two things are unrelated.
you can end up in bed after one night , depending on the circumstances you may respect the one next to you or not. i think you shouldnt focus so much on sex and its impact on how a man looks at a relationship once he had sex.
2007-12-28 16:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by gjmb1960 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man I can tell you that we are very sexual beings. Sex is very important to us. 3 months is plenty of time to wait. If a guy has waited that long, he probably really cares for you. You should reward him and show him how much you care for him. As for the question of will things change, they probably will. If it is good he will like you more, if it isn't he may draw away. It might be that he isn't good in bed, or he is hung like a flea, then you may pull away from him. You have to do it though, because you can't go on forever without it.
2007-12-27 14:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Cory A 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'd want it to happen when both parties were ready.
After we had sex, I doubt it would change my desire for her, unless she were astoundingly bad in bed or astoundingly good.
2007-12-27 14:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by septegram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe in abstinence. I would rather date a woman who believes likewise.
2007-12-27 14:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋