Couple questions about my wedding.?

Question

1. We BOTH want a small wedding (and have already scraficed what we want to spare feelings), he has 3 sisters, I have none but am having my best friend and sister in law stand up for me, he is having his 2 best friends, everyone is telling me I should include his sisters, I would add one more person but NOT 3. So am I ok by not having any?

2. Is it wise to get a banquett center, just so I dont have to worry about, catering, security, bar tending ect....
It is way out of our budget, but do able.

3 Anything else you can pass along would be great
Thanks
Oh yeah we only have 5 months to plan this......

Answer 1

!. You don't have to include all of them. If you want them a part of it, give them a reading to do. Otherwise, it's your wedding.

2. For the sake of ease, I would go to a catering hall--they have everything for you. Since you are planning in such a short amount of time, you might even be able to get a deal so long as you are flexible with your date and don't have ONE particular date in mind that you won't budget from. Catering halls are looking to filll up slots, so they oftentimes lower their prices for couples in order to do that.

* Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate. When planning my wedding, I found everything to be negotiable--you just have to ask. You'd be surprised at how much vendors are willing to discount.
* DIY--you can save lots of money by going the do-it-yourself route. Invites can be made for little to no money this way.
* Don't overdo it on the favors--people usually throw it out. So, give something small as a token of appreciation--a small box of candy or a few Hershey's kisses in organza bags are great and economical.
* Make e-bay your friend. You can buy tons of stuff on e-bay at a very low price.
* Go to sample sales. You can get not only your dress, but your bridesmaid's dresses at sales. My friend got Vera Wang bridesmaid dresses each at $25 at a sample sale.
* Reduce your guest list. The more people you have, the more money you'll spend.
* Consider the time of the year and the date and time of your wedding. Off season is less expensive than the May-September period. Friday night and Sunday weddings are too, as well as, day time weddings.
* Choose flowers that are in season. Roses are always inexpensive, but don't look for something exotic because that will cost tons of money. You can also try to find a wholesaler and do your own bouquets.
* Lastly...breathe and enjoy the time because it goes by fast!

Congrats!

Answer 2

I would plant to either have them in the bridal party or have them do something else in the wedding. Make sure that each is included equally so that you dont step on your new familys toes.

You can do a banquett center or you can contact the local police station and see how much they would charge for a rent a cop for one night. You can also ask any of your friends who used to bar tend do serve the alcohol, pay them 400 for the night. Then dont go crazy on the alcohol. Get the usual champagne for the toast, maybe a keg, then just a few bottles of liquor. You dont want people leaving your wedding drunk because then you or the bar tender will be held responsible. Maybe even limit the amount. You could get drink tickets and allow each person 2 drinks and then a glass of champagne.

You could have your wedding anywhere you want. If it is going to be small, security would not be needed, its the more out of control amounts of people that do. Have fun with it and dont let it stress you out. It is YOUR and YOUR mans wedding and no one elses. Do what you want, because you will have this day in your mind the rest of your life!

Answer 3

You do not have to have the sisters in your wedding. They are guests and need not be a part of the bridal party really I have three older brother and my wife has three younger sisiters and we just had one of each in the bridal party.

It is your special day do what you want stop listening to other people they are not planning or paying for the wedding. A banquet centre is nice it does save alot of headaches and time consider a nice hotel with banquet facilities. Thats what I did if you just go with a simple idea like some hot appetizers
and maybe some fruit and meat and cheese platters it can very cost saving rather then a plate service or a buffet set-up.

Consider paying for the first glass of wine for tosating and everyhting then have a pay at the bar set-up for your guests. Remember the more people you invite the more it will cost.

Answer 4

You don't have to have the sisters. You can give them some other role of honor, like doing a reading (but NOT doing something that is actually work, like being in charge of the guest book).

I would recommend hiring someone to do the catering. Shop around, see if you can get a better deal if you give up some of the things they normally provide- you might be able to save money that way. Also, try checking in unexpected places, like local restaurants or supermarkets- some of them do catering and they might be cheaper than traditional caterers, but will still provide many of the services (delivery, servers, cleanup)

It's your wedding day, you don't want to be running around fixing food and worrying about whether or not things are hot. I know lots of people here say that it's easy to do the food yourself, but I just think it will take away from everyone's enjoyment of the day.

Answer 5

There are a couple of ways to handle the seating arrangements. Having people sit at tables during the ceremony is fine, people can turn their chairs around watch the ceremony, but you may want to consider putting a row of chairs for your parents and other close relatives or you can do rows of chairs and have the tables set, moved out to the perimeter, and ready to place after the ceremony is over, if there is enough room at your venue. The head table placement is really up to the space that you have. As far as live fish are concerned, not necessarily the best idea. I've had people use them for a couple types of events and it just wasn't pretty. One used Japanese Fighting Fish, which, after a few "beverages" people started putting together in bowls and letting them fight. Others have used goldfish and believe me, if they die, it doesn't create the classy, romantic atmosphere you may be going for for your wedding celebration. I, personally, am not a big fan of balloons at weddings, either (think birthdays or prom!) however, if that's really what you want, balloon bouquets around the area are probably more effective and nicer than using balloons on the tables. Good Luck and Congratulations!

Answer 6

Everyone has it right to find other jobs for the sisters to handle. However, have they themselves expressed interest in being part of the wedding party?

Lots of people have a problem with getting up in front of a crowd. After creating a list of things that need to get done, go to them, see if they want to "be in front" or work behind the scenes.

I was asked to be part of my cousin's wedding (she hoped I would be able to help her mother feel better about the wedding) but I hated to get up in front of people. However, I was a professional photographer and instead, she decided she wanted me to do that.

Is there a sister that is well organized? Perhaps she can be the one to help with keeping all the information, contracts, contacts and lists in order.

Is one of the sisters good at crafts? These people are good at coming up with ideas to make things special and unique.

Come up with alternatives.

Answer 7

1. Have the 3 sisters do the readings (if in a church) or have them a short poem (if not) - in this way, they can be part of the bridle party.

2. Flip a coin....but if you have 5 months and budget issues, I think you have time to do it yourself though.

3. Let the girls pick out their own dresses - tell them exactly what color, but let them each picture the style/price dress they like.

Answer 8

I would not have more attendants than you wish or can afford. Ask his sisters to help in other ways, like being your personal assistant, doing some readings during the service etc.

If you can fit it in the budget, yes, get the banquet center. take as many worries off your shoulders as possible

Answer 9

Yes, you're okay. My fiance has 2 sisters and I have chosen my friends and sisters over them. I don't think its a big deal not to include them. I think that you would pick people you're close to since you'll be doing some pretty personal things together. If you don't feel that close to his sisters, I don't think your should feel obligated to add them.

Answer 10

Include whoever you want - it's your wedding.

You don't have much time. Better hurry!