ok very long story short----
met this bloke a few wks ago-he still had a house with his ex but he worked days and she worked night so they never see each other-he said he sleeps on the settee now and the only thing he loves in that house is his new TV lol.
i REALLY like him-i am a different person when i think of him-caring, romantic etc (i'm usually cold and hard lol). he says he feels the same way as me and he tells me im 'amazing' etc. he has also told his friends and family about me even though he is technically still living with someone.
he said in the new year things will be different and he said he wants us to be together properly (which is what i want) obviously i wouldnt expect him to move out over christmas as that wouldnt be fair. should i wait? i have a feeling he could be a very special person after many failed relationships.
2007-12-27 03:27:58 · 12 answers · asked by BscHons 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
can i add that nothing 'sexual' has happened between us-he said he wont let that happen yet as he is not a 'dog' and i dont want to do anything till he is officially single either
2007-12-27 03:33:24 · update #1
i have also told him that i will not wait forever for him-i may really like him but i am no idiot lol. thanks for the answers x
2007-12-27 03:39:44 · update #2
never never never follow your head in matters of the heart. if it feels right just do it. nothing worse than looking back and saying what if
2007-12-27 04:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chris C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello there young lady! It sounds like you really like this guy! Just take it slow and see what he going to do about his living arrangements. If he is really into you then he should understand that him being in the same house with his ex is really not a good thing especially if he is trying to move on with his life! He may also be waiting to find a place which could take a little bit of time or saving up to do that. The best thing to do is just talk with him and ask him what his plans are and see where his mind is. If you hear what you are wanting to hear from him then just sit back and watch to see what he does. If he asks you to go help him find a place, you scored!!! Good luck and have a great day! I hope that it works out for you with this guy!!!
2007-12-27 11:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by rttamez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was that unhappy in his relationship he simply wouldn't still be with her,especially if there are no kids involved. I think his girlfriend would have a totally different story to tell if she could.
He's feeding you a line and just wants his cake and eat it.
I certainly wouldn't believe what he says about sleeping on the sofa,that's an all time classic excuse.
If I were you,I'd tell him that you want to cool things off a bit and have some space between you til he decides what it is he actually wants.
Giving him ultimatums and questions as to when he's gonna leave her will just lead you to wondering if he would have left her if you hadn't been on the scene.
And always rememeber,if he ever does end up with you permanently,keep in mind that he left her for you,so what's to stop him doing the same to you eventually. It happens,that's a fact,nothing stays at the honeymoon period for ever,real life does kick in eventually.
Would you want to be partly responsible for his breakup,cos I doubt he'd breakup if he didn't have you on the scene? You too will end up with questions and doubts somewhere down the line.
And would you like this done to you? If not,why be a part of it being done to someone else.
Your life,your choice!
2007-12-27 11:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is the last three words of your long short story: assuming the failed relationships are his.
Do you want to be another statistic?
2007-12-27 11:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its ok to wait, but give him a time limit that is agreed by both of you and is reasonable. If he breaks this limit after agreeing to it, he is playing with you. If he does think that much of you he will do whatever needs to be done to be with you, and that includes sorting out his life when he says he will. Good luck.
2007-12-27 12:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mick J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you know what you want and what you is doing.. so you already have your answer, take your time and see where it leads babe..
2007-12-27 18:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by googoo!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got your eye on the new tv eh Jonesy
2007-12-27 13:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by tranka007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would wait, esp since he told his family about you, if it gets to like mid jan and he is making excuses, get rid. i hope you do get together and are happy
2007-12-27 11:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
and he may just be trying to get ur knickers down !!
2007-12-27 11:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by fozz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait...get to now each other...then get married....and then have a kid.
:)
2007-12-27 12:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by Magy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋