I don't really want to make anyone feel bad, but I don't consider them my friends. I don't know how to tell them that they are not invited because they seem so excited about my wedding ever since I got engaged and they are always asking me for details of how all the planning is going. What do I do?
2007-12-27 04:32:21 · 21 answers · asked by Flower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can tell them how the plans are going, I just got married in January 07, and I didn't invite any of my co-workers, I didn't feel bad about it either, they are nice people to work with, but they are not people that I consider my very good friends. I still have a nice work relationship with them. It is your day, and you have the power to say who you want at your wedding.
2007-12-27 07:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar for my wedding - I was in school and I didn't want to have to invite my whole nursing class to the wedding, so I just didn't invite anyone at all from the class.
I told them that we're just having family and long time family friends at the wedding, and everyone seemed fine with it - maybe even relieved that they didn't have to buy a dress and a present!
2007-12-27 13:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Shana B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was getting married, I invited only my closest coworkers because I wanted to. I knew that not everyone could go because I was having it during a work day. You could say nothing or say something to someone that you are only inviting family and very close and longtime friends. Most people will understand. I think I said something along the lines of wanting to invite everyone but knowing that it wasn't realistic because of the day/time and had to draw a line somewhere. (didn't want a huge wedding)
2007-12-27 12:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same way you do. I am just not going to invite my co-workers. It is your wedding and you should be surrounded by people you want to be around and not just people to fill chairs. There are only a couple people that I am close to that I want to come they will get invitations however, everyone else will not. I think it is normal to be happy about getting married and want to talk about it. Just because you wanted to tell them about your new happiness it does not mean you have to invite them. Congratulations!
2007-12-27 12:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I didn't invite any. I agree with you that co-workers are just that, they are not friends. Everyone assumes that you will invite them. I flat out told them I wasn't inviting them. If you want to make it sound better, just say you are only having close friends and family. Don't feel obligated to invite them!
2007-12-27 12:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. There is no polite way to say "I'm having a party and you're not invited." You simply don't invite them. If anyone asks, you say something vague like "I wish I could have invited all of you" and let it end there. No one is "owed" any sort of explanation or apology. Probably a lot of them are hoping you won't invite them anyhow -- then they know you aren't expecting them to get you a gift.
2007-12-27 13:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to invite them at all. My co-workers were the same way when I got married, but I invited none of them and it was perfectly understandable. You can share details and bring in pictures for them. Remember to take the all of none approach though--you will either have to invite all of them or none of them.
2007-12-27 13:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by CorpCityGrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then don't invite them!
Its that simple.
They just want to know how the planning is going. Unless they've specifically stated "I await your invite" then they are only asking to make conversation and to be nice.
If they do ask you about invitations for coworkers, just state it will be a family affair due to your own preference and budget.
2007-12-27 14:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's easy . . . . don't invite them. if they ask about wedding details fill them in, but don't go on and on about your plans. some people just like to talk wedding talk (flowers, food, dress.) they don't necessarily think you're going to invite them. if it comes up make sure you are clear that your guests are close friends and family.
2007-12-28 16:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by cols1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not just invite them to the reception after dinner? that way they will feel included and will come if they really want to. Sometimes co-workers will just ask you about stuff just so they have something to talk to you about. have some cards printed up to invite them to the "after dinner reception"- if they question anything just say your budget is tight but you still wanted to include them
2007-12-27 16:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sarahz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋