I don't have a MySpace account but I want invited to check out our neighbor's latest Christmas pictures so I decided to see if there was anyone I knew on there. Since my neice (15) said she had a MySpace last summer I looked her up and was shocked to see her in a provocative picture with a friend, and she's only wearing her bra and panties. Should I forward the picture to my sister (her mother)? If it were my daughter, I'd want to talk to her about how that picture might not be something she wants to whole world to see. She probably thinks only her friends view it, but I live several states away and I found it in seconds. A future college or employer could do the same. Advice? Keep my mouth shut? Tell my sister? Call my neice and say 'nice bra'?
2007-12-27 02:36:22 · 27 answers · asked by Beach Girl 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Cynthia, tell your sister. You know she'd want to know, and to deal with this promptly.
Be careful how to present it. Be full of concern rather than shocked or judgmental. (I'm sure your sister will provide plenty of that.)
2007-12-27 02:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 3⤋
Yes, PLEASE tell someone!! I believe at 15 that can be considered kiddie porn, and MYSpace should take it down. Pictures like that ruin lives, reputations, careers, relationships, etc. At 15, she has no idea what damage a photo like that can do, and she needs adult intervention to remove it.
I remember the controversy when Facebook had school administrators finding pictures of drunk students partying, and kicking them out of school! It happens, and it may come back to haunt her.
EDIT: If you are uncomfortable talking to her mother, you can go with the "nice bra" comment, or something like it, because maybe SHE doesn't realize how easy it is for people to see her photos! She may need a slap in the head to bring her to reality and realize that ANYONE can see her in her bra- you, family members, strangers, perverts, the police? That may embarrass her and make her take it down. Besides, sorry to say, but a 15 year old that is ok with her friends seeing her in her underwear, may also be sexually promiscuous. I see no other reason to show 15 year boys photos of her in her panties.
2007-12-27 11:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Dig It 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well. yOu really only have 2 options. You either narc on her to her mom or you do the "nice bra" thing. If you have a pretty decent relationship with her, that might be the road. If not, then you need to tell your sister and let her handle it. I have a feeling sister is clueless as to her child's activity
2007-12-27 18:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 5 nieces, all under the age of 15 and if I were the one that ran across one of them on their My Space and she was dressed like that, my first phone call would be to her mother. Not only is that crazy, but dangerous, especially in this day and age, internet predators and the like.
I know your niece thinks she's being grown up and sexy by doing this, but it's not the kind of attention she's looking for, I would talk to her and explain why you think that picture is dangerous, if she doesn't remove it or change it, tell her mother, but don't give her time to change her username.
2007-12-27 10:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
For your neice's sake (there's a lot of sickos in the world) I would tell her mother, especially since her mother is your sister! When speaking with your sister I would emphasize that you felt you should say something for your neice's safety, because of all the wackos in the world today. Any mother would and should appreciate that and hopefully she'll make her take the picture down or at least make the photos private!!
2007-12-27 10:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 10⤊ 2⤋
i think u should inform her mother because her behavior isnt appropriate at all. if u call her and say nice bra (which i will admit would be hysterical since she will probably piss herself) she may just change the privacy settings so people not on her list cant see it but all the people she adds as friends and whatever can still see her in her undies. just think if she were your daughter...would u want ur sister to tell u that ur daughter is half naked on the web for the world to see or would u rather not know..i think ud want to know. ur niece obviously thinks its not going to get around but since u found it instantly that means her school, future employeers and every one can see it too...both my jobs actually check facebook and myspace and what u have on there can keep u from getting the job. slutty pictures, drug or alcohol images or referances, even using vulgar language can affect u. for her safety dont sit back and do nothing!!
2007-12-27 10:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by jennybean7985 5 · 7⤊ 3⤋
call your neice, and tell her how you feel - also a 15 year old needs to mark their myspace private, only people who are accepted as a freind can read/view their spot.
confront her directly, as at her age, going behind her back would be hurtful and cause drama.
2007-12-27 12:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by sherman supporter 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely tell your sister! Personally, I have a MySpace account just to "keep an eye" on my children. They are on my list of MySpace friends and I've found this accomplishes two things. First, I'm able to actually see what they are saying and doing on there, and second, It allows me to see what things they are thinking about, how they feel and what's going on in their lives. In this day and age, where families don't spend a great deal of time together, it's a great way to stay involved. Now as to the content of that photo, I would definitely have a discussion with my daughter about it. Chances are that the photo was meant as a bit of "fun", but it definitely shouldn't be there. Hopefully your sister will choose to have a frank discussion concerning the dangers of such actions.
2007-12-27 10:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by PitaBoy 2 · 6⤊ 5⤋
You should definitely tell your sister. Even if the pic is only for her friends to view, there still should not be pictures of her half naked on the internet. That could lead to something very serious, (internet perves, etc.), and I'm sure the mother would like to know of that misbehavior. I would stop it before something bad could possibly happen. That type of behavior is absolutely unacceptable, no matter what age (but especially for such a young girl).
2007-12-27 10:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by erica0129 4 · 6⤊ 3⤋
So many young kids fall into this trap !
tell her to take it off the site. It won't be good for her future and she should be told why.
So many people say too much about themselves on Face Book and other social network sites. There have been warnings about criminals stealing identities. Its not only what you tell about yourself but what your loose tongued friends may do.
2007-12-27 11:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'd be tempted to go with the "nice bra" comment with some sage peices of advice that you would give to another young adult. The idea here is to teach her/open her eyes to the problems that she could encounter, but treating her as an adult. If you tell your sister, it will come off (most likely) as you "ratting" on her and just reinforce any rebellious fellings that she may have.
Treating her as an adult, may help to get the point across, and then you can let your sister know later, if it doesn't work the first way.
2007-12-27 10:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 5⤊ 4⤋