i have been having dreams about a boy i used to like for more than 6 years now?

Question

there is this boy i used to like, i think i was not even 12 then and now im 18..

the last time i saw him was before i migrated to new zealand

since we moved to new zealand, i have been having recurrent dreams that I am with this guy..

in the start of my dreams, we are like strangers to each other

then we flirt, then we start to like each other, then we start going out and kissing etc.

i once had a dream, it was probably 2 to 3 months ago, we were playing tennis and went to the changing rooms, and got changed infront of each other, seeing each other naked. the weird thing is i ddnt even know what he looks like now, i mean we were only 12 when we last saw each other.

everytime i dream about him, we look like what we are supposed to look like now..we dont look like what we did 6years ago

do i just miss my childhood or what? i mean its been 6 years

i am in a loving and committed relationship with my boyfriend and bestfriend for almost 2 and a half years now

i saw multiply account and found out he has a gf now for 3 years actually they are on and off but he looks like he is in love with her

then in one dream, i asked him, why her? i mean do you really love her?

his answer was "i didnt know u are the girl from my dreams"

i woke up crying after he said this

i sent him an email a couple of months ago asking how hes been..but he didnt reply..the email was like "hey how have you been? havent seen you for years! lol"

thats it, i ddnt say anything else but yeah he didnt reply

i dont even think about him during the day or before going to bed except ofcourse when i wake up coz i had a dream about him again

i also dont dream about my other childhood friends, just him

we were close before, he even said that he liked me before

the last time i saw him was 6 years ago when i was going home from school, he even got off their car and shouted my name then waved at me

Answer 1

You still remember the closeness, you use to have with this boy, and yearn for this in your life. You may still have some sort of connection with him. You may be having that dream, because all your relationship feelings are not in the present with your current boyfriend, but part of you is wondering about what could have been. It is only a dream, one can have close dreams with people in your past from time to time. The problem is if you keep having the dreams over and over. You need to move your energy to your current loving relationship, and try to make sure most of your heart is in that relationship. Meditate/pray to get over the strong level of feelings, that still seem to exist, attracting you to your past with this person. You should get your need for intimacy satisfied in the present.

Answer 2

Very often we have dreams like this, and it is sad, because it is like saying a long goodbye, not just to the people we bond with, but also to everything in our lives back then. It is difficult to move on when we are increasingly attached to our past.

You have to find something in your life today that you love and are committed to. This is not just about relationships. This could paralyze you for years. Where you are now, as difficult as this may seem, is where you must be. You must say goodbye to the past, and I do not envy you this arduous task. It is daunting. I had to go through it as well.