This guy I was seeing was with a girl for 2 years. He wanted to marry her, but she wasn't ready. He asked me where I thought our relationship was going. This kind of freaked me out becuase we had only been on a few dates. I said lets just have fun. During the night, he got really drunk and made out with another girl. I left and he left me all these messages saying "I'm sorry. I love you." Obviously, this is still baggage from his ex, right? Anyway, I agreed to meet him and he said that he was really hurt that I didn't see the relationship going anywhere. Time passes and he eventually dumps me because I was so insecure about this ex. Along with emotional games, I freaked out when she falsely claimed they were back together on facebook. He said I have trust issues, which is probably right, but hasn't he given me reason to doubt him?
2007-12-27 03:31:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh another thing I just thought of...he told me he will never say "i love you" to another girl again.
2007-12-27 03:38:49 · update #1
You were correct to have freaked out and he is a loser to have thought that after a few dates you would know where the relationship was going. He seems to be in a hurry to have the same kind of relationship he had with his ex and wants marriage just to not have to worry about dating anymore.
You should be glad he left. He is probably with his ex right now.
Anyone who gives you reasons to doubt them is not worth your time.
2007-12-27 03:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. He only said he was sorry to get in good with you once again to make it look like it was u with the problem. He knew he was wrong for making out with another girl and didn't want you to have the upper hand on him. Don't worry you can do much better than having a b/f who isn't ready for a relationship and is sooooooo small. Be thankful that this happen as soon as it did, hold your head up high and stop letting him play mind games on you because you are the better person.
2007-12-27 03:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Flowers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds crazy! Accusing you of having trust issues when he's not given you any reason to trust him. Trust is earned, not just freely given away willy nilly. Yeh, he's still messed up over his ex and needs to sort it out, probs best to leave him to it and maybe you's can get together again once he's sorted the mess in his head out. In the meantime you're better off without him and all of his baggage, find someone with less problems attached to them! Good luck
2007-12-27 03:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by AMY S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a b*stard, he is not over his ex!!! Whats worse is that he is busy trying to pick up where he and his ex left off, except hes doing it with you. This means he does not want to put any effort into a relationship with you, he just wants to accept where he decides to take it. My feeling is he is rebounding and trying to make her jealous and decide to marry him, but she is still refusing and has decided like a skank to help him torture you. This guy has a bitterness towards women and he should be directing his anger towards his ex, not you. You do NOT have trust issues, he has the issues, and he is a liar. You are not obligated to trust this douche. Tell him to get lost!!
2007-12-27 03:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have the problem with the ex, not him.
Also, if you just wanted a fun no strings attached relationship going no where, why are you upset? According to what you say, you got what you wanted.
Do you wish your relationship had more meaning now that he is gone? Maybe you should ask a new question like "How do you get him back?"
2007-12-27 03:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ranger 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, just because he made out with another girl doesn't mean he has baggage, unless it was his ex of course. Sounds like he needs time on his own. I think you may have a slight reason to have trust issues, considering that he made out with another girl and such, but perhaps you took it too far.
2007-12-27 03:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by zowskee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, it's not your fault! Girl, many guys still have a peice of their heart dedicated to the ex. I know my husband still talks to his ex. It makes me upset but we all have to relize that he or she loved this person. Until the day she leaves him it's always going to be like that. Explain to him, it made you uncomfortable. Tell him that you don't have relationship problems becasue you don't! Tell him your trust is hard to get but once you get there its all easy. About the emails. Get in touch with his ex. Tell her what happened. Then explain, "Hey, I thought I was in love with this Man. And when he was talking to you, I was scared he was going to leave me." And if you weren't scared tell her how you felt. Good luck and god bless
2007-12-27 03:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by missthangmonkey1012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a nutcase , you should have trust issues , you will know you met the right guy when you don't have to ask any questions on here or to anybody , loose this jerk......
2007-12-27 03:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get over his ex, love is about taking chances or you will never find the right person. trust the next one or you gonna be on your own for a long time
2007-12-27 03:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by azmondo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take your relationship with him slowly, because he needs a trusting realtionship. He has been hurt and does not want to be hurt again.
2007-12-27 03:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by jaggernut 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋