Me and my Husband,Jay have 3 kids so we have hired a Nanny.
The Nanny was watching the kids, so me and Jay went upstairs for gentle sex, seeing as i'm pregnant.
Our 6 year old wanted something from her room. You know how it is, She couldnt find it. So she walked in to our room and asked where it was.
We didnt hear her come up and she saw us, because we didnt have a cover over us and to make things worse we were both Naked.
She keeps asking what we were doing, but both of us change the subject straight away!
Any suggestions on what to tell her, because shes way too young to know about sex!
Has this happened to you before?
2007-12-27 03:56:36 · 23 answers · asked by Xx..Hope's Mummy..xX 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell her that you were having sex. These days it is not something your daughter won't find until marriage. Tell her sex is something private between two people who love each other and the main aim is to have pleasure and in some cases - to make a baby. Tell her about the ovary and sperm. If she was 3, I would encourage you to change the toppic, but - come on - she is already in school. Older kids talk about such thing with younger kids. She would know about sex in a year or two at the latest. I think you'd like to give her the idea of having sex with the one you love and not to let her get inappropriate idea from an older child.
2007-12-27 04:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 8⤋
Yeah! At least once with each child (we have three). Each one was different and reacted differently, but since you were doing nothing wrong, you should not feel guilty about it. I think that your guilt and changing the subject is more traumatizing than answering the child's questions.
A simple answer without a lot of details is best. The child will soon forget about the whole thing. Try, "Mommy and Daddy were playing a grown up game." or "Mommy and Daddy sometimes have a special time together, because we love each other." Just keep is simple!
2007-12-27 04:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Tell her that you were having sex. These days it is not something your daughter won't find until marriage. Tell her sex is something private between two people who love each other and the main aim is to have pleasure and in some cases - to make a baby. Tell her about the ovary and sperm. If she was 3, I would encourage you to change the toppic, but - come on - she is already in school. Older kids talk about such thing with younger kids. She would know about sex in a year or two at the latest. I think you'd like to give her the idea of having sex with the one you love and not to let her get inappropriate idea from an older child."
I second this. No matter how young she is, you want to make sure the lines for communication are open and feel safe for her, even if it makes you uncomfortable.
You want to "train" her to bring her questions to you when she's older, so that you can ensure she has the facts and isn't misinformed.
I saw my own parents having sex when I was 6 or 7. It didn't scar me for life (maybe embarrassed them), but I didn't know what was going on enough to give it a second thought (of course, I was also a rather sheltered and oblivious kid, but that's another story ;)).
I know for me, it's uncomfortable talking to my dad about sex sometimes, but I force myself to do it anyways, simply because I understand it's a line of communication that has to be kept open (since I'm still on his insurance and he pays for my medications and doctors visits and all, despite me being 21).
As young as she is, just answer her questions openly and honestly. Likely, she won't ask many follow up questions, since the "major" ones won't occurr to her until she's older.
2007-12-27 04:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by nvr_brkn 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
That's why you need to be more careful locking the door and making sure the kids are ok.. As for an explanation just tell that is the way mommy and daddy show love to each other that it is nothing bad or nasty BUT ONLY mommy's & daddy's are allowed to do this.. I guess it will be an honest and nice explanation that she will understand. It haven't happend to me hope it never happend , I am very careful with this things..But if this gets to happend I guess I will be a little honest so kids will not get scared.. BEst wishes!! :)
2007-12-27 04:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some adult groups suggest you tell the whole sex deal at any age and that they will pick up what they are old enough to understand and be satisfied.
If that isn't comfortable, I'd say you were cuddling and when your married its ok to do it that way,
Or I'd say you were wrestling and fell onto the bed.....it was just fun and you were both ok.
In the meantime I'd invest in a lock on my door or make it a reenforced rule not to walk in my room without an invitation to do so.
It hasn't happened to me before but I know it does happen. I have always had a lock on my door and added one if not.
2007-12-27 04:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually
YOU NOW HAVE TO TELL HER WAHT SEX IS OR YOU WILL REALLY DAMAGE HER FOR LIFE.
Right now she thinks daddy was trying to murder mummy and unless you sort this very quick so she understand you were making love ... her future love life in 10-15 years will be very damaged.
NOW EVERYONE THIS IS A TEXT BOOK EXAMPLE OF WHY THE DUTCH SYSTEM OF SEX ED STARTEING AGE 5 AND DOING WEEKLY LESSONS TILL 18 IS BEST.
as if she had been tuaght all about sex and that you dont always make babies as its also a way grown ups share love.
she would know woooow mum and dad doing it... grosse
opps sorrry just like if she opened the toilet door and you were on the toilet
And just be a little embarrased...
mentioning it to her mates she saw mum and dad doing it and how silly they looked, having a laugh about it with mates...
Doing impressions of you too whilst her mates roll on the floor laughing.
But thinking its sweet as it means her mummy and daddy asre very much in love so wont divorce soon and be their to love her... so she should feel nice and secure seeing you to making love as advanced hugging...
that could means a future borther or sister to play with.
And that daddy was not hurting mummy.
but the grunts and groans were like when people are playing tug of war.
pretty much...
same ssort of thing as best for girls to know all about periods before they start so they dont freak out thinking they are dying
2007-12-27 05:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
you should have closed the door. even locked it.
i hope it won't bother her for that long of a time. the imagine of seeing both mommy and daddy naked and in a sexuall formation of 1 kind or another.
dreams or even nightmares.
tell her something nice rather than explaining to her about the sex itself.
tell her that mommy and daddy love each other very very much.
that you were both showing each other how much mommy and daddy loves each other.
leave it at that.
hopefully that will be the end of it.
good luck.
william.
a.laureyandwilliam@yahoo.co.uk
2007-12-27 04:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cannot believe you went upstairs and had sex when you had people down stairs, was your urge so desperate that you had to have it there and then, can I ask why you have a nanny to look after your children, why are you not looking after them yourself, you really should be more careful when you have sex and make sure you lock the door next time
2007-12-27 05:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by ✿Regina Felangie✿ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes - and isn't it embarassing !
We decided to tell our 5 year old boy the truth - not all the ins and outs (no pun intended) but enough to satisfy his curiosity.
If I recall correctly we just said that we were loving each other in a special way for Mums and Dads that we do in private and that seemed to be all he wanted to know.
I think that honesty is the best policy.
2007-12-27 04:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Petrocelli 2 · 12⤊ 0⤋
It's embarrassing but it shouldn't be ignored as it may cause her to think that sex is bad or something to be ashamed of in later life.
You don't need to go into massive detail with her, you could just say that you were hugging each other the way that Mummies and Daddies do because you love each other very much etc.
It's much better than just pretending she hasn't said anything and distracting her with something else.
2007-12-27 04:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Minty Fresh 2 · 19⤊ 0⤋