My family fights bad..at least once a day..i cry myself to sleep almost every night. My father died when I was at a young age. I am fourteen now and my mom has been remarried to a nice man..but she thinks that i hate him because we are always fighting. My mom will stick up for me just a little bit and he will just just jump down her throat about it. And he yells at me about the littlelest things. and I will admit that i usually do yell back..i try not to but it just comes out because i am so frusturated. Some mornings I wake up to my parents fighting so I just stay up in my bed because I know they are either fighting about me or my stepbrother. I try to go up to my room and just cool down but my mom and stepdad dont let me. Please give me advice to stop my family from fighting before they fall apart!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-27 06:10:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try talking to your Mom alone about it and tell her what you've told us! Tell you are worried things are falling apart and you want and need peace in your family. Or talk to your school counselor about it. See if she will talk to your parents for you and suggest a counselor you could all go see. It's rough being a step parent and I'm sure you have issues with him not being your real Dad. I hope you can talk it all out and have a happy life!
2007-12-27 06:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has family problems honey. My Dad and I use to fight a couple times a week and at least twice a month it would get physical, my mom doing nothing but laughing.
In your situation, I would sit down and tell them how you feel (When everybody is CALM). Trying to talk to people when they are screaming and tensions are already high is pretty much impossible. If things don't get better with just talking, go to your guidance councelor at school and ask for advice, they can help with that kind of stuff. If you don't feel fine doing that, talk to a friends Mom and/or Dad. Maybe some intervention would help..
I wish u good luck
2007-12-27 06:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all (hugs) my heart goes out to you. if there is any way sit down with your family and try and talk ( not yell) things out. even make a list/write a letter/ something to express your feelings. try not to say" well you do this to me" instead say" when you say this is hurts me because" let them know that you love them both but the fighting is tearing your family apart and thats the last thing you want. see where your mom and stepdad stand also and if there is any middle ground you guys can all meet on. i wish you the best of luck and i hope this helps!
2007-12-27 06:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Aliciaray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation. So sad that your dad died, and you and your mom have been through a lot. If your step dad is nice, give him a break. He stepped into a difficult situation, very stressful for him, perhaps having kids of his own, and taking on you and any of your siblings. Try to be positive. If your step dad is correcting you, just listen to him, and say something like, "Thank you. I know we disagree, but thank you for caring enough to correct me." Try to see it as an act of love, that he cares about you to correct you. Try to show him that you appreciate his efforts, even though you may not agree with what he says. Maybe by setting this type of example, your other family members might do the same. And, you might save yourself some heartache, and develop a nice friendship with your stepdad. You say he is a nice man, so try to be nice to him.
2007-12-27 06:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seetpea you family may meed alittle help to come together as a family. It is hard to bring another father or mother into an allready made family. One or the other thank that thay have to fight there way in.So your best bet is professal help. You sound like you love them both and are cought in the middle.Maybe let your mother and dad read this God Bless.
2007-12-27 06:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...
OK...
First take care of yourself...
even if u are fourteen, u can start by paying attention
to things that make u smile and be happy...
it is very important, to try to find peace inside...
after that... try to talk with your brother about the situation,
then, when your mom is calm and open to communicate...
let her know how you feel about all of this
it is very hard to try to change people.
but that can only change if we change something in ourselves first.
Try this book, its great...
Love, Freedom, Aloneness: The Koan of Relationships
by:Osho
good luck
2007-12-27 06:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Lun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to have the whole family sit down for a grou[ chat and express yalls feelings on what is bothering yall and see if yall can come to a comparmise in how to solve the problems
2007-12-27 06:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by babe31790 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when they are fighting just barge in and be like stop fighting whats wroong with u is that your hobby fighting 24/7 and waking us up? u cud yell that it would be the best way. [[inside joke]] no rly it kinda wud be.
2007-12-27 06:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Cutee♥Babii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said he was a nice man and he yells at you for the littleist thing!! i believe all you can do is to talk to your mom about it, that he yells at you...i feel really sorry for you and good luck:(
here, try this source, i hope this helps...
2007-12-27 06:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to them!!! one night have a family meeting and talk about your feelings. if u can't a better idea would be write a letter to them about how u feel
2007-12-27 06:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋