i am a teen with a brother that is a todler. he never folows directions or quite frankly does what we want him to do. i cannot hit him or anything like that of course. so what can i do?
2007-12-27 06:22:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
make cleaning up a game. Put on a song and ask your brother to clean up as much as he can before the song ends.
I worked in daycare and this worked really well for us.
Good Luck.
PS Be patient. He is only a toddler.
2007-12-27 07:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think Puppy, If we can train puppys we can train toddlers. Positive reinforcement, controlled environment, repetition, and consistancy, prevent a behavior when possible, never expect your level of perfection to start off, never expect the same level of co operation if he is tired or there are a LOT of other distractions . Reward good behavior with smiles cheers, and extra stars on a chart or reading him something at bedtime or nap time..to begin with he will need you to do things with and show him what it is you want later he will do things just for the reward then later still just because you ask and are pleased with him. Potty training will follow the same train of thought....
2007-12-27 14:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Candy's not such a good idea.
Now- I used to baby-sit my nephew when he was very small, about the same age as your brother. Once I was showing him a game, and he kept trying to grab it out of my hands. I told him that if he grabbed again, I was going to put the game away and we just wouldn't play any more. He didn't believe me- until he saw me putting the games up. He was a sad little guy then! But he minded me pretty good afterwards.
One thing you will have to do with your brother is be consistent, instead of just spazzing out. Do your parents know of this problem? Maybe they can think of something.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 14:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
at toddler stage, timeout seems to work pretty well on most kids. make him sit by himself for the number of minutes that he is old (for example, 2 year old, 2 min.). but it only works if you don't let him have any toys or any attention. true, he won't want to sit there, but someone has to show him who's boss by continuing to take the time to put him back so he'll know he can't push you around and get his way.
2007-12-27 14:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by tobysmomanddad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is only a toddler, he doesn't understand "right from wrong" just yet. Just do the chores yourself and let your brother watch, he will get the idea and learn the correct thing to do by him watching you.
don't expect him to have your mentality because he is not currently capable of it. Let him have his fun and be a little kid for now.
2007-12-27 14:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time Out.....when my children were young we had a time out chair.....
Toddler......pick a chair and make him sit there for a minute per age...so if he is 2 - two minutes.....to him this will be forever......
I used this when spanking wasn't getting the result that I needed.....I found out that in some lessons spankings are too harsh.
2007-12-27 14:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find somethign he doesn't like, maybe a squirt pistol shot in the face. Make sure it's somethign that wont' actually hurt him. Do that whenever he misbehaves, pretty soon, he'll make the connection.
It's the same principle as training cats and dogs.
2007-12-27 14:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by juicy_wishun 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Isn't this your parents' responsibility? He needs rewards and repurcussions for his behaviors.
2007-12-27 14:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by pinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u will reward him with candy or something, if he successfully follows your directions
2007-12-27 14:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by AK41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reward him with something if he does the rigth thing
2007-12-27 14:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋