Me and my best guy friend of 6 years hooked up last night. He was *((wasted))* to say the least.. and he has a girlfriend that I'm not particularly fond of. We were just talking at first, and one thing lead to another and the next thing I know, we're having sex in the back on my car. A few minutes ago, he called me and told me he didnt remember anything.. so I told him what happened and we agreed to not say anything to anyone. How can I keep this from effecting our friendship?
2007-12-27 05:54:37 · 26 answers · asked by Lana♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Over the years, we have confessed our feelings to each other.. We both at one point had very strong feelings for each other.. But it didnt mean anything to me
2007-12-27 06:04:03 · update #1
There's no way to clean up this mess. The guilt could eat you alive, his relationship could crumble, and your friendship could fall apart completely. The best you can do is learn from your mistake and never do anything like it ever again.
2007-12-27 06:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by highball116 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate when things like this happen. Something you wish you could just take away, forever. But you can't so youre just gonna have to deal with it! Everything happens for a reason I guess...
You guys should probably just talk about it. Thats the only way youre gonna be able to put it behind you and move on from the "mistake". If thats really what you both feel about it. ya know what Im saying? It might take a while, but if youre both mature about it you can get through it, and things might go back to normal.
2007-12-27 14:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know if there is anything you can do to keep it from messing up the friendship. But if both agree to not say anything to anyone, then you should be fine. You may feel weird at first but eventually you should be ok. If it's too weird for you, then you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel about it all. If you try to avoid it, it will probably only make it worse.
2007-12-27 14:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Since you did not indicate that you were wasted when you slept with him and you are not fond of his girlfriend, it will be safe to say that you wanted to sleep with him.And if you wanted to keep it from affecting your 6 year friendship, you would have told him that nothing happened when he asked you. As a result I suspect you wanted him to know what happened; maybe you like him as a boyfriend, or you want to break up his relationship with his girlfriend, or hope she will find out and end it. I suspect you are planning something ulterior but want your best friend not to find out.However, if you like him, just let him know.
2007-12-27 14:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You guy have crossed the line of friendship ...... but neways, if you BOTH agree not to do it again and not to let what happened have an effect, then it MIGHT BE alright..........
However, what I know is in MOST cases like this, the two will eventually become "friends with benefits" (or "f*ck buddies") ..... because when u can have sex with someone once, you tend to do it again and again
2007-12-27 14:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You pretty much set the tone in the relationship by having sex in the back of your car, especially when he was hammered.
2007-12-27 13:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by TheChuns3 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys dont forget having sex for one thing thats all we think about 24/7, everyone knows that. But if he calls telling you that he doesnt remember thats a signal that he just wants both of you to forget about it and move on. He still wants to be friends so do yourself a favor and forget about. (You two have alittle secret now, thats all)
2007-12-27 13:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by multi-million man 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
1. What kind of friend sleeps with a friend who has a girlfriend in the first place? Whether you like her or not, it was a crappy thing to do.
2. If you think about it, if he was as drunk as you said and you weren't, you kind of raped him.
3. It's probably going to effect your friendship whether you like it or not. Don't have sex with people if you can't handle the consequences.
2007-12-27 13:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Depends on your feelings... You are the one that remembered what happened. Did you enjoy it, did you see him as more than a friend? It seems you are in the drivers seat of this outcome at least partly if he is a willing participant.
2007-12-27 13:58:15 · answer #9 · answered by julz 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Too late. The friendship has already been changed.
2007-12-27 13:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋