My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding. However, the invitation will say we request the honor of your presence along with our parents. When my sister got married, my parents got the RSVP's. However, they also paid for the wedding. Because we are paying for it, and they are just an honorable mention, should we still get them?
2007-12-27 02:46:07 · 16 answers · asked by Wendy G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you are doing the finnal count then you and your fiance get them
2007-12-27 02:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. You are thinking of programs for your local community theater, where those who sponsor at the $5K level get half a page and those who sponsor at the $50 level get 8 point font. Invitations to formal events don't work that way.
Who HOSTS an event and who PAYS for it are seperate issues. Polite sponsors aren't concerned about informing people that they paid for this or that -- or that other parties didn't pay. An invitation is properly issued by whoever is acting as host. Alternatively, the whole 'host' thing can be skipped and invitations issued in the passive voice, as in "The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of Gilda Grove, daughter of Gus and Gertie Grove to Oscar Orchard, son of ... etc"
If you are the bride or groom, that should be starring role enough for you. Don't try to also bill yourself as a host. The address on the RSVP cards is merely a matter of convenience and doesn't designate anyone as host, sponsor, or anything else -- other than convenient mail drop.
(IMO, RSVP cards are worse than useless in that they create many problems and solve none, while costing a pretty penny. My advice is always to do RSVP by phone.)
2007-12-27 11:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you're paying for everything, you're the ones who have to give your venue and caterer the final headcount. It will be much easier for you if people send the RSVPs directly to you. You need to have that information readily available.
My fiance and I are having the RSVPs sent to us. We're hosting and paying, and don't want to have to go through other family members to figure out who's coming.
2007-12-27 11:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the mom of the bride does it, because it's a stable home, and she usually has the time, and wants to do it as well.
However, you can have them addressed to you and your fiance, if you have time and the organizational ability to keep track of the rsvps well.
It has nothing to do with who is paying for the wedding... if you need help, maybe your mom will do it for you.
2007-12-28 07:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would want them returned to me anyway, so I could keep track of how many people are coming....especially when that number will effect the cost of the wedding.
2007-12-27 10:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever's paying for it get's the RSVP's.
2007-12-27 10:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Avelyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get them since you are the one paying for the wedding, you are the one that needs to know who is coming and who isn't
2007-12-27 10:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by s and d e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still get them, even though your parents are named on the invitation (which I think is a nice thing to do, BTW)
2007-12-27 11:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get them if you are planning your wedding. My fiancee and I plan to do the same thing and have them sent back to us because we are paying and planning everything.
2007-12-27 11:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should go to the one who is planning the wedding.
2007-12-27 10:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...the RSVP envelope should be addressed to you and your fiance...not your parents.
2007-12-27 12:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋