If you were dating a woman for 3 months - and she was your girlfriend officially for 2 months and you still hadn't had sex, what would you think? Would this cause you to respect her more or less or like her more or less?
Then after you have sex would it change your relationship/your desire to sleep with her because you'll already know what it's like?
The woman is 21, and the man is 24.
Thanks guys!
2007-12-27 05:05:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only guys who would lose respect for a woman because she was reluctant to rush into a sexual relationship are selfish jerks who you don't need anyways, so don't worry about it. A guy who respects you will respect your right to decide for yourself when you're ready. Really though, you should communicate with him directly so there's no ambiguity about the situation. And after beginning a sexual relationship with a woman, I wouldn't lose interest in her now that I know what she's like. I'm not a callous philanderer, and I hope your guy isn't either.
2007-12-27 05:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by just a dude... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are looking at it the wrong way. Sex is not just a gift that YOU give HIM, or HE gives YOU. It is how you know him and how he knows you. If you are meant to be together, sex is how you find out. If the two of you have sex and then break up soon after, it is not because he was using you or you were using him; it will be because love between you was not meant to be. When you meet the right person, how you feel when you make love is how you will know he is right for you. I think if you use sex to get him to respect you, then you are using sex as a tool to maintain control of the relationship. That is unfair to him, and even more unfair to you. Let your love grow, or let it die. Sex is a spiritual and sacred event, not a toy or game. Don't believe what they tell you in magazines and on TV.
2007-12-27 05:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Drew Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Single man of 53 I would respect her wishes. I enjoy the time I spend with a woman even without sex. In fact that is low on my list of what I want in a partner for life. I want someone that I can laugh with, cuddle with, do the things that make living worth while and the immediate gratification of sex is great but not what I want to base a relationship on.
However, when I was that young sex was high on the list, but I changed my priorities because of 2 divorces.
2007-12-27 05:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by James E Lewis AKA choteau 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my last relationship, I told the girl I would wait until she was ready (I am 29/she28) and she supplied the condoms at the end of the third date. I thought of her as a groupie, (it was great while it lasted 6 weeks) but I did not take her seriously after that so I think you are gaining respect. And the rest is really up to the type of guy you are dealing with. IDK him so I do not know his motives. It is your decision. Make it when you desire!
2007-12-27 05:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Law 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not ever do it, ever, without being married. Trust me on this one.
It should really be the MAN who sets this standard. If he's not, then he's just in the sea of all alike and really isn't worth messing with.
Obviously, this will thin the field tremendously, and it's a sad dilemma for girls today. I don't think that men are entirely to blame, because of what's promoted today.
The second best thing would be to find someone who "respects you," but it's sort of like a consolation prize.
It's really, really hard for aware girls today, especially considering the pressure that most men place upon them.
2007-12-27 05:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have mutual respect for each other, sex is more fun and fulfilling, married or not,Your goal is not to have sex for sex's sake, but to share a part of the intimacy both of you should already have.
2007-12-27 05:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have talked to her about it already. My actions would depend upon why we weren't having sex yet. After having sex, I would want to do it about as much because I'd care for her as much. It's not about knowing what it's like.
2007-12-27 05:11:23 · answer #7 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sex plays a big part in any relationship and any1 can tell you but sex is not everything and after having sex and if things change then he/she was not interested at all
2007-12-27 05:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by twet19_000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect women for wanting to wait, as long as its not an insane amount of time.
2007-12-27 05:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect her either way. I am a nice guy though.
2007-12-27 05:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋