Sex problem again.. I want to learn how to really turn my man on in the bedroom. How do I do that?

Question

We are recently back together after a 12 year split. We were kids back then and when I ask him he says he really doesn't have spots on him that drive him nuts so I need help!! I've tried talking about it with him and it got me no where. Any sugestions? I will not bring in someone else and When it comes to Oral I have no clue really on what to do. The man I was with before said he didn't like it so I never even tried to do it.

I want to make it clear I don't have to try hard but I want to. When we have sex it's great I would just like to try some new things.

Answer 1

Even the best roller coaster gets old after riding it over and over. It just happens as people get older. Try not to worry about it too much.

Answer 2

Wow , you are in a delima, just keep trying different things and you will notice when you have done something he likes and always remember that. As far as oral gos I don't think any of the girls Ive been with had teachers they just learned over time what makes the man they are with react in the right way . It is tougher That he wont help you by telling you what he wants , he could be shy or just figures you should know. The fact that he is with you is a good start now just read some mags maybe rent some you know p__n and watch and learn/.


Good luck to you

Answer 3

either he is lying when he says that there's nothing that really drives him crazy, or someone hasn't found out what it is yet.

experiment. try different things. different sexual positions. you don't have to keep sex in the bed. try leaning up against the wall, or in the shower. when couple's do the same thing over and over for so long, sometimes things tend to get a little boring. there's no need to bring another man/woman into your relationship..that would take the focus off of you.

don't be nervous about oral sex. you can play it off right by acting like you know what your doing. confidence is everything. give him eye contact, use your hands..as well as your mouth. the only thing i can say without being too graphic..act like your sucking a sucker! of course no teeth...unless maybe to nibble...IF he likes that. show him your not afraid to do anything. [even if you really are] once you get into it, it will be alot of fun for you both. =]

Answer 4

well basically dudes love oral the thought of the chick down therre is exciting enough but other than the normal intercourse
i have no other ideas but you could try the 2 girls 1 cup thing lol

besides all jokes oral is a good way to start off and after tat maybe some touching and then to the finish.and just put ure finger under the shaft area thats below the nuts and press up when u masturbate im or give him an oral.

Answer 5

Attitude, lingerie, aggressive desire and no holds barred sessions. That should get him thinking.

Surprise him when he comes home from work. Be in the bedroom in the right outfit and doing yourself with some toys. That should warm him up quickly.

You mentioned oral, so do it. Go all the way. Then see what he does. Wake him up in the morning that way. The more you do it the better you get at it.

If he doesn't respond to you after all that. Get another man or buy more toys because you are going to need them.

cheers.

Answer 6

Ok, going to teach you my little trademark.

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Usually when I start to try and turn him on, I get a lil aggressive. Like pushing him onto the bed or something, then doing the whole straddling thing. Next.. kissing :] After a few hot makeout moments, I kiss along the jaw line to the earlobe. It's then that I use my amazing earlobe sucking and nibbling skills. Also while doing that, I sometimes whisper something in his ear, like about whats to come next (boom boom), and breathe lightly on his ear. Don't breathe too hard though, because it tickles. You want it to feel hot, not ticklish. Slowly kiss from the ear down the neck, lick and suck on it. Then slowly kiss along the collarbone and up the other side. Add grinding and presto! Always works for me.

I just reread this.. and while it is what I do... makes me sound slutty lol.

Answer 7

OK, I'm a man, but I've had that problem with women. (They go along with whatever, but never seemed turned on.)

So I would go through my entire repetroire, paying close attention to how she responded to this, that, and the other thing. But remember, some people act negative to something you do when actually it is the one thing they really like--but for some reason, they can't allow themselves to enjoy it. But if you just continue doing it, you may find that he will suddenly come "alive"! As to oral, I can't believe any man could resist it and the guy who said he didn't like it probably was one of those who can't allow themselves to enjoy it.

Answer 8

I think the best way to turn on a man is the old fashioned way. low cut tops - slinky dresses, nice perfume. Play a little hard to get. And always be ready for spontaneity. I.e. it's not always about when you're ready to play. But face it, every guy is different, and sometimes he's just not into it that much.

You can also try body-painting... that can be messy fun :)

Answer 9

bringing in a man is ok sometimes or woman but if that does not interest you hands do a lot good things alongs with talk dirty I real dirty will turn things up try a jeff stryker toy if wants you to be with someone else you can have the fun without really bringing someoone in

Answer 10

You've got a problem with this guy in the bedroom, and really, I don't feel you would be posting again unless it was serious. Whether you want to bring in someone else or not, at least consider attending marriage classes with group therapy. You are obviously very concerned and I don't blame you. If other advice here hasn't helped, at least consider therapy with your husband from a professional.