Like, I really haven't a boyfriend in a serious realationship in some years. I'm usually the one who breaks up all my realationships once, I get into them because the guys I usually date are jerks and I have no fling for them; I actually don't know why I don't give them a chance. I'm 19 and I have no boyfriend; it sucks because everyone in my family thinks I'm a geek who doesn't have a life or a boyfriend. I'm a beautiful girl and I'm not really ready for a boyfriend; is what I really want to tell them. It makes me feel kinda bad to see some of my sisters with boyfriends and hubsands. It's like they don't want to see me with a boyfriend or something. I even get the gay label sometimes because I hang out with my best friend Brittany so much, but I'm not gay. I hate it when people asks me, " Chloe where's your boyfriend at?" It's like a joke to them, but it's a serious matter to me. I tell them, " Oh, I don't have one." Like, how do I ignore what people say like this?
2007-12-27 02:49:06 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I care because I need a freaking boyfriend!
2007-12-27 02:53:33 · update #1
Some people are so fre8king rude!
2007-12-27 02:56:17 · update #2
Just be yourself and someone will see your beauty
2007-12-27 02:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by whatitisandwhatitwillbe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, do not let anyone pressure you into having a bf. Let me repeat, DO NOT LET ANYONE PRESSURE U INTO HAVING A BF!! The reason u do not have a bf is bc the right guy has not come across ur path yet. You definitely dont wana get into bad and wrong relationships just for the sake of pleasing ur friends bc then u will have to live with the bad effects of the disfunctional relationships, and those can last a long time. Also, beauty has nothing to do with being single. I'm pretty too and guys automatically assume that I have bf then when they find out im single, they are shocked. Of course i could take any jerk out there, but I deserve better than that, and i dont want to make the same big mistake over and over so im staying single until the right one comes along:) Lastly, there are girls much older than u, who are single too, so ignore ur friends rude comments. If anything, know that i support u:)
2007-12-27 02:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by mellisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 19 I wish I hadnt had a boyfriend, but I did, well a husband and child. Listen you are young, and that is a wonderful thing. If you want a boyfriend that is awesome go for it, but if not let who ever asks know that you are too busy and honestly too smart to let a man drag you down right now! So what if you and your BFF hang out, I would be more worried if you were a hermit. Enjoy your life before you tie it down with men and kids. I have been tied down since I was 17 and let me tell you I am 30 and feel like I am 50 most days.
2007-12-27 02:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by dreamsofanangel00 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even though your sisters are tied down, it doesn't mean you have to follow in their footsteps. I personally see it as a sign of independence and confidence when a women chooses to take periods of time to herself. You're 19, why would you want to have that obligation?
If you agree with what I just said, show it! Be proud that you know you don't want/need a man in your life right now. What I've said when I've been single for long periods of time is simply "I'm enjoying being by myself right now." Because it was the truth.
When that right guy comes along and you're ready to give it a shot, do it. If you're not ready, don't feel pressured.
2007-12-27 02:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Coffin33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, i'm 21 and have NEVER had anything serious with anyone at all!! At 19, i guess, you might be trying to "fit in" with the people around you (family and friends). Happens to everyone. And really, if you don't feel you're ready for it, then there may be no point in having one just for keepin's sake! Relax, you have a lot of stuff right now to build your life. Go along with it; who knows, you might find the right guy along the way!
2007-12-27 03:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by clumsy cuz m fallin' in... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot worry about what other people are saying...the important thing is their talking about you. You don't have a boyfriend because you know what you're looking for and until it comes your way you're not standing for any BS.
There are so many weak people that do have boy and/or girlfriends, they are planning for a wedding for 6 months send out invites realize the 11th hour they're not suited for each other for what ever reason, but people will say, but you send out invitations already, who cares...are you saying they have to make this series commitment because invitations have been sent...anyway you get my drift...Hang in there keep moving forward, the right guy will show up before you know it...Good Luck..
2007-12-27 02:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jovesash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, lol @ shenanigans!
but seriously- you seemed to have already answered your question. you said you are not ready for a boyfriend. don't feel bad if somebody else has a relationship. that's them. not you. don't worry what people call you. that's wasteful energy. ignoring people gives you more power over these people saying things to you. if you give them any energy, they get the power because you reacted and that is what they want. don't react. live your life the way you want to, and some day if it is appropriate then you will meet the right person at the right time. until then, continue on as you have been. it seems you are in the right place in this right time.--- don't worry, be happy. if you have food, friends, shelter, & warmth you're A-OK
2007-12-27 02:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by que otro hay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi, you just need time to find the right guy. As for people who ask you about this, tell them you don't want to date just anyone just because they are a man. Really now, you want to find a real nice guy who you click with, not just a warm body. That sort of thing means you wont date anyone with a cute face, they have to have a nice heart too.
I hope that helps. God bless. Please do not pay attention to the rude people. Do not let them win by getting you upset.
2007-12-27 03:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you, that's the best idea a girl can have. You don't need a boyfriend to sort out your life at the moment. Just ignore these people and carry on with you single-ness. Life is not meaningless without a boyfriend, okay, so just ignore the snide remarks.
2007-12-27 03:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by jarod_jared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to say things like this, but do they know how u feel? Let ur family know. Then maybe u could start being out of ur comfort zone. Like try new styles, etc. to make sure ppl see that U DO have a life. And start hanging with guys more often.
2007-12-27 02:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by achistayfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your question inside your question.
You aren't ready for a boyfriend.
If your friends and family can't see this, then you don't need to be around them as much.
You probably just graduated high school, are possibly in college.
You don't need a boyfriend to be 'normal' by your families standards. You need to go out and live life for all its worth without having to worry about 'oh can I date him?' running through your head.
Tell your family that you aren't interested in dating right now, you do see yourself with someone down the road, but you want to live life before you settle down and they should respect this.
2007-12-27 02:54:27 · answer #11 · answered by Patient Paws 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋