My girl and I had yet another arguement this time over her not comming out to her family. She and I are very different ..i am very open and honest...she is more quiet about her life.... her 13 yr old sister and i are very close and she asked me a couple of questions that i had no problem answering...but when i told my girl about the conversation...she blew up at me!!! She said she only wants to tell her family when she gets serious with someone and knows for sure that the relationship will work.....well its been 6 years next month...how the hell does that make me feel? So...does that mean she's not serious with me...She keeps 'telling' me that I dont understand where she's comming from...but im not 4 yrs old...i get it....i understand her point..but she is so into what she's trying to prove to me that she forgets that i have feelings and opinions too....she trys to convince me that shes right and im worng...all the time....so how do i deal with this? this is really taking a toll on us.
2007-12-27 04:20:41 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's just afraid of her family's acceptance or rejection about the matter.
If she is still not prepared to take a stand, you might want to sit down with her, talk about your frustrations, and perhaps part off as friends.
If she isn't ready after 6 years, she never will be.
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did the poster above just say "be a man?" "grabbed by the balls"?
I thought the one asking the question was a woman... am I wrong about that?
2007-12-27 04:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your "friend" knows her family is going to be upset to learn that their child has chosen to live in a way that ultimately is going to bring her nothing but pain and hurt. They realize that when you defy the very laws of nature, you're going to be miserable. They love their daughter and don't want her to make this very big mistake. She obviously is ashamed of what she's doing or she'd tell them, wouldn't she?
And no, she's not serious about you. Why don't you leave her alone so she can get her life back on track.
2007-12-27 04:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off strop being a wimp! Im not name calling Im stating facts. Your obviously not good enough (to her) for her family to know. Shes using the "I wanna make sure this relationship is going to work first excuse" noooooo thats bullllshiittt totally! Because no one and I mean no one ever knows if theyre relationship is going to work! No one knwos what tomorrow brings for anything. She knows this and you know this so stop ignoring it. 6 years?? 6 years?? Shes either nuts, or shes dragging you along. As most females go thatll put a man in this kind of situation is the mixture of both. Stop being a wus, stand up, put your foot down, be a man, and take care of the situation or continue being dragged around by your balls daily. Shes supossed to the one that makes you happy, not miserable...think about it
2007-12-27 04:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by I Love Me a Freakin Good Burrito 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a ton of issues that would have got here approximately, no longer all of them related with your lady pal. From what i will tell, climate is actual undesirable in some aspects. uncertain approximately Nevada, yet you would be able to desire to verify on the information superhighway and spot. if so, she would desire to be snow-certain in some hick city that would not understand what a cellular telephone is. whether they do, ability would desire to be out, or the traces down, and you'd be able to desire to be in a ineffective zone besides. If this city is off the main roads, then her service would possibly no longer circulate that a approaches off the line (have self assurance it or no longer, my section would not have super service as quickly as you leave the main roads). whether the aspects isn't the venture, she would have had a flat, telephone died, gotten lost, or different issues that are preserving her from shifting into touch with you. till now you assert i don't understand what it is like, I do. i develop into in a LDR for a 300 and sixty 5 days till now we married. no longer something like the priority to permit you recognize the form you experience approximately somebody. have faith is a super part of a relationship. in case you're apprehensive approximately this, you would be able to desire to artwork on it. Yeah, I did that too. Now, there are sufficient issues to rigidity approximately that would desire to take place with no have faith concern. What she makes a decision to do isn't something you are able to administration. Too many adult men attempt to regulate their women human beings, that's the incorrect ingredient to do. in case you are able to, set up a habitual so as which you are able to use a land-line telephone to communicate in an emergency, or possibly a short wave radio, if she is open to it. telephones are not prefect, and climate can shrink to rubble even floor telephones. Surf the information superhighway, play a pastime, or do something and attempt to relax. in case you recognize her father and mom, and would attain them, then provide her till day after today nighttime and attempt accomplishing them then. you would be able to get in warm water, even though it is going to coach which you care and tried to attend some. we are in a no win situation the two way. We the two call too quickly or too previous due, and get it the two way. :)
2016-11-25 19:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loved you and wanted to be with you, then she would come out to her parents that you two are a couple. If not, the only option is to give her an ultimatum. You could be with someone who is freely open with themselves and you.
2007-12-27 04:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by solelone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you have been together that long how does she explain you to them? More than likely they have their suspitions. You can't and don't have the right to force her out. If you can't live with her like that then end the relationship. If you don't think it is worth breaking up then you need to get over it. Not like she is cheating on you.
2007-12-27 04:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your already a couple. You have been together six years. Who cares what her parents know, or don't know. Just be happy that you know.
2007-12-27 04:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Puzzled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you but I think she's just scared. Guide her thru it.
2007-12-27 04:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is scared how her family was react.
2007-12-27 04:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just eat her ( u know what I mean) & everything will be fine!!!
2007-12-27 05:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋